I want casual fun

[Trimmer]

Yet another reason to rejoice in my reproductive health.

 

Sorry to be snarky, datemenow, but young women with fertility issues have enough difficulty coming to terms with their bodies as it is, even when their partners/family/friends are supportive and understanding. I suggest you choose your words with a little more tact.

Yes, you're right, it was snarky...

[alethean]

I called him 5 times over the period of as while day, cos he said he was very keen to hang out, and I was bored and wanted to hang out.

 

I told him that I felt that I called too many times and was embarrassed, and said that as he already knew, I am very quiet and have not had much experience with men.

 

I think it is totally fine to make a slip up, such as calling a few too many times, and then admitting to the guy " look sorry, I am, embarrassed about calling that many times, I had not had much to do with men at all these past few years and only realized after that it may have been annoying of me to call u so much"

 

 

I told him bout the website cos some person from here got a hold of my face book page, and tried to find him,

 

I just told the guy " by the way, because I was embarrassed about the calls I made to u, I went on a website, which is very popular, where people all go to get advice about men. because I was embarrased with the phone calls, I went on the site, and some one got hold of the face book details of ppl on my face book, and are out trying to contact u to embarras me"

 

he was fine with this; he is the busy type and I can tell he is nto familiar with such web communities as love shack, however, he is easy going and does not think too much about people like me who he does not yet know well.

 

I am lucky that he is a very out going and social guy, so that he dos not have the energy to invest to care too much about little strange thing some random girl does.

 

I am sure I came off as different, however, I have not gone and harrassed him or done anything to exacerbate the situation.

 

At the most, he may be wondering why a girl he just wanted to hang out with, incessantly talked about the sex bit, when he was open to just hanging out.

 

Again, because I have not spent time around people for a few years, ( as in, i can be great with ppl, but I just have not STAYED around people for hours and hours on a given day).

 

I feel that because I have not spent a lot of time in one day with a person, that I do not have enough substance to me to ... be around a person for a whole day.

 

 

I am just leaving it with this guy for now - he said he still wanted the sex this week. I told him to call a few days after Tuesday, as my mum is visiting from over seas; he said 'kk"

 

IF he remembers to msg me on face book great, if not, I will just casually send him a msg in a week or so, asking if he wants to hang out.

 

I won t mention sex again, because really, I actually would prefer to just hang out with guys, and just let things happen naturally, without me pre empting the situation.

 

Cool. Thanks for explaining.

 

I'm similar to you in that in previous years, I have not had much social interaction. It's only been in the past couple of years that I have been practicing. I feel like I am constantly behind and don't know basic social cues. But, I know that I am at this point better than I was three years ago, when I started university. I know that I am better than I was three years ago, so as long as I compare me now to my old self, instead of me to others, I can feel good about my progress.

 

The thoughts I've bolded I have had before. It's one thing to think them, however, and quite another to live them. I hope that you're actually looking for new experiences and are willing to go out of your comfort zone. I mean, while being fit is important, there are other things to life. You don't want to be one-dimensional. You want to be interesting to yourself and others. Good luck in finding yourself though. I know how frustrating it can be. For me, cognitive behavioral and talk therapy played a role, but so did having an open mind and seeing what else life had to offer.