Can't stop caring...

[Username37]

It seems like I can't stop caring about this girl. She changed after the break up and that helped me move on, but I can't seem to stop thinking about her and all the **** that she done to me. I'm still in a total anger stage and at a stage where I'm trying to piece things together. If you want to read my story, look at a few of my old threads.

 

My friend told me that she doesn't care about me one bit anymore. I started NC in June and been doing really well at it and it seems that it affected her. More people see the new side of her by the way she talks. She tells girls about her hook ups and she seems to think she's "hot ****".

 

I've been focusing with my life and everything, but she's still haunting me. I feel like if I just yell at her, I can get it out of my system.

 

I need some help LS

[collegeguy_24]

I'm here for you man. I still have feelings for my ex, I still love her, even though she left me for someone else.

 

What you need to do is to release your anger, take it from me, its not healthy to keep it. Growing up, I used to have anger problems, I was always angry, to the point of alienating my own family. What you need is an outlet.

 

WHat I suggest you do is to go to the gym, take your anger out on weights or a punching bag.

 

Or you can do what I did, and that was to play video games. You'd be surprised how Grand Theft Auto and Resident evil 5 can help you get rid of your anger.

 

You can also have a Rambo marathon and cheer as he kills things. Trust me on this, it helps.

[Xewkija]

I use to have anger problems as well and purchased a punching bag which did help. But to be completely honest.. I use to to hardcore shows and jump into the pit and take my anger out that way. It worked very well. But that's only if you like shows like that.

[Username37]

I use to have anger problems as well and purchased a punching bag which did help. But to be completely honest.. I use to to hardcore shows and jump into the pit and take my anger out that way. It worked very well. But that's only if you like shows like that.

 

I love hardcore punk, but haven't been to a hardcore show. Concerts really helped me. I recently saw the Pixies, but my ex showed up (she only knew like....2 songs because of me) and that kinda bugged me, but didn't totally ruin it, for she got her ass kicked in a mosh haha

 

I'm here for you man. I still have feelings for my ex, I still love her, even though she left me for someone else.

 

What you need to do is to release your anger, take it from me, its not healthy to keep it. Growing up, I used to have anger problems, I was always angry, to the point of alienating my own family. What you need is an outlet.

 

WHat I suggest you do is to go to the gym, take your anger out on weights or a punching bag.

 

Or you can do what I did, and that was to play video games. You'd be surprised how Grand Theft Auto and Resident evil 5 can help you get rid of your anger.

 

You can also have a Rambo marathon and cheer as he kills things. Trust me on this, it helps.

 

Thanks college. You're a pal

 

I've been hitting the gym since the break up. I wanted to build a body so I can lure her back, but now it's to be healthy and get chicks haha. GTA was a helper, some of those missions really ticked me off.

 

I've been doing all I can, but she stills seems to bother me. I see her everyday and was even close to confronting her at a get together (I ignored her the whole night) plus hearing the stories of the new her and what she's done throws me over the edge. I guess I still care for her in a weird way. She was my first everything after all

[paperbag111]

I know exactly how you feel bruv. My ex broke up with me about 7 months ago and had changed so much that it actually helped me get over her, eventually. Less than a week after she broke up with me she slept with a few randoms cunts while drunk and sober. One a **** buddy. I was so ****ing pissed off. I know for a fact, well I though I knew, that she wasn't that type of girl to sleep around, she stood out from the rest, she wasn't a skank.

 

My ex acts really different now, the way she talks and how she thinks. eg. random sex is meaningless and the way she goes about it. I think she's just forcing herself to believe that because she knows she ****ed up and that's not who she is.

 

I know, we've convinced out minds that they're not worth it but it's our hearts that needs to be convinced, and it's not easy. She was my first in everything too. Every now and then she'll pop into my head and I get really worked up, you know, how she could do such things.

 

I hate it when you think you know someone and they turn out to be totally different.

[paperbag111]

Also, I read it on LS somewhere but the girl you knew and loved no longer exists. It's harsh but it's reality.

[Username37]

Also, I read it on LS somewhere but the girl you knew and loved no longer exists. It's harsh but it's reality.

 

I've been saying that since I found out she got with another guy 3 weeks after our break up. The old her is pretty much dead and it really ****ing sucks

 

I know exactly how you feel bruv. My ex broke up with me about 7 months ago and had changed so much that it actually helped me get over her, eventually. Less than a week after she broke up with me she slept with a few randoms cunts while drunk and sober. One a **** buddy. I was so ****ing pissed off. I know for a fact, well I though I knew, that she wasn't that type of girl to sleep around, she stood out from the rest, she wasn't a skank.

 

My ex acts really different now, the way she talks and how she thinks. eg. random sex is meaningless and the way she goes about it. I think she's just forcing herself to believe that because she knows she ****ed up and that's not who she is.

 

I know, we've convinced out minds that they're not worth it but it's our hearts that needs to be convinced, and it's not easy. She was my first in everything too. Every now and then she'll pop into my head and I get really worked up, you know, how she could do such things.

 

I hate it when you think you know someone and they turn out to be totally different.

 

My ex was the same. She was shy and different from the rest. In fact, she HATED those kinds of girls. Now she's one of them.

 

I thought I knew her, guess I didn't.

[heel_ing]

A lot of people will go out and get busy soon after a breakup. Because they can, and its an easy way to mask the pain.

 

However, their choice to **** it away only prolongs their path, and get them into more and longer term psychological trouble.

 

If you can deal with your **** now, then its better than putting it off.

Edited January 31, 2011 by heel_ing

[Username37]

A lot of people will go out and get busy soon after a breakup. Because they can, and its an easy way to mask the pain.

