Found disturbing email from my BF's ex

[christinaIUP]

I know what I did was wrong, I checked my BF's email for the first time ever. He has told me in the past that I could, that he has nothing to hide. So.. I was bored today at work and decided to take a look. There really wasnt anything "interesting" except for some emails from his Ex 3-4 years ago.

 

The thing is, these emails are disturbing to me. I understand that the past is the past. I have been with him for over a year and a half, and I haven't experienced these crazy things with him. From what he tells me, they were together for about the same amount of time as us. He also wouldnt ever really tell me why they broke up... here is the email. Keep in mind I had to translate it, it was in spanish.

 

What a crook you are definitively, you have the nerve to call me? PETTY? To me.

 

After I was so patient and considerate with you this whole time?

 

Since October of last year you’ve been living with me starting in Olivias house and sleeping in Niltas house and then in my apartment..

 

What a shameless scrounger you were…

 

When do you ever help me with anything? NEVER did you do it? You could easily live and **** with out paying or helping in anything..

 

I was the stupid one to again to welcome you in my home and want to believe in your fake promises.

 

When I had money I gave it to you and I helped you the tickets ( of course you don’t remember the $200 that I gave you)?

 

 

You made me open an account and make me put $200 in my account and you had $150 in yours and in less than 2 days there was nothing in the account and that we only went to chuckcheese with your daughter on Saturday and you spent $5 for her tokens and then $1.00 for an ice cream and you wanted to go to Publix after and we baught cookies and the mashed cookes and also I… Sunday we went in the metro to Bayside and we only bought 2 ice creams for the kids and then you bought me chicken wings in Hooters… then nothing else…Do you also put gas in my car?

 

 

Now you have the nerve to tell me that my $200 were taken out from there? You’re a sorry sight..

 

 

Monday we bought things at ROSS for the apartment and we spent $50.00 and you paid with my card? But now that you are leaving you’re taking things that you shouldn’t but you know what I’ll give them to you so you can learn..

 

The day that I broke up with you I asked you if you were in the apt so you could let the plumber in . This was your response ? ASKE FOR A DAY OFF AND FIX YOUR OWN THINGS?

 

 

You damaged my wall and the bathroom door and you thought by filling them and leaving them like that halfass that its ok?

 

Then you had the nerve to aske me to go with you so I can be taken off of your account…now my answer is ?FIX YOUR THINGS BY YOURSELF? Because from now on you can die and I wont be even the slightly bit interested, FORGET that I exist or that I did exist one day.

 

My bank statement from Colonial arrives and I was charged a $50.00 overdraft fee because you paid $50.00 in Ross using my card, I’m being charged $25.00 for each overdraft… one is for the thing we bought at ROSS and the other is for $8.81? I suppose that would be for the childrens ice cream?

 

 

Besides, you knew that I had no money as of Monday andI asked you to leave me? NOTHING.. YOU LEFT ME NOTHING and they still took $50 from my account and now rent is due tomorrow?

 

 

You knew I had to pay my cell and supposedly you were going to pay that with the $200 that I gave you nad NOTHING? Regrettably I fell into your trap again…You were so pathetic and pitiful

 

You gave me HERPEs in my mouth and you didn’t have any scruples or consideration? You’re an inconsiderate being … God willing you haven’t given me any other diseases

 

Look and there are so many things that I would like to throw in your face and tell you what I lost because I was with you, friendships, family and almost my son and my last jobs…due to you… But I’m not going to because it was my MISTAKE and no one forced me to do it?

 

After I dealt with all your lies and deceit and excuses and false promises… what you did the the straw that broke the camels back…it was there when you actually showed me who you really were.

 

A lie that made me take the decision to brake up with you forever and it makes me stronger each time that I miss you I think about that and when I read your divorce papers I read about the date of your anniversary with your ex? I realized that the date 07/06/2007 was the same date that you had asked time off to go with her to Orlando but you had the bad luck that she called you on 07/02/2007 when you were with me in COCORIKO and that was the straw that broke the camels back for her because you kept on deceiving her with your feelings. But you swore on your daughter that you didn’t have anything planned with her? So that whole weekend you spent with me was a lie acting like you loved me?... Are you sure that you didn’t have anything planned with her at the Marrott Hotel? You were so terrible!

