Graciegrace Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Where to start... I meet this awesome guy this past Thanksgiving. He lived about 2 hours away, but I viewed the distance as not a problem...friendship wise. He and I talked on the phone about once maybe twice a week for about two months. We got together a few times, and things were just awesome! We had not really explored a romantic relationship with one another, until about 2 months ago. I was very hesitant to even start one...because of the distance, and I knew if I started one with him, I would fall hard for him. He was like seriously the man of my dreams. He was everything I was looking for. So we decided to explore the romantic level of a relationship. And it was awesome!!! I found myself wanting to be with him more, and he was calling me more. But due to busy schedules it was virtually impossible for us to get together. I was thinking about telling him that is was a bad idea to date, but I really liked him and wanted to be with him. He decided to split up with me, He told me he could not afford a girlfriend. But he still said he wanted to talk to me and get together when he comes into town. I have not talked to him in a bout 3 weeks now, and I hurt really bad. He and I had such a great friendship before this happened, and now I don’t know what to expect from him...feels like nothing. I have called him a few times, but he does not return my calls. Why do men do these things. I knew I should not have explored a relationship with him...now I have nothing with him! So should I expect anything from him? Link to post Share on other sites
jessydog Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 its a harsh reality of life that some men are only out for what they can get and once they have got it they are gone i however am not one of them. in the last few days my long term partner has left me with our two year old son. she blead me dry then off she went but its important at times like these to have you friends support and a positive outlook keep you chin up and get on with your life if he wanted you he would contact you no matter how much you love him or how hard you try you cant make him love you. good luck and look forward to happier times Link to post Share on other sites
Author Graciegrace Posted March 22, 2004 Author Share Posted March 22, 2004 I guess I would be fine with this had something happened between he and i, but everything was always so awesome. We never fought, and the breakup just seemed to have came from out of no where. He apparently thought I wanted something serious from him. I guess he may have gotten that idea from the fact that when we were last together I told him that i wished we had more time to be together. Would that really make a guy think you wanted a commitment. I just really enjoyed his company and that was why I said this to him. I miss him and would just love to set him straight, but I guess I will never have the chance. Thank you so much for you input. Love is such a confusing thing and I am so greatful for this wonderful website. Thank you and good luck to you as well. Link to post Share on other sites
jessydog Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 perhaps he was influenced by his friends. may be the thought that long distance relationships rarely work so you might be better off this has happened now and not in a year or two time where your feelings might have been stronger. its only 5 days since my long term partner walked out with our son so i know giving advice is easy but listening to or taking advice is differcult but you are only young so keep your chin up start smiling and get on with life. i have found that staying positive is half the battle im trying to get my self a new job and a new life its hard very hard but theres a big world out there with some nice and not so nice people lets hope the next man that you meet is a nice guy and one that can make you happy good luck again i hope that in some way i have been of help Link to post Share on other sites
Author Graciegrace Posted March 30, 2004 Author Share Posted March 30, 2004 Thanks a bunch for your advice. I have not heard from him in about two weeks now. It has been hard, but I have managed to fill my time with activities. I hope all is going better for you! Thanks again Link to post Share on other sites
dolphinsunshyn Posted March 30, 2004 Share Posted March 30, 2004 Gracie: Your situation sounds almost identical to mine. Only the excuse is different. He gave me the, "I fell in love with you and got scared" routine. One thought that crossed my mind is that sex ruined it. We waited a while to have sex and once we did, things started to change on his part. I told myself he isn't the kind of guy that would just get what he "wanted" and move on; but you never know. Thing felt so perfect between us and he admitted that as well. But, a "player" doesn't wear a sign advertising it. I guess they can come in all forms. That may have happened in your case or he may have gotten scared. A lot of guys act like a chicken with its head cut off the minute they start to feel some real emotion. I wish I had some advice for you. But, I'm on here asking the same thing. LOL The only thing I did was send him an e-mail saying that I'll give him time and he can contact me if and/or when he feels ready. That way, there is no confusion and it can serve as closure if need be. I can't just let things fade and dissapear without that one final attept. I find tying those loose end is theraputic in moving on. Good luck and keep me posted on what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
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