purple pickles Posted August 10, 2000 Share Posted August 10, 2000 I recently decided that I really would rather not have a boyfriend after a few bad experiences and about a year without going out with anyone. Now that I feel this way, the guy that i used to like that turned me down and two of my other guy friends like me and I don't know what to do. I have said I'm not interested in a boyfriend but it doesn't seem to sink in. I really don't want to hurt any of them but the only guy that I would even consider being interested in is scared of me cause I am too forward. WHAT SHOULD I DO? HELP ME! email me at <e-mail address removed> with any really good suggestions im begging you. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 10, 2000 Share Posted August 10, 2000 Stick with your pledge. Don't have a boyfriend for a while. Go out with all these guys, have a good time, and keep it fun. You'll have some time to recoil after those unpleasant experiences and you'll still be able to enjoy male companionship. If any of these guys start getting serious after you sternly warn them, then stop seeing those. I think a year is a bit long but I think some time off to be alone and get to know oneself and to smell the roses is very healthy. Do it!!! Link to post Share on other sites
purple pickles Posted August 10, 2000 Share Posted August 10, 2000 thats what ive been trying to do and i have a LOT of really close guy friends that know where i stand and that helps but some just dont get it..........thanks for your advice tho Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 10, 2000 Share Posted August 10, 2000 If you will read over my original post again, you will see that I suggested you break away from those who don't get it...the guys who don't have respect for what you are doing in your life at present. Just stay away from them!!! Link to post Share on other sites
purple pickles Posted August 10, 2000 Share Posted August 10, 2000 I would but its not as easy around here....i live in a VERY small town.......... everyone around here is very close knit and all the girls have gone out with all the other guys ..... and everyone knows and is friends with everyone else... you cant get away from them.....plus im supposed to go camping tomorrow night....the guy is going to be there.....over night ....next to me..... Link to post Share on other sites
Cat Posted August 22, 2000 Share Posted August 22, 2000 I'm not sure it is a good idea to go out with any of them individually. I believe the best thing is too keep going out with them with the rest of your friends. But if you don't want do date any of them, then don't do it. When it comes to the other people that don't understand, I guess the only choice is playing it cool. If they ask you why you don't go out with A or B, say something like "I don't think so", and change the subject. Dont try to explain why. It's of no use. I don't know if this helps, It's just what I did when I had the same problem you have. Don't let them drive you mad with anything like that. I hope things went well in the camping trip with THE guy... Link to post Share on other sites
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