 

 

First you beat me and locked me in my room the day that I was on my way to Julios bday, then to Olivias bday when you pushed me and you hit me and because you pushed me my body broke the glass bathroom door, then the day that you went to Comercial bank and you hit me in my face and the security guard saw you and they told you that they didn’t want to see you, then October 12 when you wanted to have sex with me and I didn’t want to, you but me all over my body and you left bruises all over and that’s not even counting your friends wedding in Key West when you slapped me, beat me, and were disgusting enough to have sex. Besides, how many times have you twisted my wrist, strangled me, grabbed me, and left brusies on my back and all the other **** you did to me.

 

You broke my cell phone two more times because of your jealous fits and of any of those times did you think about buying me a new one? NEVER? You broke the bedroom door where we slept in Olivias house, did you fix it? NOOO, you broke the wall and the bathroom door in my apt, did you finish fixing it? NOOOOOOO?

 

LIAR, TRAIDOR, UNGRATEFUL, INCOSIDERATE, CHEATER, CROOK, UNFAITHFUL, NAME CALLER, AGGRESSIVE, JEALOUS, BEATER, SPITTER, DOMINATING AND INSECURE, SCROUNGER AND HYPOCRIT, INSINCERE, you will always be and you will NEVER but NEVER change

 

Its sad and very pitiful that a 34 year old man who has lived his whole life here, can be despicable to do everything you have done to me and especially go away without paying have the rent nor for my cell and overdrafting from my account in Colonial and not having the slightest consideration knowing my financial situation that I’m experiencing… Reemeber that I am only a 27 year old women and what you did to me was so low… Relax, the day will come when someone will give you a lesson for everything that you have done?

 

 

Now I really would like you to have the courage and tell me PETTY again so that I could laugh in your face. THIS WAS MY LESSON… THANKS FOR OPENING MY EYES AND THAT THIS DOESN’T HAPPEN LATER.

 

 

Leave me ALONE that I dont want to knowABSOLUTELY ANYTHING about you EVER AGAIN nor do I want to hear anything from you

 

 

 

 

I need opinions if I should be worried...

[TigerCub]

Really? You're seriously questioning if you should be concerned?

 

Yes!! be concerned, this guy probably gave you herpes too (that would be the first on my list of concerns)

 

Second, he is obviously abusive, he has hit this woman before, and more than once (not that it really matters)

 

He's also a liar, and (possibly) a cheater from what I understood of the email, and more than willing to scam people for money

 

Yes you should be very concerned.

And its not like you're hearing this from a 3rd party, you're actually reading an email from her - which for some reason he saved

 

Anyways, count yourself lucky that you found it, go and get checked out for STDs and make plans to leave this guy.

[christinaIUP]

I guess I king of expected an obvious answer to an obvious question, so thank you

 

My issue is that I have known him for over a year, and he hasnt exhibited any of these things. If he had, surely I would have never stuck around.

I guess I was just secretly hoping that this chick was delusional, and blew things out of porportion. I mean, what do I say, I saw your email and what you supposedly did to you ex, so I am breaking up with you even though you havent done anything to me..

[Billy_Boy]

I was gonna ask if he did any of this kind of stuff to yo, if he hasnt, it doesnt really seem fair to judge him that he will... he might have been less mature at that point and in a weird place, who can say, why dont you ask him?

[edgeofdarkness]

what does yr gut tell u to do., hang around until it happenz?

 

ever heard of "damage limitation?'

 

what do u honestly think wd be the best action for you?

[Duckduckgoose]

I had an aunt whose husband was an abuser and his ex-wife tried to warn her, but she didn't listen. She though my aunt was jealous that she was with him now and the ex wasn't.

 

The fellow was nice to her for about 5 years, till my cousin was born. Then the **** hit the fan.

 

I would ask the boyfriend... probably in public place, about what you found.

[hopesndreams]

First you beat me and locked me in my room the day that I was on my way to Julios bday, then to Olivias bday when you pushed me and you hit me and because you pushed me my body broke the glass bathroom door, then the day that you went to Comercial bank and you hit me in my face and the security guard saw you and they told you that they didn’t want to see you, then October 12 when you wanted to have sex with me and I didn’t want to, you but me all over my body and you left bruises all over and that’s not even counting your friends wedding in Key West when you slapped me, beat me, and were disgusting enough to have sex. Besides, how many times have you twisted my wrist, strangled me, grabbed me, and left brusies on my back and all the other **** you did to me.

 

You broke my cell phone two more times because of your jealous fits and of any of those times did you think about buying me a new one? NEVER? You broke the bedroom door where we slept in Olivias house, did you fix it? NOOO, you broke the wall and the bathroom door in my apt, did you finish fixing it? NOOOOOOO?

 

Powder Keg.

 

None of this kinda stuff ever happened to you huh? My guess is you haven't p*ssed him off yet.