Dreamrunner Posted March 21, 2004 Share Posted March 21, 2004 This a bit lengthy, so please bear with me. My gf (we'll call her Jessica) and I have been together for the last 4 years. We met during our first year of university together, and for both of us was the first and only serious relationship we've ever been in. During the first 3 years, everything was great and we were seriously talking about marraige. It was one of those relationships where she was my one and everything, and that I'd do anything to make her happy. Then in January of last year, a week after our 3 year anniversary she wanted a break, and a month after that, we broke up. I spent the next 4 months trying to get back together, but to no avail, and the next 6 wallowing in my own misery. As Donkey would say, she cut me real deep. In October, I finally pulled myself together and moved on. We still remained friends, because we were friends before we started dating and didn't want to lose that. I then met this girl (we'll call her Kate) and we started to see each other, but nothing physical. I gained my confidence and self esteem back (which was pretty low to begin with), and was just beginning to really enjoy being single again. And I noticed that Jessica was really jealous whenever I had made plans with Kate. Then one day, she told me that she realized she still loved me deeply and that breaking up with me was a huge mistake. I told her that she hurt me deeply and that I didn't want anything serious with anyone at the time. So I continued to see the Kate and Jessica continued to be jealous. Anyways, I spent one night together with Kate, and it didn't feel right at all. And I think that's when I realized I still had feelings for Jessica. I told Kate that I still had these feelings, which she completely understood. And I got back together with Jessica. Things were fantastic for the first few months. And I truely felt that our relationship was never better. I can still see myself being happy with Jessica for the rest of my life. But recently, I find myself tempted by other women. It's like the more I love Jessica, the more restless the demons within become. And I have to ask: is this normal? Is this just because I'm only 23 yrs old, filled with hormones, and only been in one relationship? Has anyone else gone through this? I feel I have to resolve these feelings one way or another because it's not fair to me or the Jessica if I don't. Link to post Share on other sites
kittykat Posted March 29, 2004 Share Posted March 29, 2004 I think that you are a person and we are all tempted by others and ther is nothing wrong with that. Just don't act on it. We all have demons within us and that will never change.You need to make sure that you can control those monsters and you will do just fine. If you two were apart and then back together then I would stay where you are. However, I would suggest that you proceed with caution till your feelings are 100% secure Take care and good luck ................from kittykat Link to post Share on other sites
cutiebabe Posted March 30, 2004 Share Posted March 30, 2004 I agree somewhat with kittykat. I believe its perfectly natural for everyone to see whats on offer. As they say "you can read the menu but just dont order". "jessica" is probably thinking the same.Because everyone will have a look at someone else they see and be attracted to them, that doesnt mean that you're being unfaithful. If you say you love her, mean it. If she says it back, believe it! "Dance like no1's watching, Sing like no1's listening and Love like you've never been hurt." Link to post Share on other sites
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