 

However, their choice to **** it away only prolongs their path, and get them into more and longer term psychological trouble.

 

If you can deal with your **** now, then its better than putting it off.

 

She's really good at hiding it. I always had that feeling that she's still hurting and missing me. But I don't want to think that's the truth.

 

And I hope, I want her to realize the **** she caused.

 

I'm trying my best to deal with this. I'm taking it one step at a time

[heel_ing]

If you had any real connection, for any real length of time, then she probably does miss you and is trying to f**k away the pain, like the Peaches song.

 

Its immaturity. It will come back to haunt them. It will lengthen their path towards finding something meaningful.

 

That's little consolation for the deep anger and pain we feel.

[paperbag111]

Yeah, things people are capable of that you didn't think were in them.

 

Every time she pops into my head, I say to myself that she's not worth your time or energy anymore.

[Username37]

If you had any real connection, for any real length of time, then she probably does miss you and is trying to f**k away the pain, like the Peaches song.

 

Its immaturity. It will come back to haunt them. It will lengthen their path towards finding something meaningful.

 

That's little consolation for the deep anger and pain we feel.

 

Well we were both each others first loves and she was very insecure (was kind of on the big side ya know?) and I told her that I didn't care what she looked like, because I loved her for who she was. I guess that's a connection. Idk if she misses me though. Recently, my friend told me she doesn't "care" for me. But that's probably her response to my long NC.

 

I just want her to get her heart broken and her to think "now I know how Username37 feels"

[SimonSerenade]

I hear you mate, My ex changed after the break up too, Turned as cold as ice and gave me the shoulder, Didn't really have a rhyme or a reason for why she left, Only got one last week to be honest, I was her first for everything aswell as having our first child together so imagining her with somebody else meaninglessly was pretty much the hardest hump to hurdle.

 

Take it from me, What she's doing now will come back on her in an ugly fashion because if she does meet somebody in the future who's worth a damn then I'm pretty much he will steer well clear of her after finding out about her meaningless encounters, Just be proud of yourself for going through this pain, It may be too much to bare at time's but at least you know your a good person within yourself for having the heart to feel it.

 

If she can do these things then she clearly isn't worth your time let alone your heart, You say care for her and miss her but just remember that she is far from the person your fond of in your memories and maybe the thought of moving on and never finding that again maybe painful to you as it is to many of us here, It's probably one of the biggest things that prevent us from moving on, You have to come to terms with the fact that the girl who you met all that time a go took a bus ride to hell and ain't coming back.

 

There are many great people out there, Some who will want nothing more than to please you, Never hurt you and stay by your side no matter what, Remember that you gave it your all and have no regrets, All you can do now is either be happy with yourself on your own or get out there and start fishing for something with more depth and meaning to it, Just remember that you had her at her best, You had your time together, Now it's over and it's time to let go, I feel I've let go of my ex now, It wasn't easy but hoping and praying she came back was holding me back and delaying my healing process.

 

Fact is, She left me and put me through the worst pain I have ever endured even to the point where a rope and a chair seemed like a good idea, Somebody who could put me through that and not care less don't deserve me, If she did come back it would be a waste of time, She's simply done too much to come back and for things to be even half as good as they were, Not after being discarded so easily, I'll find somebody else and have it better thank you very much, It would just end up being a case of "daft little cow, meaningless relationship, f*ck off :)".

 

Your ex needs to grow up big time and check the meaning to what she's doing, In the mean time don't give her a second thought cause she just ain't worth it.

[Username37]

I hear you mate, My ex changed after the break up too, Turned as cold as ice and gave me the shoulder, Didn't really have a rhyme or a reason for why she left, Only got one last week to be honest, I was her first for everything aswell as having our first child together so imagining her with somebody else meaninglessly was pretty much the hardest hump to hurdle.

 

Take it from me, What she's doing now will come back on her in an ugly fashion because if she does meet somebody in the future who's worth a damn then I'm pretty much he will steer well clear of her after finding out about her meaningless encounters, Just be proud of yourself for going through this pain, It may be too much to bare at time's but at least you know your a good person within yourself for having the heart to feel it.

 

If she can do these things then she clearly isn't worth your time let alone your heart, You say care for her and miss her but just remember that she is far from the person your fond of in your memories and maybe the thought of moving on and never finding that again maybe painful to you as it is to many of us here, It's probably one of the biggest things that prevent us from moving on, You have to come to terms with the fact that the girl who you met all that time a go took a bus ride to hell and ain't coming back.

 

There are many great people out there, Some who will want nothing more than to please you, Never hurt you and stay by your side no matter what, Remember that you gave it your all and have no regrets, All you can do now is either be happy with yourself on your own or get out there and start fishing for something with more depth and meaning to it, Just remember that you had her at her best, You had your time together, Now it's over and it's time to let go, I feel I've let go of my ex now, It wasn't easy but hoping and praying she came back was holding me back and delaying my healing process.

 

Fact is, She left me and put me through the worst pain I have ever endured even to the point where a rope and a chair seemed like a good idea, Somebody who could put me through that and not care less don't deserve me, If she did come back it would be a waste of time, She's simply done too much to come back and for things to be even half as good as they were, Not after being discarded so easily, I'll find somebody else and have it better thank you very much, It would just end up being a case of "daft little cow, meaningless relationship, f*ck off :)".

 

Your ex needs to grow up big time and check the meaning to what she's doing, In the mean time don't give her a second thought cause she just ain't worth it.

 

Wow dude, this was really a good post.

 

Read it this morning and it's been stuck in my mind all day. Thanks a lot.

 

I hope my ex grows up. She claims I was immature, which I was at times, but she wasn't so mature herself. She has a big ego and all that now.