guest Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 i realize that there have been millions of posts about porn on this forum.. mine is a bit different though. i have never considered my bf to have unhealthy sexual interests other than a typical young male. but recently, as i was searching our music files, i came upon incompleted downloads of the following: 1) 10-yrs fu**s with her 11 yr old brother 2) brother fu*** sister when parents aren't home 3) i fu** my dad 4) pregnant fu** i am very upset about finding these kinds of porn .. i don't want to jump to any conclusions.. but i don't see that there is any other conclusion but that he has some indecent interests. i'm afraid to approach him on this because i may be wrong.. could this just be a case of "men like taboo things" ? please, any opinion would be appreciated. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
fredrolin Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Just because he is downloading these things doesn't mean he is getting turned on by these things. He might see it as funny. But then again he might not, you never know. If you ask him he will probably laugh it off. He may have some incest secrets in his past so these things turn him on, but like I said most likely he just thinks it's funny. How old is he? Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 he is 22 yrs old, almost 23. by the way, thanks for answering my post. Link to post Share on other sites
fredrolin Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 At that age I wouldn't think it is anything but curiousity and him thinking its funny. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 I read a lot of odd news stories and articles having to do with mortuary services and the details of murders -- but its out of morbid curiosity and not because it turns me on or because I want to be a participant! It is probably the same with your bf. If I saw a headline like that I would read the story too and maybe even search out other similar stories just because I'm fascinated with human psychology and psycopathology. It may be embarassing for him to admit to something like that because he may not know why it interests him so much either - he just knows it does interest him. You could talk to him about it, but don't worry about it too much. There are all sorts of fetishes that people enjoy watching but not participating in and you said these were incomplete downloads - so maybe those were accidental on his part and he was looking for something else. Link to post Share on other sites
Dug Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Nothing wrong with being curious I suppose, and quite possibly he is just that. My wife became my ex when thought she could she laughed off her f**k buddy she was entertaining too, so don't let him off the hook until you have talked out your feelings. I might be perfectly harmless......but if he knows it upsets you and he finds pleasure in that, then you've got that nasty little lack of respect issue goin on maybe. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Were they stories or photos? If they're just stories, well, incest is, I think, the most popular topic in erotic fiction. I don't think most people who read or write these stories are actually interested in committing incest; it's just a taboo that they're curious about. Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 these downloads were actually "amateur" porn videos. at least that is what the description said. i realize that what is taboo sparks curiousity but to want to watch something like this... that to me, is going too far. Link to post Share on other sites
dug plastic Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Just remember that alot of porn....well, all porn....is role play and acting and fantasy etc. People are not actually filming Dad with his daughter etc. The female porn stars who grimace with each penetration are not being damaged so as to be unfit for sex with normally endowed men etc. Watch WWF for a while..... but again....if this stuff bothers you , he really should be sensitive to your feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Originally posted by dug plastic if this stuff bothers you , he really should be sensitive to your feelings. He can't be sensitive if he doesn't know it bothers you. Do talk with him ( don't talk "to" him - that seems kind of controlling, but talk with him and find out why and let him know how it makes you feel and then you can ask him to stop or alter his porn habits so as not to hurt your feelings) Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 The internet brings any taboo into our homes with a simple search and a few clicks. There are things that I have read or seen on the internet just because I could. I have willingly viewed disgusting, horrible images or videos simply for the experience at one point or another. The novelty wore off after a while, years ago, but people go and do these sorts of things all of the time. If you have access to something taboo and no one else is around, you tend to go and check it out. Your boyfriend may just be doing this. However, if these sorts of things keep popping up on the hard drive, you might begin to get a little concerned. This could either be curiosity or a problem. I don't have enough information to go on. Link to post Share on other sites
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