Binster Posted January 30, 2011 Share Posted January 30, 2011 Maybe you are and just dont know it. Many are. Link to post Share on other sites
JaneyAmazed Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Maybe you are and just dont know it. Many are. yeah, ok Link to post Share on other sites
kevinm1019 Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Yesterday I heard my wife on the phone talking nasty with someone else. I grilled the **** out of her after she tried to lie her way out of it. Told me she only ****ed him once but I didn't believe her and took her phone and looked at it. I find out she's been ****ing with him for almost a year. I broke her phone and told her off then left the house. All I gotta say is that I hate her and I feel so sick thinking about another male in her pussy. She's damaged to me now. I'm sorry you are experiencing this pain and are going through this discovery. I will be honest with you... your emotions will be all over the board and you will experience intense feelings of anger, confusion, etc. Going to the gym and work are good starts to changing your mindset so you can have some relief for yourself. When you feel down, challenged or angered... call someone close to you who will listen to you and not fuel your negative emotions because that will complicate things. The best thing to do is keep no contact with your wife until you feel you can sit down with her or speak with her on any level. Protect yourself and prepare for your future whether you divorce or you decide to try to figure things out with her. If you do decide to work through it with her... draw your line and the sand, establish your boundaries and make sure she is completely transparent, allow her actions to dictate her intent and make sure any actions directed towards the other male are in your presence or with you present... whether the communication is verbal, written, in person or whatever... and as someone else said... this is about "your wife" and her not honoring your marriage or honoring herself as a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Windsurf66 Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 Give it time. You will have to wiegh out everything. Is she worth keeping? Is this the first time she has done this? Is she remorseful? None of these answers will come to you today...or tomorrow even for that matter. You will need time and lots of it. Lets be crystal clear about this. A whore who has been riding and suck her OM's c*ck for a year (not a 1 time off thing), and who was caught (did not admit it herself), is neither worth keeping nor is she remorseful. She was only sorry that she got caught dun be naive Link to post Share on other sites
Lance22 Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 notagame, I'm going through exactly the same at the moment, albeit in slightly different circumstances which don't matter. The pain is exactly the same. Oddly I didnt feel the anger you have just a lot of pain. We've been to a councellor to see if anything is salvagable but I'm pretty sure it's not. It sucks completely. I went to my Doctor and got a weeks course of Valium and it takes the edge off but you can still think rationally. Of course thats not the final solution but probably better than getting drunk and gives you time to think with less emotion. Speak to all the friends and family you are comfortable with, it helps. You will need help getting over this. The worst part of the day for me is waking up in the morning where there is a split second when the world is ok and then it all comes rushing back. I wish you all the best. Stay strong and look after yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
pkn06002 Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 First off not excusing what she did. So with that disclaimer out of the way. This comment is interesting and makes me want to ask a question. All I gotta say is that I hate her and I feel so sick thinking about another male in her pussy. She's damaged to me now. Was she a virgin when you meet her? Link to post Share on other sites
Mimolicious Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 he can abandon the house, it doesn't give up his share in the equity. If he divorces and she wants the house, she'll owe him half of the equity in it. All depends on the state that he lives at. Contact an attorney or do some research yourself. I know that you are angry and I know how you are feeling my friend, but cool off a bit. Trust me, life has a way of getting even and one day you will be past all this. Get tested for STD too. Wish you luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Mimolicious Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 First off not excusing what she did. So with that disclaimer out of the way. This comment is interesting and makes me want to ask a question. Was she a virgin when you meet her?[/QUOTE] What commitment did she have to him when she met him? Whatever she did in the past (as a single woman) has nothing to do to what she is doing to her marriage. What's your point? Link to post Share on other sites
pkn06002 Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 First off not excusing what she did. So with that disclaimer out of the way. This comment is interesting and makes me want to ask a question. Was she a virgin when you meet her?[/QUOTE] What commitment did she have to him when she met him? Whatever she did in the past (as a single woman) has nothing to do to what she is doing to her marriage. What's your point? The point is the focus of that comment is irrelevant if she was not a virgin when he meet her. Since if she was not then someone else had already been there and he was OK with it then, she was not considered "tainted" then. If he got past her being "tainted" before why not try and work through it like lots of other couples have. Link to post Share on other sites
fltc Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 If he got past her being "tainted" before why not try and work through it like lots of other couples have. Because he can never ever trust her again. Link to post Share on other sites
pkn06002 Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 Because he can never ever trust her again. That is a different focus then she is "tainted". Look simple question to a comment by the OP, nothing more. Link to post Share on other sites
