orlando_bloom_is_hot Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 [font=arial][/font][color=violet][/color]Ok here's the deal: My ex boyfriend and i met a few years ago through the internet, we talked online and on the phone for over a year, then decided to meet because we lived about 30 mins from each other.. after we finally met, it was wonderful, he asked me to be his girlfriend, and to make a long story short, we were together for two years, even losing our virginities to each other. He was my first boyfriend, and i was his second, (his last relationship only lasted 2 months)..so i was the real deal. well May 2003 comes, and he breaks up with me for his co-worker, and I haven't seen him since, i'm still so in love with him, and can't understand how we could be bestfriends/lovers for so long, then he just up and leaves for a stranger.. Anyway..6 months ago... he created a new screen nameto talk to me on yahoo and AIM. One day, (6 months ago) i get this weird instant message from some guy saying his name was "jessie/age 21/ from my area/" asking me all these personal questions like: 1. "where do you work these days?" 2. "how many guys have you slept with" 3. "i saw your yahoo photos, you are so beautiful will you get on the camera so i can see you live?" Stuff like that.. So, i had a gut feeling it was him, so i checked my ex's email and sure enough, he had two of those confirmation emails, one from yahoo, and one from aol saying my ex had registered that screen name that was talking to me. My ex used the same password he has always used, so after "Jessie" logged out, i logged into this "new" screen name and it shows that i was the only person on "Jessie's" buddy list, not even my ex's new girlfriend was on the list (she's on his old screen name's buddy list) So that's my question, do you think he misses me, and after being with me two years, then dumping me for a girl he barely knew, now he feels bad? Is he too ashamed to talk to me as THE REAL HIM, so that's why he made up this "JESSIE" character?? Maybe this new girl wasn't what he was looking for? He had been messaging me every other night as "Jessie" for 6 months now..and I think he's still with that girl.. I miss him so much, (haven't seen or talked to him in 10 months) HELP!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Pebbles59 Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Wow, your ex has balls!!! What nerve!!! I don't know what to tell you, nor do I have any suggestions. I think this guy friend did the same thing to me many many months ago. All of a sudden this guy IMs me and I'm like "do I know you?" and he said we talked on a online dating thing! And I said "ummm, no, I never gave my name to anyone on an online dating thing" But he claims that he's from Montana or something. I have never talked to someone from Montana. But one day after a blowup with my guy friend, he all of a sudden IMs me. Asking me, if I had a boyfriend, talked about my problems. Just really weird. But I brush it off because I know it's someone playing games and in the long run, it's on their back and not mine. I surely don't know how you can confront your ex about this if you know his password and looked at his buddylist, etc, etc. I would definately ask him questions and try to corner and trap him and eventually he's going to screw up and give you some common information to point it to your ex and then I would confront him and ask him why does he even care, etc. Pebbles Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 The only thing his antics indicate is that he's a wacky lunatic whose lost his marbles. There is no honesty in his messages. If he wanted to get back with you and he was an honorable man, he would simply call you. He hasn't done that. He's just another crazy person...in a world filled with crazy people...so that doesn't make him very special, does it? And you really still love this guy? Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 I think that since this is him acting this way to simply avoid him. If he can't be brave enough to come clean and use the same name that you know him as, he's full of it. That's sneaky, not romantic. You also mentioned how could this guy just leave you for a complete stranger...she wasn't a complete stranger if he broke up with you for her. He had given her a lot of thought, and obviously had developed a relationship with her behind your back. Usually people break it off with someone for someone else after they feel "safe" in knowing that the other person wants them also. I could be wrong, but that's usually what it seems to be. Perhaps your boyfriend told you , "I really like this other woman, and I'm going to give it a go with her"...I just find that hard to believe. They usually have something with them where they know for sure so they break things off in the existing relationship. Based on that (the latter) and making up a different screen name (to try to trick/fool you), I'd say do not be at all flattered. Be disgusted at his repeated dishonesty. You CAN do better than him. He's immature, and he will meet his match. Link to post Share on other sites
