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What does it mean if an ex-boyfriend asks about you?


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Me and my ex broke up back in September (he moved across country). Stayed close with each other until the first part of December until I decided to cut contact because it was too painful talking to him at times. We haven't talked besides 2 little e-mails and it has been a month since we have talked at all. One of his friends is in my circle of friends and we still hangout. I guess they were talking the other night and my ex asked him about me, how I was doing I guess. Not trying to get my hopes up or anything, but I am just wondering if that means he has been thinking about me or what?

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Of course he has thought of you. Someone who once cared about you will naturally be curious about you from time to time; in this case, he actually voiced it outloud! As you implied earlier, it's best to not get your hopes up. Take it at face-value and don't read into it.

 

I hope your mutual friend didn't give him too much detail about you. Stay on track with your recovery. Don't sweat your ex's inquiry about you too much.

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Finally, a question I'm qualified to answer. Maybe.

 

As a man and the master of mutual friends I can field this question for you. When I ask about an ex-girlfriend it means 1 of 3 things:

 

1. I'm curious. I might be interested. A little bit of information will help me figure out which side of the fence I'm on.

 

2. I'm concerned. I care about her but I don't caaare about you.

 

3. I think I know something. If I've heard a rumor Im looking for confirmation.

 

I agree with Penelope. It could be good, bad, or anywhere in between. Its not worth spending a minute thinking about it without more information.

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I believe there is too much being read into his inquisition about you.

 

Look, he knows you hang with one of his friends and surely one of the two brought your name up, it might even be the person you’re hanging with and your EX could have simply said “oh ya, that’s interesting information, how is XXXXX anyway”.

 

When I put it like that it changes the perspective doesn’t it?

Hence the good advice in earlier posts to stop thinking about it. Face it, if he really wanted to move all the way back across the Country and be with you he would have called you to tell you.

 

Move on and pay it no more thought.

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