justsam Posted March 1, 2011 Share Posted March 1, 2011 Let me applaud you bro because it takes guts to do what you have done. Like you, I have no tolerance with this sort of behavior. To think that you could ever love someone the same way is totally ridiculous. No offense to those who have successfully reconciled, but that **** doesn't work for me after such a betrayal. Again, like you, her parents tried to talk me into reconciling with her. "Are you ****ing serious!" I can comprehend that they see their daughter "supposedly" hurting, but to try and guilt me into getting back with her is total bull****. Props to you and your way of dealing with this. Link to post Share on other sites
TMCM Posted March 1, 2011 Share Posted March 1, 2011 Why is everyone telling him to not date until the divorce? Depending on the state/country, he may be required to wait a year for a divorce to be final. He should take some time to regroup, but he didn't jump the neighbor lady nor did he say she was married. No harm in being neighborly No one is telling him, we are suggesting to him (big difference you know) that he should consider healing himself emotionally first before jumping into another relationship. His pain is because he still has some love left for his STBXW. He is vulnerable and he would be wise to protect his heart from his emotions getting the best of him. Dating so soon may be like playing with fire. In the end he will make the choices he deems best for him and hopefully they'll be wise ones. Link to post Share on other sites
2long Posted March 1, 2011 Share Posted March 1, 2011 Again I have to ask, how do you know what kind of "love" his soon to be ex wife had with the guy she had an affair with? How do you know it was "true love" with the dude? And then you state that she had a WTF moment and now has decided she wants to stay married? I see it more as if she is trying to do damage control and not have her reputation as a cheater found out. Fooled: I don't know what 2 say! I think you've so completely misunders2d what I was saying in those posts that I can't think of where 2 start. Congra2lations! I'm flabbergasted (and it takes a lot 2 gast my flabber!) Peace, tranquility 2 you. -ol' 2long Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted March 1, 2011 Share Posted March 1, 2011 ...Even Max my dog knew to stay the hell away from me. Left me a note on the couch. It said I'm sorry... Your dog left you a note??? God, things are really getting weird! Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 1, 2011 Share Posted March 1, 2011 No no no. I only told her the divorce is getting finalized. She was beaming the whole time I was talking. Ya, that isn't my intention. I think I will let her know that from the start after the ink is dry. Just want something casual, you know. Ok, tell us, is she freaking fricken HOT and has an ass that just won't quit?!? Draw us a picture if you gotta! Oh yeah, I can tell, she wants to Ride you, all night long! BOW CHICKA BOW WOW! Link to post Share on other sites
TMCM Posted March 2, 2011 Share Posted March 2, 2011 Ok, tell us, is she freaking fricken HOT and has an ass that just won't quit?!? Draw us a picture if you gotta! Oh yeah, I can tell, she wants to Ride you, all night long! BOW CHICKA BOW WOW! Darth Vader or Chad Vader? Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 2, 2011 Share Posted March 2, 2011 Darth Vader or Chad Vader? Ok, I'll bite (so to speak:rolleyes:), I am missing something? Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 2, 2011 Share Posted March 2, 2011 (edited) Ya, she's pretty good-looking and her ass is crazy. Ya, it will come to that eventually. Pics, you gotta show some pics of her (clothed, I mean), If I don't say that people will talk! Besides, Loveshack wouldn't let us get that Lucky, now would they? Some guys have all the fun! Anyway, how's everything going on the Divorce front? BTW, you realize when the HEX, and I really do mean the HEX, gets wind of little miss cute hottie with the hot body and ass that just moved in next door, she's going to go absolutely NUCLEAR! Expect it! Make sure the next door hottie keeps it in her pants until after the "all-clear" siren! Edited March 2, 2011 by Darth Vader Link to post Share on other sites
heartshaped Posted March 2, 2011 Share Posted March 2, 2011 JC, how are you doing emotionally OP? Are things starting to get better for you or are you still in extreme anger mode? Are you considering doing any counseling after this? Link to post Share on other sites
2long Posted March 2, 2011 Share Posted March 2, 2011 Not, Darth: I know you guys are just kidding and all, but do be careful, Not. Getting involved with the neighbor "2 casually" or 2 quickly could backfire in a whole lot of fathomable ways. With someone not nearby, that wouldn't be a big deal, but what if the R went sour and you still had 2 see each other every day because of your mortgages? I'm not sayin', I'm just sayin. -ol' 2long Link to post Share on other sites