Author orlando_bloom_is_hot Posted March 22, 2004 Author Share Posted March 22, 2004 to answer the questions asked: 1. yes i still love him, 2. and yes she was a stranger, he didn't even know how to spell her name correctly.. also shes 21 and her parents (from what i was told when they first got together 2 days after our breakup) her parents don't allow her to date and they may only be "together" at work.. i don't know if things have changed now after 10 months..maybe he's tired of this relationship of not being able to go anywhere with her and he's looking back at me now and remembering all the good times..who knows... all i know is her parents are very strict, so maybe he's tired of that. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Personally, I'd call him on the phone and ask him WTF???? Link to post Share on other sites
Pebbles59 Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 I wouldn't call him...only because he'll turn it around on her and say that she's a psycho for going into his screen names and snooping!!! I would ask him a ton of questions, save the IMs...he's bound to screw up somewhere and present him with that and say WTF???!!!!! Pebbles Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 I'd tell him tales of all my affairs in lurid detail, including the dimensions of the fellows involved and their talents. Especially if there had been no affairs. I'd also diss my former BF spectacularly. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 Ok, the fact that he dropped a 2 year relationship like a hot potato for someone he just met or became attracted to doesn't look good either. Shoot, that might be even worse in my book! How can you trust that he won't do that to you again? Looks to me like your his ace in the hole. If you go back to him now after he's pulled this CRAP, he knows how easy you are. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 I like Moimeme's idea and am ashamed I didn't think of it myself. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 I like Moimeme's idea and am ashamed I didn't think of it myself. I was waiting for you to do so! You mustn't be 100% again yet! Link to post Share on other sites
befuddled11 Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 The first thing that struck me as odd was the fact that you 2 met online....and chatted online/talked online for a "whole year" before meeting.....considering you lived only 30 minutes apart. Why on earth didn't you meet sooner? Secondly....the fact that he's been carrying on this "new person" (how creepy) for a whopping 6 months...that is insane. That is highly, highly creepy. He's trying to find out information about your life through devious means. And to carry that on for half a year, after you 2 had been together for 2 yrs? He sounds like a freakin' wacko. And this thing about his new girlfriend not being able to see him, except at work, because of her parents.....what? She's 21, you said he's 21. She's an adult. I find it hard to believe her parents wouldn't let her date at the age of 21. Sounds like BS to me. I'd do like the others suggested.......I'd start telling some incredibly juicy tales about all the hot guys you're dating, what a loser your ex was, how you won the lottery, etc etc LOL That or else, I'd just bust his arse and the next time me msg's you......tell him you know exactly who he is.....and that he should get a life (make sure you say his real name). Then block him and have no further contact. It doesn't matter that you still love him. He sounds crazy, and creepy. Asking you how many people you've slept with? What a sicko. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 I'd tell him tales of all my affairs in lurid detail, including the dimensions of the fellows involved and their talents. Especially if there had been no affairs. I'd also diss my former BF spectacularly. There you go! Haha..it's smart and that is also what he deserves! Link to post Share on other sites
Author orlando_bloom_is_hot Posted March 23, 2004 Author Share Posted March 23, 2004 1. I didn't meet him for over a year because i was 17 at the time (i'm 21 now) and my parents didn't want me to meet an internet guy, once i turned 18 we met and fell "in love" as my ex claimed.. (i am now 21, and so is my ex) 2. I do save all of the online convos with "Jessie" 3. He has messed up......He said he was from "long beach, ca." then a week later he was from "Los Angeles Ca" this week he's from "Sac. Ca." (HE CAN'T EVEN KEEP THE FAKE PERSONS STORY STRAIGHT!!!) Also he said he was "18, 21, 25, 22 years old" When ever he funks his story of who Jessie is, i pretend not to notice...just to see what stupid thing he will say next.. 4. I DO tell him wild tales about all the guys i'm hanging with, and how hot they all are (which isn't true) but it sure does piss "jessie" off.. my ex has even contacted one of my friends, via email to get new photos of me.. what's up with this?? I also have a conversation from one of mine and "Jessie's" AIM chats last night.. MY EX: what is up. me: sup ? MY EX: you gonna get on your cam for me? me: y? MY EX: what's the count so far? me: count? MY EX: yea, how many dicks you ****? me: 100000 MY EX: liar. MY EX: cam? how many guys have you been with? me: i can't remember..lots! MY EX: liar.. send me some photos. MY EX: i don't have pictures. me: just the old yahoo ones..sorry MY EX: but you're a