women : would you date/marry a guy who paid for sex when he was single

[Joe Normal]

And this is ignoring concerns over STDs, safety, and human trafficking. A person really has no idea how a prostitute ended up where she did or what kind of situation she's in. Some of them do it of their own free will, but it's not like they carry licenses which prove they haven't been kidnapped and forced into it. If I somehow had managed to pay someone for sex, and it turned out they had been coerced into the job, I would feel like a complete and total piece of sh-t.

 

Casual sex has STD and safety risks. Most rapes are by someone the victim knows. Trafficking occurs with labourers, maids, and other menial workers. Do you refuse to employ gardeners, maids, cleaners, babysitters etc on the off chance they were trafficked?

 

This is just more double standards.

 

There's nothing wrong with simply disliking prostitution, and saying so. But don't try and invent irrational reasons for objecting to it, when you don't use those same reasons to object to other activities (such as employing menial labour, paying people for other services etc). Just be honest and say "I just don't like prostitution or men who pay them for sex, so I prefer not to date those guys".

[Joe Normal]

The vast majority of women who posted have said they would not date a man who has done it. So why would I take that chance with a girl I meet in real life?

 

There is absolutely no way that telling the truth about an escort can be beneficial.

 

That's why most men won't admit to it.

 

You're shooting yourself in the foot. Stay away from judgemental, hypocritical, sexually prudish women, unless you are also like that. You should go for people who accept you for who you are, not pretend to be someone else and trick them into being with you under false pretences.

 

You increase your odds of getting a woman by lying, but you reduce your chance of getting a suitable woman. It is better to be single than with an unsuitable prudish woman.

[denise_xo]

Joe, I think you're missing the mark. The point many women make with regard to prostitution is exactly that they don't see sex as something that should be constituted as a service to be paid for.

 

There is no double standard whatsoever in being concerned about human trafficking. As in all other areas of life, we should try to act ethically with regard to consumption. This means that, in some cases, one avoids using particular companies or buying services from specific people.

[Anela]

No.

 

I was turned off by a man who put himself in that environment in Thailand, and finally admitted to having slept with two of them (despite saying that the whole idea of it depressed him - he claimed that the two girls *really* liked him. I did, until he did that.)

 

He also spoke of several one-night stands afterwards, which also turned me off. Not all women are into casual sex - it does nothing for some of us, so the argument that a woman can get sex whenever she wants it, doesn't work for me. No, I can't, because I need to feel something for the person in the first place, and have it not be a temporary thing.

 

Due to my situation, I rarely meet men- especially ones that I really hit it off with. I was single for a long time, due to fear, and now that I've felt more ready for something, I run into disappointment, over and over. He deliberately hurt me, but the fact that he put himself in that environment for two weeks? Ugh.

Edited February 7, 2011 by Anela