fltc Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 I'm hoping some attractive female will accidently have sex with me! Link to post Share on other sites
Leviia Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 As a person who's SO had sex with someone else while I was away because he was "lonely" and "hurt" .. and then him not telling me and me finding it out on my own. It EFFIN HURTS. Had I not found out .. I would have eventually. Offer the information up front. Tell him what happened, why it happened and show genuine remorse for what you did.... well if you do feel remorseful. Lying and finding out later hurts worse than the actual truth. Be respectful to not only him but yourself as well and tell the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Lying and finding out later hurts worse than the actual truth. Be respectful to not only him but yourself as well and tell the truth....not only to him, but yourself as well. Link to post Share on other sites
deebeechrisyo Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 Look, we can all argue the ethics of having sex with someone else if you aren't "technically" in a relationship with said other partner (although I did hear the word boyfriend/girlfriend in one of the posts), but you have to tell this guy for health reasons. I'm sure this guy doesn't want to receive an STD from the first girl he's ever had sex with in his life, due to something she got from this random club dude or who knows how many other random club dudes before this. Link to post Share on other sites
Shaina2 Posted January 30, 2011 Share Posted January 30, 2011 There is no such things as accidentally sleeping with someone else. You either do it or you don't. If you haven't had a serious talk about where is this relationship heading, do it now. I think you should inform him that you're not ready for a relationship and are still into the partying stage. It really isn't fair to him and if this was really his first time having sex, he will be devastated. I got cheated on by a past BF and he used the same excuse you're using. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 30, 2011 Share Posted January 30, 2011 Oh, yeah, as accidentally as drinking and driving. It is a clumsy thread title. Only in this case, she didn't break any law. She didn't break any law but it was still a crappy thing to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 30, 2011 Share Posted January 30, 2011 I don't think the troll is hungry anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author susanfollows Posted January 31, 2011 Author Share Posted January 31, 2011 Thanks for the advice. I texted him saying I had something to talk about and I ended up at his place. I decided to tell him what I did but first I asked what he thought about our relationship and if it we had been exclusive. He looked at me kinda strange and said "I thought we were dating, so kinda yea I mean I don't date two people at the same time." It was hard but after around 20 mins of beating around the bush I finally let him know all about what happened. The look on his face was not the same one I had when we first sat down, seriously... So this may or may not be good, he told me afterward he may have been a virgin but it doesn't mean he didn't have girlfriends throughout his life. I was thinking "uh oh" and he told me another girl he'd dated for awhile did something just like me, he then proceeded to say "I should have known better" and "this serves me right" so yea he wasn't to thrilled that's for sure. I don't want to get into more detail about what I said because it's embarrassing but I said I didn't want to end it with him and had hopes we could see eachother more often. We ended it agreeing to wait awhile before going out again, but he said to call him in a week or so. Do you guys think there's still a chance or is he gone for good? Will he answer my call in a week? Is he going to avoid me now? Thanks for your help Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Thanks for the advice. I texted him saying I had something to talk about and I ended up at his place. I decided to tell him what I did but first I asked what he thought about our relationship and if it we had been exclusive. He looked at me kinda strange and said "I thought we were dating, so kinda yea I mean I don't date two people at the same time." It was hard but after around 20 mins of beating around the bush I finally let him know all about what happened. The look on his face was not the same one I had when we first sat down, seriously... So this may or may not be good, he told me afterward he may have been a virgin but it doesn't mean he didn't have girlfriends throughout his life. I was thinking "uh oh" and he told me another girl he'd dated for awhile did something just like me, he then proceeded to say "I should have known better" and "this serves me right" so yea he wasn't to thrilled that's for sure. I don't want to get into more detail about what I said because it's embarrassing but I said I didn't want to end it with him and had hopes we could see eachother more often. We ended it agreeing to wait awhile before going out again, but he said to call him in a week or so. Do you guys think there's still a chance or is he gone for good? Will he answer my call in a week? Is he going to avoid me now? Thanks for your help i hope he concludes that you two are mismatched. your moral compass doesn't match his. it would be disasterous for you two to think that things could be great for the long haul. either way, you showed courage and strength by being honest with him... it shows hope for you to grow and change in the future if you can get to a point when you find out WHY you participated in such negative and selfish behavior causing harm to the R and to him. then find out HOW to never need to participate in that operating method again in your future. Link to post Share on other sites
heartbeats4u Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 If he's comparing you to his ex, then he isn't going to be interested anymore. It's good that you admitted it, but you need to sit down and assess what you really want, and what your morals are. Link to post Share on other sites
Distant78 Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Thanks for the advice. I texted him saying I had something to talk about and I ended up at his place. I decided to tell him what I did but first I asked what he thought about our relationship and if it we had been exclusive. He looked at me kinda strange and said "I thought we were dating, so kinda yea I mean I don't date two people at the same time." It was hard but after around 20 mins of beating around the bush I finally let him know all about what happened. The look on his face was not the same one I had when we first sat down, seriously... So this may or may not be good, he told me afterward he may have been a virgin but it doesn't mean he didn't have girlfriends throughout his life. I was thinking "uh oh" and he told me another girl he'd dated for awhile did something just like me, he then proceeded to say "I should have known better" and "this serves me right" so yea he wasn't to thrilled that's for sure. I don't want to get into more detail about what I said because it's embarrassing but I said I didn't want to end it with him and had hopes we could see eachother more often. We ended it agreeing to wait awhile before going out again, but he said to call him in a week or so. Do you guys think there's still a chance or is he gone for good? Will he answer my call in a week? Is he going to avoid me now? Thanks for your help When you asked him was the relationship exclusive you were trying to find a reason to still justify what you did. Although it's nice that you told him, you still did something very immature and dangerous so the pain he has will not go away easily. From his response it seems like it's over, and I wouldn't blame him one bit if he didn't want to be with you anymore. Usually when guys tell a woman to call them in a few days or so, most likely they're running for the hills. Link to post Share on other sites
moloko Posted February 3, 2011 Share Posted February 3, 2011 I think the title of this thread is one of the funniest I have seen:lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
seibert253 Posted February 4, 2011 Share Posted February 4, 2011 Well, at least you were mature enough to be honest and tell him. Will he come back, who knows. I wouldn't. Link to post Share on other sites
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