JohnHK Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 I was looking for some advice on something that I've kind of already locked myself into. This V-Day will be the first that my girlfriend and I have done long-distance, and I had the idea to surprise her by dropping into town that weekend. I got really excited about the idea and when I saw how cheap flights were, I went ahead and booked one. I arranged with a mutual friend to make plans with her that Friday so I knew of at least one night when it would be safe to make dinner reservations. Now I'm second-guessing myself. On the one hand, we have a good relationship and I know she would generally be glad to see me. But on the other hand, I'm starting to get nervous that she'll take it the wrong way and be upset that I didn't tell her. I'm wondering if I should just go ahead and tell her that I'm coming to avoid an uncomfortable situation at the door in case she does react that way. Any thoughts? Should I stick to my plan or just drop the surprise? Anyone had experience with this kind of thing? Link to post Share on other sites
Faded_x Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 It all depends on what kind of girl she is, really. Some people like surprises, some don't. Is she generally the type of person who likes to have everything organised, or is she more the "go with the flow" type? Personally, while I do like the idea of a surprise visit; I would prefer to be aware ahead of time. Even if only a little in advance. I'm usually the go with the flow type, but visits with the boyfriend I like to be able to get myself organised. Just for silly little things like beauty appointments and making sure my room is tidy haha. That's just me though; but I certainly would never be angry or upset if my boyfriend surprised me. I would take it in the lovely gesture it was meant! Link to post Share on other sites
bubbles5 Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 If she loves you she will not at all get upset abt ur surprise, I would also say go with a surprise thats the way u can make her feel special gud luck Link to post Share on other sites
befreckled Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 I love a surprise! If my bf turned up at my office/doorstep I would be VERY happy. Esp. in an LDR where you need to take all the opportunities that come along to make the best of it. I say do it, I cannot think of a reason why she would not like it. Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 I really don't understand why you think she wouldn't be happy. Sorry to sound harsh, but if my boyfriend did this for me, I couldn't be happier! If I felt any other way, I'd be questioning way more than the visit. Link to post Share on other sites
heartbeats4u Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 ^ I agree. I don't see how she could possibly be anything less than happy to see you. I surprised my girlfriend after three months of not seeing her by showing up at her door with roses and a little gift, and the look on her face when she saw me standing there was something I will never forget. Don't let it go so easily. I say go for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Go for it, and you have also done a good thing by cluing a friend in and having them make dinner plans, so that the friend can make sure that GF isn't sitting around with a face mask on, waxing her upper lif when the door bell rings. Link to post Share on other sites
60Kxo Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 You could make it something fun for her. She'll know immediately that it is you, but the anticipation would be incredible. Check out my post here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=261638&page=2 Link to post Share on other sites
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