FryFish Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 There is a huge difference between another guy being in her before they were together and another guy being in her after they got married. The latter is just disgusting. And she ****ed this guy for a YEAR! Only a complete chump would want to "work through" it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author notagame Posted February 2, 2011 Author Share Posted February 2, 2011 I'm sorry you are experiencing this pain and are going through this discovery. I will be honest with you... your emotions will be all over the board and you will experience intense feelings of anger, confusion, etc. Going to the gym and work are good starts to changing your mindset so you can have some relief for yourself. When you feel down, challenged or angered... call someone close to you who will listen to you and not fuel your negative emotions because that will complicate things. The best thing to do is keep no contact with your wife until you feel you can sit down with her or speak with her on any level. Protect yourself and prepare for your future whether you divorce or you decide to try to figure things out with her. If you do decide to work through it with her... draw your line and the sand, establish your boundaries and make sure she is completely transparent, allow her actions to dictate her intent and make sure any actions directed towards the other male are in your presence or with you present... whether the communication is verbal, written, in person or whatever... and as someone else said... this is about "your wife" and her not honoring your marriage or honoring herself as a woman. Thanks. This is stressing but just so you know the papers have already been filed. She's shown me all that I need to know, which is that she's not someone I want for the rest of my life. There's no turning back now. I must get rid of her. She hasn't honored our marriage in a long time so no need for me to stay in a marriage where she is going to do this. She's probably screwing him now. I hate her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author notagame Posted February 2, 2011 Author Share Posted February 2, 2011 notagame, I'm going through exactly the same at the moment, albeit in slightly different circumstances which don't matter. The pain is exactly the same. Oddly I didnt feel the anger you have just a lot of pain. We've been to a councellor to see if anything is salvagable but I'm pretty sure it's not. It sucks completely. I went to my Doctor and got a weeks course of Valium and it takes the edge off but you can still think rationally. Of course thats not the final solution but probably better than getting drunk and gives you time to think with less emotion. Speak to all the friends and family you are comfortable with, it helps. You will need help getting over this. The worst part of the day for me is waking up in the morning where there is a split second when the world is ok and then it all comes rushing back. I wish you all the best. Stay strong and look after yourself. Thanks Lance. I'm going through pain also. I know how it feels to wake up thinking everything's alright then you come back to reality. Link to post Share on other sites
Author notagame Posted February 2, 2011 Author Share Posted February 2, 2011 (edited) First off not excusing what she did. So with that disclaimer out of the way. This comment is interesting and makes me want to ask a question. Was she a virgin when you meet her? No. And there have been recent posts on my thread that states why I feel she is tainted and why I will not reconcile with her. I'm sorry if you feel me saying she's tainted is irrelevant, but so is your input. Edited February 2, 2011 by notagame Link to post Share on other sites
Author notagame Posted February 7, 2011 Author Share Posted February 7, 2011 I'm driving everyone away from me because I'm upset. I deleted all of my family member's numbers and me and my friend got into a big argument over me so I told him off in his face then went home to scream. I said some hurtful things to him that I should've never said but honestly I'm too angry to really care. I realize what I'm doing is irrational but I'm so angry. Sometimes I even think about cheating and killing myself too. I think about dark things. I'm in a dark place right now. And the rain outside my home only fuels my mood. Sounds messed up doesn't it? Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 I'm driving everyone away from me because I'm upset. I deleted all of my family member's numbers and me and my friend got into a big argument over me so I told him off in his face then went home to scream. I said some hurtful things to him that I should've never said but honestly I'm too angry to really care. I realize what I'm doing is irrational but I'm so angry. Sometimes I even think about cheating and killing myself too. I think about dark things. I'm in a dark place right now. And the rain outside my home only fuels my mood. Sounds messed up doesn't it? Sounds like depression. Have you seen your doctor? Maybe it is time for a little help. Link to post Share on other sites
Author notagame Posted February 7, 2011 Author Share Posted February 7, 2011 Sounds like depression. Have you seen your doctor? Maybe it is time for a little help. I'm supposed to see him next week. That's if I can even make it to next week. Link to post Share on other sites
FryFish Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 You will make it man. You need to show your ex that you are better without her! Link to post Share on other sites
Mimolicious Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 Because he can never ever trust her again. That's not my quote... not sure why it quoted like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author notagame Posted February 8, 2011 Author Share Posted February 8, 2011 Anyone else knows how I feel? Link to post Share on other sites
alexandria35 Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 I'm driving everyone away from me because I'm upset. I deleted all of my family member's numbers and me and my friend got into a big argument over me so I told him off in his face then went home to scream. I said some hurtful things to him that I should've never said but honestly I'm too angry to really care. I realize what I'm doing is irrational but I'm so angry. Sometimes I even think about cheating and killing myself too. I think about dark things. I'm in a dark place right now. And the rain outside my home only fuels my mood. Sounds messed up doesn't it? Hey how are you feeling today? Please try to stay calm and rational. I promise that one day you will look back at this and feel nothing but indifference. Nobody is worth hurting yourself over. I know that sounds cliche but this pain and anger will pass and you will be okay, honest you will. Try not to push away the people that care about you, this is not the time to become isolated and alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author notagame Posted February 8, 2011 Author Share Posted February 8, 2011 Hey how are you feeling today? Please try to stay calm and rational. I promise that one day you will look back at this and feel nothing but indifference. Nobody is worth hurting yourself over. I know that sounds cliche but this pain and anger will pass and you will be okay, honest you will. Try not to push away the people that care about you, this is not the time to become isolated and alone. Thanks Alexandria35. I don't feel good today. I had a bad dream about me and wife so I can't sleep. This pain hurts. I relied on her a lot and told her things I wouldn't tell no one else. Now I realize that meant nothing to her. Anyway thanks again for your advice, I really appreciate it. Link to post Share on other sites
fltc Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 The rain will stop, the sun will shine again. You WILL get over this but it'll take time. When you see your doctor ask him to recommend someone you can talk to, someone who can help you along the road to recovery. Link to post Share on other sites
kuma Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 I agree with others that you should seek support from your family and friends. You need their support. It's very important to your recovery. Link to post Share on other sites
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