hottie, you're fuc*ing beautiful. why don't you send me some new photos? me: i don't have any new ones.. MY EX: no cam? me: why do u always want me to get on my cam.. u know what i look like by now. MY EX: to see you. MY EX: eye see you. me: don't wanna at the moment MY EX: no cam? MY EX: why you look like shi*? me: no me: it would just give u a epileptic seizure anyway.. MY EX: what did you do today? me: went to work MY EX: where you work at? me: i don't tell strangers that. MY EX: ok.. what kinda work do you do, just tell me that much. me: um..no it's none of ur bizzness MY EX: so how many guys have you been with, i'm sure a lot huh, me:why do u say that? MY EX: cos u are fuc*ing beautiful, you have great looking lips me: where are you from? MY EX: los angeles me: last time you said you lived in long beach, then sacramento MY EX: i'm from all those places MY EX: what are you doing anyway? me: downloading a song.. MY EX: what song? me: u wouldnt know of it.. MY EX: well tell me! me: from autumn to ashes "autumns monologue" MY EX: ok. MY EX: is it done? MY EX: what's up with your hair in your yahoo photos? me: i have a hat on...stop looking at my pics all the time!! MY EX: get on your web cam then, and shake that ass for me! me: haha hell nawh, i don't even know u MY EX: cuz i wanna see you naked. MY EX: is that such a bad thing? me: yeah, cuz u could be some 50 year old guy living in ur mommas basement. me: and theres a small child here with me anyway MY EX: oh. i'm only 21 MY EX: how old is this child? me: he's 12 years old. me: last time you said you were 25!!!!! MY EX: take off just the hat? MY EX: it's an ugly hat. me: yo momma's ugly.. (2 MINS LATER) MY EX: where'd you go? me: to take off my ugly hat!! DAMN MY EX: anything else? MY EX: like your shirt? me: I'M NOT GETTING NAKED FOR AN INTERNET STRANGER! MY EX: ok me: so what street in "long beach" do u live? MY EX: don't ask me these personal questions. MY EX: direct connection is closed. MY EX: signed off at 12:29:33 AM. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 This is total crap and a game. He's baiting you, and there's nothing romantic about it! He's testing you to see if you'd fall for another guy on the internet like you fell for him to start off with. I don't reccomend teasing him in any way, or lying about all the guys you've been with, etc. He's an IDIOT. You could say the next time it happens, "Look, I don't talk to strange guys on the net anymore since my last boyfriend who turned out to be immature, full of crap, and a complete waste of my time. Why don't you go prey on some other lonely, vulnerable girl who will give it up because I'm not going to." The thing I don't understand is with all his actions, you still say you "love" this guy? Good grief, I'd be wondering how many other girls he's done this to. I wouldn't believe anything he has to say, either. He's a LOSER. Link to post Share on other sites
Author orlando_bloom_is_hot Posted March 23, 2004 Author Share Posted March 23, 2004 i'm the only girl he's done this to.. his first gf left him after two months, then he was with me 2 years,now he's with this new girl (10 months if they are still together).. i don't think i'm in love with him anymore..but i do want to try again maybe..as friends..we were so close...so so close for so long..just wish he would admit who he is..would love to see him again, if only he would say "hey this is really me!!!!" Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 If that's what you really want, then that's your perrogotive. I rest my case...I think the guy is a complete and total loser. There are other methods to win a girl back. Take a look at this forum, there is a guy that just sent his ex 2 dozen roses and a nice heart felt card. That's NORMAL. Trying to stalk you out on the computer is not. Dumping you like last week's garbage for someone else is NOT good. Yet, if you feel he is Mr. Wonderful all the same, good luck to you and further relationships. You will need it! Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 The thing I don't understand is with all his actions, you still say you "love" this guy? Next girl I get... imma treat like s***. Maybe then they'll have a real reason to leave me. J/k Ya you deserve much better. He sounds like a creep, he does not respect you. Honestly I do not know what intentions he had by talking/IMing you like that. Either he was horny or he felt like making someone feel bad. (And it had to be you) Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 Hurting, The guy is a LOOOOOOOZer! Seriously though, you see this ALL the time...how girls/women get all tangled up and crave the affections from Captain A-Hole. Link to post Share on other sites
