Author Leigh 87 Posted January 28, 2011 Author Share Posted January 28, 2011 The guy said he was not mad with me at all, and told me to not worry about the loosers on the website lol who did it to me. He is acting cool. He said he did not care that I rang him that day either. It is all good. I just feel sick with all that has happened. I threw my scales out of my balcony last night when I was drunk. I have drunk 3 bottles of wine in one week - I was a non drinker before that. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Well the only reason why I have come to post on this thread is to confirm Leigh's suspicions! I'm friends with Leigh on facebook and some wise woman just posted a link to this thread with the following message: There are some absolutely gutless hateful people on here as it would seem. It would also appear there are some liars, possibly the one who messaged me is also the one who is telling Leigh on here to stop being paranoid and seek a therapist. Whoever you are, you are a very revengeful hateful and spiteful woman - spamming Leigh's friends list of guys to post those messages. I will retain the message. Wait, how did you see the post? Are you friend that FB poster? Is she??! One of you knows her then. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Wait, how did you see the post? Are you friend that FB poster? Is she??! One of you knows her then. Nevermind. Just figured out it was a message and not a wall post. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 The guy said he was not mad with me at all, and told me to not worry about the loosers on the website lol who did it to me. He is acting cool. He said he did not care that I rang him that day either. It is all good. I just feel sick with all that has happened. I threw my scales out of my balcony last night when I was drunk. I have drunk 3 bottles of wine in one week - I was a non drinker before that. Leigh, I don't think you have much to worry about regarding what you said about HIM. But your suicidal threats in the past couple pages, combined with your instant calm down, just might just freak him out. Have you ever been treated by a psychiatrist? Not a therapist, but a medical doctor? Do you have meds? Link to post Share on other sites
depplover_1980 Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 I agree with Stargazer Leigh, I think you need to look at yourself as ill and you can be helped by medical professionals who will correct the problem and put your life on good track. If it were a broken leg you wouldn't think twice about getting a plaster cast put onto it... Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Boy, I missed a lot. Leigh, can you block your friend's list on FB so that users who are not your friends cannot see it? For the future I mean. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 29, 2011 Author Share Posted January 29, 2011 how do I remove my contact list, to stop ppl accessing it? Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 Up on the top right, go to Account Settings and then Privacy, and you'll see the option for changing who can see your friends list. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 29, 2011 Author Share Posted January 29, 2011 THANKS Star:) I made it so only my " friends:" could see things about me - that is right, isn't it? Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 I'm sorry someone here failed to live up to normal human decency and spammed your friend list Leigh. I'm glad he reacted so well. I still think you could benefit from cognitive therapy to help you deal with your obsessive thoughts. And please eat something. There is no reason to punish yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 29, 2011 Author Share Posted January 29, 2011 And lol, it turns out the guy doesn't give a **** about anything any way. I am not experienced with men ( obviously), and when he first said I was gorgeous a few days ago in the first message he sent me, I just got a little freaked out cos not many guys tell that to me. So I sort of got too happy about a guy calling me gorgeous and saying nice things to me. SO when he stopped talking to me and stuff, I was upset. It turns out, that he still wants to have sex with me, but that he is just apathetic about it - you know, it is what it is, it is just sex to him, and he does not think I am that great or anything - he just sees me as another normal girl to have sex with. I mean, he does think I am hot - but yeah - he just sounds like a guy who goes out a lot and has fun with girls, and I am just a hot girl for him to have sex with. Initially when he said I was gorgeous, I thought that meant that he thougth I was pretty gorgeous As you guys all know - I need a guy to really think I am special -I need a guy who wants me badly - not just some guy who thinks I am okay, but no better than the girls he normally has sex with. I am all up for casual sex every couple of months, but the guy has to be really in to my body and think I am hot. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 THANKS Star:) I made it so only my " friends:" could see things about me - that is right, isn't it? If you trust ALL of your "friends," yes. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 Leigh, have you gotten any sleep? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 29, 2011 Author Share Posted January 29, 2011 A few hours. I am a poor sleeping any ways. But it is really good that I can actually sleep at all - without meds too. I had insomnia and sometimes could not fall asleep. Ever. At all. Even with sleeping meds I could not sleep. Now, I am not the worlds best sleeper, but I can at least fall asleep naurally,w ithout meds, albiet I still do not get 8 hours, more like 6. