Spengles Posted March 21, 2004 Share Posted March 21, 2004 I'm having a lot of trouble recently because I just have a horrible way with words. I can't really express how I feel and truly compliment a girl that I like. I think she takes it as me not being attracted to her but I just feel horrible dumb saying things like 'you look incredibly sexy' or 'wow, you looked so hot'. I guess recently, I've grown accustomed to telling her things like 'you look so good' or 'heya cutie' or 'sweetie' because it doesn't sound like something a stupid, typical guy would tell to a girl but I feel as if it's not good enough. I want to be able to compliment her like she deserves but I don't feel capable of doing so. Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted March 21, 2004 Share Posted March 21, 2004 Most females don't require someone constantly telling then how attractive they are. Usually, if you compliment them at some point during the day or evening......they are happy. HOW you compliment them, if it's said in sincerity, really doesn't matter. You didn't say if this girl was equally as interested in you. If she isn't.....don't tell her how hot she is all the time. If she is.....keep up the good work. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Spengles Posted March 21, 2004 Author Share Posted March 21, 2004 whether she's interested in me is another story which confuses me like crazy. last night though was the reason for this post. she was on her webcam and i guess 'put on a show' for which was amazing. i just didn't have anything 'good' to reply with other than 'wow, that was amazing' and stuff like that.. i would like to compliment her all the time. i just feel goofy doing so. i've never felt comfortable 'hitting' on girls. plus, she's been my friend for a long time so it's more awkward? i don't know but so far, things have been good. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted March 21, 2004 Share Posted March 21, 2004 Some of the 'soft porn' type sites, like Victoria's Secret, have cool sexy ecards you can send. Maybe you could send her a special thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted March 21, 2004 Share Posted March 21, 2004 Arabess, shame on you Victoria's Secret is a legitimate commercial venture Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted March 21, 2004 Share Posted March 21, 2004 Try picking a feature that you like and use that. Link to post Share on other sites
einahpets Posted March 28, 2004 Share Posted March 28, 2004 though it is always nice to hear you look nice, it seems like you have told her alot...even if it didn't come out the way you wanted. tell her what a good person she is and how much you enjoy spending time with her. i always enjoyed hearing that... Link to post Share on other sites
average guy Posted March 28, 2004 Share Posted March 28, 2004 try telling her how you FEEL when you see her (and not, not horny, etc.!) Something like: you're like the sun after a spring rain. who knoes, maybe I'm just an hopeless old romantic Cheers. A.G. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted March 28, 2004 Share Posted March 28, 2004 o - you are in love! read love poetry and prose, see how the masters articulated helplessness, see which style and thoughts you like. then think about which words (get a thesaurus and a good dictionary) really individualize her beauty. oondatje wrote an amazing poem called 'the cinnamon peeler' that was all about the way his beloved smelled, for example. DA is so right: the essence of eroticism is individuation. i would have loved to be a Pinter love object Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted March 28, 2004 Share Posted March 28, 2004 Originally posted by jenny o - you are in love! read love poetry and prose Write your own poetry, or get me to write some and put your name on it. Im good at that, real good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Spengles Posted March 28, 2004 Author Share Posted March 28, 2004 thank you for all the suggestions. I guess I don't really know what she wants. she says things like "so and so is so pretty.." and all i can come up with is "that's not true at all.. you're a lot prettier than her" or she'll say something about a celebrity like "oh she's so hot".. and I feel stupid saying stuff like "wow, you look hot" or "you turn me on" but that's how I feel, yanno? I guess I never feel the right "moments" to say stuff like that. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted March 28, 2004 Share Posted March 28, 2004 {next time you see a pretty gal on TV, and she comments on it} Yeah, she's pretty. She reminds me of you. Not the way she looks, but the way she operates. She's a celebrity, she knows everyone's at home going "oh, she's pretty", but yet she still tries to maintain allure in order to give them something to talk about. Similarly, you're beautiful, and not just that you physically give her a run for her money, but the way YOU operate--sometimes I wonder if you know how beautiful you really are. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Spengles Posted March 29, 2004 Author Share Posted March 29, 2004 how would you comment on specific things without sounding too corny? "your hair looks so straight and ravishing... kiss me." another problem would be when i do compliment her, she rebuffs my compliments. i try to say otherwise but she tells me to stop arguing with her. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted March 29, 2004 Share Posted March 29, 2004 Originally posted by Spengles another problem would be when i do compliment her, she rebuffs my compliments. i try to say otherwise but she tells me to stop arguing with her. Stop complimenting her then. Some girls just don't like physical compliments, it makes them uncomfortable. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Spengles Posted March 29, 2004 Author Share Posted March 29, 2004 although she's incredibly insecure and thinks that she looks horrible (which she doesn't of course). should i still stop? there are other times when she's told me "say something, say that it turns you on, say anything". Link to post Share on other sites
Hypatia Posted April 2, 2004 Share Posted April 2, 2004 The guy I see now compliments me a lot, but I've always been insecure about my looks, so rather than make me feel great, it makes me kind of self-conscious. It sounds like your girl has the same kind of thing. Link to post Share on other sites
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