moxie60 Posted January 26, 2011 Share Posted January 26, 2011 I think this guy I like is avoiding me. We seemed to have a bit of a disagreement last week, and I feel bad. I feel like it was my fault that he is not talking to me. Last friday I was out at a bar with a friend of mine, and we see ran into him and his friend, his face lit when we saw each other and we were all going to hang out later that night but my friend and I,(mostly my friend) didn't want to so we blew them off and didn't go hang out, we went to another party instead. Well I sent him a text the other day to see if he wanted to hang out, I never got anything back. Thats not normally like him to not text me back. I want to talk to him about the other night but I am afraid he doesn't want anything to do with me anymore. I want to be with him but I know that that won't happen anytime soon, but most of all I don't want to lose a friend. Should I give him space and let him do his guy moping and contact me or should I send him another text and say I am sorry if I offended you. All I did was ask him if he saw me as a friend, and he replied he doesn't kiss his friends. and a few other things. you can get the whole story from my last post. Please someone shed some light my situation. Thanks. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t262082/ What if I never hear from him again..... Link to post Share on other sites
WTRanger Posted January 26, 2011 Share Posted January 26, 2011 You blew him off. That pretty much sounds like that sealed the deal for him. It doesn't matter if it was your friend or Jesus Christ, you actively chose to ditch on him. There isn't a stronger signal in the world to a man than a woman standing him up. Even if you didn't mean to, the damage has been done. Seriously, if you cared about him as much as you say you do, you would have at least texted him that you weren't going to make it. Or did you? You didn't cover that in the post. He sounds like one confused person from the previous post. If he's playing it very cautiously, blowing him off like that will send him running away. If he was afraid of getting hurt, you just dropped an A-bomb on him. Truth be told, you guys were in limbo-land and that's no place to be. Chalk this one up to History. Link to post Share on other sites
Author moxie60 Posted January 26, 2011 Author Share Posted January 26, 2011 I didn't text him. I wish I would have. I feel like such a bum. Do you think I somehow make it up to him? Link to post Share on other sites
WTRanger Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 It depends. Right now he's like a stray pet you just brought into your house. Sometimes you just have to wait a bit and let him come to you. If you push, you'll only prolong the process. For starters, a simple "I'm sorry" may get the ball rolling. If he doesn't respond, then it's over. If you push anymore, you'll just make it worse. Link to post Share on other sites
DuskCrush Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Well it was bad that you didn't go to hang out with him but it's not like he's your boyfriend or took the initiative to ask you out on a real date so don't beat yourself up about it. It was a casual meet up that you didn't go to not a date. He'll eventually contact you. If you don't hear from him in a few days--send the I'm sorry text and then let it go. He seems a little wishy-washy. Believe me --when a guy finds a girl he's excited about he will go after her...bad past relationship baggage and all. So, I'm inclined to believe he is just sucking up your time and attention and enjoying your company without have any real motivation to make serious moves. He does seem nice and honest though so that's a plus in his favor. Link to post Share on other sites
WTRanger Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 He is wishy-washy. But let me ask you this. That night you made plans, were they a definite "Yes we will hang out later" or was it more of a "If we have time we'll see you there?" If it was a Yes, then you should have at least told him and he has some merit to be mad that you didn't show. If it was more of a we'll see kind of deal, then no he doesn't have merit to be so pissed and he's acting like a baby. All too often this happens when things between a guy and gal are as blurred as you two. No one knows where the other one stands as far as intentions. He may have seen that night as a definite yes you will make it, you may have seen it as more of a we'll see kind of thing. If anything, you need to have a come to Jesus talk with him about where YOU see things going. If you want to date him and he's just not ready, then you can't be around each other. He needs to commit to one side or the other. He can't be neutral. Neutral is too annoying. With friends and enemies you know where you stand. But neutrals? Who knows! It sickens me. Link to post Share on other sites
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