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 29, 2011 Author Share Posted January 29, 2011 I'm sorry someone here failed to live up to normal human decency and spammed your friend list Leigh. I'm glad he reacted so well. I still think you could benefit from cognitive therapy to help you deal with your obsessive thoughts. And please eat something. There is no reason to punish yourself. I am seeing a therapist - I asked her about CBT and we are going to stafrt it soon. The therapist calld my mum and apparently told her that she has plans for me with other experts - and that I will just have to listen to her, and do as she says, for things to work. And about the guy - he is just a normal guy who has a lot of friends and si out going and goes out and has sex often - So I will prob have a one off thing with him, if we meet up and I feel chemistry. AT least I know what he is about - that he is just after sex, and it is 100% about the sex - to give me physical pleasure, and nothing more. It will probably suit me better to have sex in this way - as a one off thing, every 2 months or so, with a guy that it is just sex with - JUST sex - so I KNOW that it is NOTHING more. It is better than seeing some one casually, and starting to get touchy feely with them and raise my hopes. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 Your therapist has spoken to your mother about your treatment? You are an adult Leigh. It is totally inappropriate for your therapist to commit a breach of confidentiality like this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 29, 2011 Author Share Posted January 29, 2011 Yeh I know, especially to a vulnerable person like me who has an eating disorder. Luckily, I told the guy what happened and he was cool about it. He has a life and does not have time to worry about me and things like that, that are not big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 29, 2011 Author Share Posted January 29, 2011 So the b*tch who did it to me, cannot freak the guy out, because I have told him what happened and he didn;t even care. I told him that she had never met me, and that she may say further bad things about me, and to ignore it. Link to post Share on other sites
depplover_1980 Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 Leigh, I have a feeling you should hold out for another guy. Sometimes the first sweet out of the bag is not the tastiest. I think you will meet a guy who will think you're gorgeous. Link to post Share on other sites
OceanGirl Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 So the b*tch who did it to me, cannot freak the guy out, because I have told him what happened and he didn;t even care. I told him that she had never met me, and that she may say further bad things about me, and to ignore it. I am truly horrified that someone would do this. Especially given how you posted numerous times about how upset you are. The person who did this (creating a fake account and all) must be complete s@um and pure evil :sick: Link to post Share on other sites
northern_sky Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 OMG. I can't believe somebody did that to Leigh! WTF. There are some real nasties on here. Leigh, sweetie, you remind me so much of myself when I was 19 and at my lowest point with BDD. I can't remember if you're seeing a therapist or not? Link to post Share on other sites
northern_sky Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 I was actually concerned this might happen when you started the thread and called attention to the info in your other thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelybird Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 Again, I would hate to talk about my emotions to these men, so I don't think any one has a right to assume I would spill my heart to a CASUAL sex relationship? That would be ridiculous for me to do! This is WAY TOO MUCH obssessing over a "casual sex", don't you think? Link to post Share on other sites
zicke Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 Eating is THE LAST THING I want to do. I am enforcing a self imposed starvation. The guy, who only MET me about 4 days ago, now officially thinks I Am crazy. I dont get it - I am inxperienced with men, I called him too many timesd and got embarrassed about it, and was upset, so came to ;ove shack and asked for advice. I hate how some guys think this is crazy. It is crazy, you are coming off as very, very unstable. He probably does think you are crazy, because I cannot imagine that you honestly believe that what you are posting here is perfectly normal behavior. You need to back away from the internet and call your therapist asap. Incidentally, I think that the person posting as your facebook friend is you. You really, really need help, please get some. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 29, 2011 Author Share Posted January 29, 2011 ahh he still wants to f*ck me, its all good hah. I am not crazy in this situation - I absolutely love talking about my real life situations with total strangers - I think it is a very good idea to come to a place like this, where there is a HUGE cross section of the community. There are people from all different jobs, and all walks of life on Love Shack - I get access, therefore, to a diverse range of opinions and perspecives. This is the SECOND guy I have talked to in about five years, so I was very confused about how to go about it. I have not gotten a handle on things, and feel better. Let him talk to me. Then I respond. No calling 5 times. Got it. Not that he cared. In fact, he is a very social and out going person so it seams, and was too busy to actually register that I called 5 times. And yes. I am capable of having sex without getting feelings for a guy. I have done it before. I like my body enough despite me eating disorder, and I do not readily GET feelings for any one but myself - cos eating disorders are extremely selfish in nature. Link to post Share on other sites
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