crimsonskies Posted January 30, 2011 Share Posted January 30, 2011 (edited) So I got broken up with about 2 weeks ago, we'd been together for a year,and everything seemed fine until last month where I could feel himself becoming distant from me, yet would still tell me that he loved me etc etc. We both study and work,and live in the same area.We spent new years together.Then after that things became weird, he put a lot of pressure on himself to study and was working a lot of hours, it was becoming difficult to hang out, and I was giving him space to do this. The last time we spent the night together he said he had been looking forward to seeing me, everything seemed great,and in the morning we kissed each other goodbye as usual. I hadn't expected to see him for a few days because he was so stressed with things, then on the weekend I sent him a text and he seemed a bit 'off' with me and that he was having some problems financially, I said for him to text me when he wanted to talk, and he was like there's nothing to talk about. So the next day he texts me like everything is normal, i bump into him and he gives me a kiss and apologises for being busy. Then the day after I don't hear from him so I text him to which he later replies asking to come over. Then you know what happens.....didn't really give me a specific reason, just that he wasn't happy. Anyway I implemented the NC straight away. I've gone out with friends, kept busy and avoided places where I would see him which is pretty difficult but i've managed. And made out like im happy etc. So then I see him walking past where I work twice in one day...now he doesn't need to do this because he goes through short cuts to places and this is the long way round and both times he's tried to look in (im guessing to see me, maybe because he wants to know how im doing) then i saw him again the other day from afar and i could see him out the corner of my eye watching me walk past, he didn't seem happy when he was talking to someone else whilst watching me (maybe guilt again). Then again I saw him yesterday walking past my work to go somewhere and he seemed 'subdued' i guess is the word, but I've heard from friends that he seems happy. I mean I'm happy when Im out doing stuff with friends but when I see him or am alone it hurts. I know im just grasping onto little bits of hope which I know I shouldnt do, and I have to move on. But its difficult, as i feel i have no answers. I know one of the biggest problems we had was communication, we both bottled our feelings up until BOOM I can't help but think that if had both talked about it, we wouldn't have had to go through this. But what's done is done. I know i shouldn't talk to him and I wont but its hard when i feel like i've lost somebody really important in my life. I just dont know what Im meant to do. If anyone can give me advice or has any input it would be appreciated. Edited January 30, 2011 by crimsonskies Link to post Share on other sites
Author crimsonskies Posted January 30, 2011 Author Share Posted January 30, 2011 I also think I made the mistake of telling him that he was my longest relationship, because it was a week after this that he broke up with me. Do you think this might have spurred him into breaking up with me? Link to post Share on other sites
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