Chir of Down Under Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 Hi Anyone, My wife & I have been together fo 14 years, have two beautiful sons and have been married for 4 years. I thought everything was well not perfect but I both thought we were working toards a common goal. We moved interstate 2 years ago for my work and she never really settled. The kids were in private scholl, we lived 1 mile from the beach, we lived in a beautiful house and she had started university to become the nurse she always wanted to be. After uni finished for the year things went down hill. She was disagnosed with depression & I was away a lot with work & wasn't really there for her. She never really reached out to me though. Anyway one day she turns around and says "she's no longer in love with me." My first reaction was to beg, offer to go home immediately etc etc. She decided we should stay for another 12 months and transfer back to our home town methodolically but as soon as I took Xmas holidays things deteriorated even though everything she said I needed to do to change I did. Now she & the boys have been home for two weeks whilst I am stuck up here working out the logistics of getting home and she has offered no support or shows any sign that she wants this to work out. Dhe is now seeing a councillor for her depression and has committed to seeing a marriage councillor when I return but there doesn't seem much fight in her. Some of things she said on the way out cut to the bone like "hooking up too young", "not experiencing enough in life", "maybe we weren't meant to spend our whole lives together", "I want to be with other men". I try not to pressure her but feel so alone, anxious, angry & useless. Can anyone offer any advise??? Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 I want to be with other men". I would guess she already is...... Sorry but unless she wants your marriage to work it is a one-way-street. Link to post Share on other sites
2010_Sorry Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 I'm so sorry, but it seems that she most definitely is having an affair. She is probably experiencing depression because she is torn between you and her new fling. Link to post Share on other sites
clumsiest Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 I think this could also just be a case of her wanting to experience more, in general. I have felt this way in relationships but I generally always came back. Or rather, it took a split to make me realize I wanted him back. Granted, by that time he was pretty sure he didn't want me back. Link to post Share on other sites
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