Slowing Down Mixed up Confusion!

[Kiingsara]

Alright, so I have just started dating this guy that really has been interested in me. He just met me, we just got to know each other a few weeks ago. He was telling me how much he wants me to be his girlfriend, and I said for him to "hold the phone" and wait a few dates before he starts going there. Problem is, on the first date, it went so well, the impulses were extremely high, so we instantly clicked and became incredibly intimate. I didn't know what to think, I felt like I was the star of the movie "L'Amant ('The Lover' in English)" if you have seen that... but anyway, my point is... I have told him to slow down, and we have been intimate on our first few times together, and I know, the guy is real stuff, true to his words and he really does like me. I can just read him like a book. Corny, I know. I just told him today that he needs to stop resorting to sex, and that can't be the only reason he wants to see me, and it's being a little ridiculous since the physical aspect seems to have killed some specialness in the relationship so far.

 

Now, he finally realizes that he wants to slow down, and he told me that "right now I want to figure out my life since school and family is killing me there's so much weight on my shoulders..." something like that. This was so sudden, and we were being all lovey-dovey just a few minutes before!! I am sooooo confused, and we had made plans a few days ago that we would hang out this weekend. Well, I guess my plans are pretty much killed... right?

 

What do I do? Lay off? Don't text him? Say nothing? Wait for a few Minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years? Okay, I am exaggerating on the years. I really like this guy, and I feel sort of bubbly right now, and at the same time, flowing with the emotions of confusion, sadness, anger-ish, and sort of alone in the sense I just had a guy the second before this.

 

Help me, please! I have no idea what to do! I am so new to having a good guy treat me right, and I don't want to lose this opportunity to have something good and long lasting!!

 

Thank you!