heartshaped Posted March 2, 2011 Share Posted March 2, 2011 I'm fine. I'm still mad about it but I'm trying to put this behind me. I don't know if I really need counseling or not. Still pondering on that. I'd say if you don't think it's something that will effect you or your future relationships then don't, but some people, a lot of people, become understandably bitter. I've been cheated on and I will say you do seem to be handling it pretty well all things considered. Me- I destroyed 90% of his stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 2, 2011 Share Posted March 2, 2011 (edited) Not, Darth: I know you guys are just kidding and all, but do be careful, Not. Getting involved with the neighbor "2 casually" or 2 quickly could backfire in a whole lot of fathomable ways. With someone not nearby, that wouldn't be a big deal, but what if the R went sour and you still had 2 see each other every day because of your mortgages? I'm not sayin', I'm just sayin. -ol' 2long Good point, although notagame can't see how.......... In the very least, he should tread lightly, he doesn't want an instant replay of his wife! That's why he should get IC to find out why he married a cheater, perhaps he had a parent that cheated, girlfriends that cheated, heck, none of those things may have happened, his HEX may just be bad! In any case, he wants to prevent this from happening again! Edited March 2, 2011 by Darth Vader Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 2, 2011 Share Posted March 2, 2011 I'd say if you don't think it's something that will effect you or your future relationships then don't, but some people, a lot of people, become understandably bitter. I've been cheated on and I will say you do seem to be handling it pretty well all things considered. Me- I destroyed 90% of his stuff. NO!(gasp) Say it aint so! Little ole you? Link to post Share on other sites
2long Posted March 2, 2011 Share Posted March 2, 2011 I'd say if you don't think it's something that will effect you or your future relationships then don't, but some people, a lot of people, become understandably bitter. I've been cheated on and I will say you do seem to be handling it pretty well all things considered. Me- I destroyed 90% of his stuff. There was a BW on MB many years ago who's WH had the audacity 2 ask her if she would bring his possessions (clothes, furni2re, computer) over 2 his OW's house where he was living. So, she complied... ...she rented a dump truck, loaded his stuff in the back, and dumped it on the OW's driveway while he was at work. A lot of stuff got broken, and she ended up having 2 pay for the damages, but she said it was well worth it just 2 hear how he reacted when he got 'home'. -ol' 2long Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 There was a BW on MB many years ago who's WH had the audacity 2 ask her if she would bring his possessions (clothes, furni2re, computer) over 2 his OW's house where he was living. So, she complied... ...she rented a dump truck, loaded his stuff in the back, and dumped it on the OW's driveway while he was at work. A lot of stuff got broken, and she ended up having 2 pay for the damages, but she said it was well worth it just 2 hear how he reacted when he got 'home'. -ol' 2long There's some things you just can't buy with money! Link to post Share on other sites
neveragain1 Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 So I'm taking my first krav maga class tomorrow. So excited about that. I have studied martial arts since I was 19. I have alot of respect for krav maga and got to sit in on a session once. its a tried and true style because they have to actually defend themselves against terrorists. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted March 5, 2011 Share Posted March 5, 2011 So I'm taking my first krav maga class tomorrow. So excited about that. And I saw my neighbor this evening. Again.:cool:We saw each other and said hello. She invited me for dinner on Saturday to get to know each other better. I declined kindly even though my groin was telling me to accept her invitation. She told me I can always come over to chit-chat if I want to. I told her thanks then went in my house. Boy do I want to grab her up and give it to her. She wants me and knows I want her. The attraction is there and it is strong. It's been a while since I had an Official Release but I guess I can hold off for a couple more weeks. Maybe we'll have sex a few days before I'm due in court. It's wise to hold off, at least until you're fully Divorced, yeah, I know I know, you want her to straddle you and ride you, and then the STBX comes over at just the right time and hears the commotion! Timing's everything my friend! Link to post Share on other sites
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