Author orlando_bloom_is_hot Posted March 23, 2004 Author Share Posted March 23, 2004 . I didn't meet him for over a year because i was 17 at the time (i'm 21 now) and my parents didn't want me to meet an internet guy, once i turned 18 we met and fell "in love" as my ex claimed.. (i am now 21, and so is my ex) I do save all of the online convos with "Jessie" He has messed up......He said he was from "long beach, ca." then a week later he was from "Los Angeles Ca" this week he's from "Sac. Ca." (HE CAN'T EVEN KEEP THE FAKE PERSONS STORY STRAIGHT!!!) Also he said he was "18, 21, 25, 22 years old" When ever he funks his story of who Jessie is, i pretend not to notice...just to see what stupid thing he will say next.. I DO tell him wild tales about all the guys i'm hanging with, and how hot they all are (which isn't true) but it sure does piss "jessie" off.. my ex has even contacted one of my friends, via email to get new photos of me.. what's up with this?? I also have a conversation from one of mine and "Jessie's" AIM chats last night.. MY EX: what is up. me: sup ? MY EX: you gonna get on your cam for me? me: y? MY EX: what's the count so far? me: count? MY EX: yea, how many dicks you ****? me: 100000 MY EX: liar. MY EX: cam? how many guys have you been with? me: i can't remember..lots! MY EX: liar.. send me some photos. MY EX: i don't have pictures. me: just the old yahoo ones..sorry MY EX: but you're a hottie, you're fuc*ing beautiful. why don't you send me some new photos? me: i don't have any new ones.. MY EX: no cam? me: why do u always want me to get on my cam.. u know what i look like by now. MY EX: to see you. MY EX: eye see you. me: don't wanna at the moment MY EX: no cam? MY EX: why you look like shi*? me: no me: it would just give u a epileptic seizure anyway.. MY EX: what did you do today? me: went to work MY EX: where you work at? me: i don't tell strangers that. MY EX: ok.. what kinda work do you do, just tell me that much. me: um..no it's none of ur bizzness MY EX: so how many guys have you been with, i'm sure a lot huh, me:why do u say that? MY EX: cos u are fuc*ing beautiful, you have great looking lips me: where are you from? MY EX: los angeles me: last time you said you lived in long beach, then sacramento MY EX: i'm from all those places MY EX: what are you doing anyway? me: downloading a song.. MY EX: what song? me: u wouldnt know of it.. MY EX: well tell me! me: from autumn to ashes "autumns monologue" MY EX: ok. MY EX: is it done? MY EX: what's up with your hair in your yahoo photos? me: i have a hat on...stop looking at my pics all the time!! MY EX: get on your web cam then, and shake that ass for me! me: haha hell nawh, i don't even know u MY EX: cuz i wanna see you naked. MY EX: is that such a bad thing? me: yeah, cuz u could be some 50 year old guy living in ur mommas basement. me: and theres a small child here with me anyway MY EX: oh. i'm only 21 MY EX: how old is this child? me: he's 12 years old. me: last time you said you were 25!!!!! MY EX: take off just the hat? MY EX: it's an ugly hat. me: yo momma's ugly.. (2 MINS LATER) MY EX: where'd you go? me: to take off my ugly hat!! DAMN MY EX: anything else? MY EX: like your shirt? me: I'M NOT GETTING NAKED FOR AN INTERNET STRANGER! MY EX: ok me: so what street in "long beach" do u live? MY EX: don't ask me these personal questions. MY EX: direct connection is closed. MY EX: signed off at 12:29:33 AM. Link to post Share on other sites
befuddled11 Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 Despite what he "was" when you were with him for 2 years, he's not that now. He's a creepy, slimy cyberdog. He's fixated with your pictures, wanting you to get on your webcam, and his repeated requests for you to show yourself to him on cam. I wouldn't be at all surprised if he does this with tons of other gals. He sounds like a sicko. What he's doing is bizarre, at best. It's also totally disrespectful to YOU (he's making a mockery out of you, feeling all smug and likely laughing his ass off, thinking you don't know who he really is), and if he is still seeing that other girl, which he very likely could be, he's disrespecting HER...because imagine how she'd feel to know he was doing this? He's trying to make a fool out of you. He's trying to see if you'll give him what he's asking for. He likely thinks you're stupid for continuing to chat with him, despite the fact that you catch him in bold-faced lies. This is the kind of guy you'd want for a friend? There's nothing nice about what he's doing, and crap, he's been doing this for 6 months did you say? Yuck. Block him. Why do you continue to waste your time chatting with him? It seems pointless. He's fixated with your looks and how many guys you've slept with. He doesn't even seem polite to you. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 do you think he misses me, and after being with me two years, then dumping me for a girl he barely knew, now he feels bad? Is he too ashamed to talk to me as THE REAL HIM Nope he PROBABLY does not miss you. He wants to know if you are miserable without him. He gets a kick knowing that someone needs him in their life. If he wanted you back he would call you and tell you that he made a mistake. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 He's a Puter Pimp Link to post Share on other sites
Author orlando_bloom_is_hot Posted March 23, 2004 Author Share Posted March 23, 2004 why did he even bother making this fake name if he has her now? Link to post Share on other sites
overseas2004 Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 Sorry the only thing I think after reading his dialogue with you is that he is a stalking psycopath. But i am not sure if I spelled that correctly. Link to post Share on other sites
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