Will I get another chance? =[

[gator12]

Well this is my first post on the site, i've been reading on here for about a month and I've finally decided to join. Ok, well I'll guess I'll give some background on my breakup. Im sorry for the length PLEASE PLEASE READ

 

Dated my girlfriend for all about 8th months together. We were teetering on the place between boyfriend and girlfriend for probably 6 months before that. Anyways, the relationship was a really good one. I'm not going to idolize it, we had some fights and disagreements but we were geniunely happy together. Our biggest fights were actually about my ex because she was a friend of mine, but this was my ex from 2 and a half years ago. We were in love with each other and were just really compatible. I was her first and we eneded up talking about getting married and spending our lives together far enough into the relationship. When it was good, it was really good. I loved her so much.

 

So probably a month before the breakup we had a bit of a rough patch and fought a little more than we usually did, and ultimately it ended up with us breaking up. The breakup last for probably about a week, I went NC immediately after she did and, and she came back, the night of her homecomine. Saying that as she saw the couples out there dancing "all she could see was us." After a serious talk the next day (I drove back from school just for the day so we could have this talk) we got back together. Well the next month went pretty well, I was putting way more effort than I had before.

 

Things weren't perfect but they were better. Well anyways, I kind of started noticing her getting a little distant I guess towards the last two weeks of our relationship and she was talking a lot more to her best guy friend. (note, he was the only guy in her friends who knew we had sex the rest of her friends wouldn't have understood - and against my best judgement I was "okay" with it when she told me she told him) And ultimately she kind of repeated the process of our first breakup, and as I was fighting it she dropped the bomb of cheating on me.

 

For some reason, I wasn't that upset when she told me that, somehow my gut had already told me that. Anyways we didn';t break up that night, but we talked when I came back from school (Thanksgiving break) and we gonna give it another try. Now I was a little distant that week at times because of the whole cheating thing hitting me I guess but I still loved her and wanted to keep trying. Well the last day went really well, me and her hanging out with her family and watching the Gator game with some of my friends there too. Anyways they left and I stayed until about 10 and I could tell she had something on her mind. And basically she "half broke up with me" that night. She never said the words but she beat around it enough and then as I left and got back to college I sent her a text to let her know I was safe. (she worries) and then she says "I'm Sorry", I say no you're not, and we fight about it (dumb I know) and eventually she says good night I'll talk to you about this tomorrow (she had school the next day so I didn't really blame her). Anyways point is I didnt initiate contact after that because I was going straight NC you know best odds for everything moving on or getting back together.

 

Well Anyways

She broke the NC a week later, saying something about this scholarship she got to the school she really wants to go to. Of course like an idiot I bit. (I wasn't planning on it turning into more than an I'm proud of you but we ended up talking again.) She said she wasn't sure of things and just wanted some time apart and still wanted me in her life. I didn't want that of course, but like an idiot I let my emotions take over. And went the kind of friends route, and I tryed tos how her all the stuff I was changing and I really was. anyways 2 weeks of her initiating all contact I went back to town for Winter Break. I wasn't planning on seeing her except to give her, the christmas present I had had for like 3 months. We ended up seeing each other twice. The first time I gave her her present, It was a promise ring and a toy transformer (inside joke) and A note I wroe and she genuinely loved it. And Idk we were holding hands and all that stuff. Then I saw her one last time for Christmas eve, a big problem (her mom read my note, and though it didn't say we had sex she knew I spent the night at her daughter's house so now she's of course pissed of at me and she'sa very controlling woman. Basically it ended with me talking about getting back together with my girlfriend and after she found out what her mom knew she was like "now we'll never get back together" and then she was like I dont love you like that anymore but I don't want to lose you.

 

Basically after that I went straight no contact. 3 weeks went by, I was actually pretty moved on. Then she sends me a text about the ring I got her, just asking about the warranty I got with it since the lady couldn't find it on the computer and she was getting resized. I replied, but short and straight to the point replies. Now 1 week later 1 month of NC so far.

 

My question lol, finally I know, thank you so much for reading this far. I'm getting to the point of moving on, but out of curiousity what chance do you guys think I have of her coming back at some point down the road? I know she may never and I've accepted that but what do you guys think? And why would she be getting my ring resized if she basically broke up the meaning of thr ring?

[badshayshay]

this one is really really complicated, I have a little experience with it. I think that this girl might worry that she can't find anyone else, or she is having a hard time getting over you. I would say you have a 50% chance of getting back together with her, but from what it sounds like, it doesn't seem like the relationship would be as good as it use to be. Good luck and hope it all works out for you

[gator12]

yea, I'm at the point now, 2 months after the break up where I've accepted she may never come back. But of course the love is still there so I'm always gonna want her too even though I've moved on for the most part. I've had a lot of time to think about the relationship, and I know it'd be hard to make it work, and she'd have to show me that she really wants it before I'd even consider getting back together. But if we ever got to that point, I'd give it my all the second go around.