Confused W/ My Ex Does He Still Want Me Or Is He Playing Games

[Autumnsconfused]

Okay hi everybody I need help and I think ya'll give good advice so I'm hoping everyone can help me also. My ex broke up with me about 3 wks ago b/c of sum rummors going around. At first I thought for sure we'd get back together in no time but I couldnt make it work.

 

He is still telling me he loved me but he also started dating this other girl so I backed off. Then she broke up with him . So I started writting and calling him telling him I still loved him and wanted to be with him and etc. At some momments he'd act like he wanted me back and be very flirtly with me. and other times he wouldnt even notice me.

 

I need to know what I should do . If i should keep trying to get with me or what. I'm still very much in love with him and hate keeping thimgs in but I think I'm making myself look like a fool also.

 

Plus I act like he cant talk to anyone else and when I found out he's talking to a girl or something along those lines i go crazy and try to confront him like we're still together. I just need to know how to take it. Is it possible we will ever get back together.

 

plus just the other day I asked him if we'd get back together and he told me he didnt know. and if he did he would tell me but he really doesnt know but he still loves me.

 

please guys help I cant get him off my mind everything reminds me or him and it hard not to see him because we have mutual friends. I cant seem to be his friend right now either b/c all i do is think about our past times together and how happy we were

 

ANY ADVIVCE TO HELP ME GET HIM BACK OR MOVE ON PLEASE VOICE YOUR OPINIONS I NEED ALL THE HELP I CAN GET THIS IS DRVING ME CRAZY I CANT SLEEP I'VE BEEN VERY DEPRESSES I DONT WANNA DO ANYTHING BUT LAY AROUND!!!!! ITS HORRIBLE!!!

[befuddled11]

These "rumors that were going around" that apparently sparked him to break up with you....what kind of rumors were they? Was there any TRUTH to them? In other words, do you feel your ex was at all justified for having broken up with you?

 

How long had you been dating?

[spencer]

Let me first tell you how sorry i am that your going through so much.

its terrible that someone started rumors (i assume their about you), and it had the desired effect. ruin your life.

some guys cant handle being the guy that is going out with that (insert rumor) girl.

it is very hard for them and they get constant grief from their peers.

 

you can wait for the rumors to die down,( someone will start something juicy about someone else and you will be old news) and then when the pressures off he may come back.

 

I personally think that you should move on and find sombody else to go out with.

he will probably want you back the minute you date someone else ,but dont hurt the new guy by going back to the ex. the ex wasn't really interested in helping when the times got tough, that doesn't say alot for his character, in my opinion.

[autumnsconfused]

okay The guy I dated before him was one of his close friends and I broke up with that close him to be with him. The rummor was I went to a hotel with his friend and my prevous lover. He heard this from other friends which said I went to the hotel for a party and stayed the night. No the rummor wasnt true. He believed it though not only because these were supposed to be his good friends but also b/c he tried to call my friends house were I was supposed to be staying and we didnt answer. I tried over and over to get him to understand and believe I wasnt there and yet he was still letting it bother him and he still won't really talk to me about the matter. Everything died down about that situtation now. So I dunno if that was just an excuse or it really bothered him taht much

[autumnsconfused]

thanks guys for your help if there is anything else you think can help feel free to tell me.

 

Yes I would like to move on and dated someone else but its hard b/c my heart is with my ex. I love him so much and I know we are right for each other. I dont understand how he cant see that. Gosh I'm just so confused

[autumnsconfused]

does anybody else so anything that would help me !!!!!!!!!!!!

[lisapisa]

I can't explain why people, especially men, do what they do in relationships. I don't know what the rumors were, but in general, the best rule is to remain silent, no contact, keep busy. If he's going to come back, he will come back faster if you aren't chasing him. Also, realize that everyone has certain needs and it's selfish to assume that you completely satisfied his...for whatever reason and no matter how long you were dating, etc. You have broken someone's heart along the way, too, whether you know it or not. We cannot control others. There's no logic to love (now if I could just take my own advice!) Get a new haircut, start working out, read a good book, make a new friend. Get over it and good luck. In 15 years, you'll be angry that you wasted time on this guy, because to me, he sounds like a loser.