rutesperanza Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 Four years ago I broke up with the only guy I've ever loved. He has started acting distant, his mom disliked me and he would not stand up for me...and I walked up on him giving his number to another girl...this was after a 2 year perfect relationship! I moved out and cut all contact competely...he did the same. Now its been 4 years...I have dated others, but I never have gotten past comparing them to him etc. Anything that triggers a reminder of him makes me realize how much I miss him and care for him. About a week ago, (His birthday) he asked me via text to meet him for a beer...I had to go...he was drinking. He told me how much he missed me, and then was like " I still love you, I do no matter what I try" He kept saying things like "why did we break up? I was very nice and responsive, however I didn't pour out my heart and tell him the same. He asked if we could see each other again and I said ok. He was flying to LA the next day (he plays music). I have not heard from him since...I overanalyze alot, but what do you guys think??? Was he legitimate or was it just alcohol?? AND did I screw up by playing it cool? I think if it was true, he will contact me to see me. Link to post Share on other sites
PowerOfOne Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 Four years is a long time. So much can happen and people can change/mature quite a bit. You did the right thing by playing it cool though. It can be hard to judge people when they've been drinking. For some it just lets out what has been on their mind, or what they've buried down deep. For others it invents emotions or brings back the emotions that were there when you were together. Emotions that won't be there in the morning... Wait a week after he gets back in town and chase up if he still wants to meet. If you've waited 4 years a week won't be much. Be prepared for a 'man i was wasted that night, don't take anything i said seriously' though. Link to post Share on other sites
Byren Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 I think PowerOfOne has pretty much got this nailed. People do change over time, and he's hopefully had the time to correct all of the mistakes he made with you. I'd give this guy another chance, at least meet up and talk about what you guys have been up to etc and see if that spark is still there. It's lovely that you guys still feel the love for each other after all of this time apart! Link to post Share on other sites
Oscar Wilde Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 Hi Ruth! totally agree with Byren, meet up and talk, then you can decide. Bests regards! Oscar. Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted January 22, 2011 Share Posted January 22, 2011 yikes. did that person know you above:rolleyes: anyway. yes meet him, i think in a public place, if he contacts you. please update us. Link to post Share on other sites
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