Fallen123 Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 Guys I really need help my ex and I broke up a few weeks ago( he thought I was out with another guy .. he has bad trust issues) ,and I really torn up about this I'm completely in love with him and want nothing to do with any other guys, but at this time no matter what I seem to say or do my ex doesnt want me back. Yet he's still always talking to me when he sees or flirting. He still tells me he loves me and etc. He says he's just confused and isn't sure if he wants to be with me. he has been saying this for the past couple of weeks. I'm just unsure of how to take this at first i'd try and tell him how much I loved him and wanted him back and I would try to call him all the time and when I'd see him talking to other girls I get all possessive and act like it was still my man but I dont think thats was working only making me look like the fool. So can ya'll tell me some advice!!! please I going crazy .... I just want him back. Is it alright to be his friend and still do things together for example we have quite alot of mutual friends how do I handel being with my friends when he is around also. Do I just need to quit talking to him completely or what!!! PLease help me out I need him back he's everything to me. CAn I still be flirty with him but not crazy trying to presure him into getting back with me or asking him about other girls. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 Being friends only seems to work if you both have the same 'end result' goal. In your case, you are hoping the friendship will win him back. In his case, he is saying he doesn't want to continue the relationship with you. People who are in the position of needing to break up (for whatever reason) DO have a hard time saying "I do not love you anymore.". Just because they don't admit it....doesn't mean it isn't what they are thinking. They are just HARD WORDS to say. He may agree to a friendship IF there is a lot of distance. Keep in mind though, if he wanted to spend a lot of time with you, he wouldn't have broken it off in the first place. Don't set youself up for further disappointment and heartbreak. Be careful and guard your heart. Link to post Share on other sites
LuvHurtsme Posted March 23, 2004 Share Posted March 23, 2004 I am also in a similar situation. My ex gf says she loves me yet, we aren't together... it doesn't really make sense. I know how bad u must be hurting, you love him so much and he says he loves you but won't be with you. It drives me crazy too. All I can offer is don't let him play games with your heart, do you really wanna be friends with him? If not, then make it clear that you want it all or nothing. I know it's hard to think like that but in my past experiences "friends" just won't work unless ur both comfortable with knowing ur ex has moved on. I hope things work out for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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