What are your valentine's day plans?

[donnamaybe]

I just received a gorgeous, very tasteful flower arrangement from my baby at my office! It's in a cute little yellow pot with pinks, purples, a red rose, a peachy-yellow-red one, irises, etc. It's bright and springy and JUST what the doctor ordered!

[greengoddess]

I just received a gorgeous, very tasteful flower arrangement from my baby at my office! It's in a cute little yellow pot with pinks, purples, a red rose, a peachy-yellow-red one, irises, etc. It's bright and springy and JUST what the doctor ordered!

I love love love spring flowers. So much nicer than your traditional red roses. My favorite is tulips. They just speak springtime to me!!

[donnamaybe]

I love love love spring flowers. So much nicer than your traditional red roses. My favorite is tulips. They just speak springtime to me!!

Yes, the pinks are tulips!! And there are these cute little yellow flowers that look like fuzzy little balls.

[Brokenlady]

I got home last night after a weekend away with my kids and had a message on my answering machine that a florist was trying to deliver flowers to me. I know they must be from xDM. I have a little bit on an evil temptation to have them deliver the flowers to his xW instead.

 

It really pisses me off that he seems to think flowers will make up for anything, or even just trigger some bullsh*t nostalgia so I'd rush over tonight. I am a little gratified knowing that he will drive past my house tonight and realize I'm not home - because I'm out on date with a nice single guy. Still, it annoys me that he can't respect my wishes and just leave me alone like i asked.

 

Funny though - I was thinking the other day that all of our Valentine's Days while we were together were awful. The 1st he was with his xW. The 2nd he took his xW for a weekend away (they were still together). The 3rd, he broke his promise to move out in January "because it would be mean to leave her before Valentines". The fourth I wasn't speaking to him because of the debacle where he lied to his xW (from whom he was by then divorced) about our engagement and slept up at her house. All horrid. But yeah, flowers for the Valentines occurring after I told him to go away make it all better, right? Please!

 

No, I am going to enjoy myself tonight. And he isn't going to get a single thought of mine.

[Hazyhead]

I loved reading this thread I hope everybody has a fabulous Valentine's. Mine hasn't really gone any further than the kids I work with making me a card, bless them, but next year I hope to join you guys in doing something a little more romantic than watching Glee with a glass of wine.

 

Enjoy, all!

[wintersummer]

I am a MOW in a relationship for 9 months with a MM. We've had our ups and downs, but basically, it's working for us. He's a very nice person and always delightful. We enjoyed lunch and laughed and flirted, the usual fun stuff. Anyway, we both had to return to work, so the date was ending and I pulled out a little gift for him. Guess what? He had NOTHING for me!!! We exchanged Bday gifts, Christmas gifts, etc.. but today nothing!!! I said it was ok, that I didn't care about the gift, and I was feeling silly for getting something and I really didn't care that he didn't get me anyting, but I DO CARE. He has been sending notes all afternoon about how he is going to make it up to me big time and how bad he feels, but he didn't think we were going to exchange gifts. I said, don't worry about it.. forget it. But inside, it hurts. I was thinking to myself, "wow, he must not value the relationship" and at that moment, I get an email - "I feel so bad for letting you down, you must think I don't value the relationship, but I do.."

 

I think about previous relationships, and I don't think anyone has ever NOT given me something for Valentines..

 

I don't know what to make of it.

[sugarbritches]

BB07, That's EXACTLY what I want to do!! I've been journaling about what a liar my xMM was. He used to ask me "You're still gonna want me after I'm divorced, aren't you?" "You're not one of those women with intimacy issues who actually likes separated men, are you?" "It would break my heart if you left me after all this is over."

 

So, I've been journaling about what a back stabbing, lying, fake #ss shrew he is. Lol, much healthier than journaling about missing him or praying to God for him to come back! I'd say I've made progress.

 

As for Valentine's Day, I have some strong, fiesty female friends to hang out with. My day is going to be great, no tears will be shed.

 

Good for you Sunset, He doesn't deserve you.

Find a man that will respect you and that isn't married.

If he is telling you that crap,

His poor wife, think of the crap he is telling her.

You are smart to worry more about you then him.

[sugarbritches]

I am a MOW in a relationship for 9 months with a MM. We've had our ups and downs, but basically, it's working for us. He's a very nice person and always delightful. We enjoyed lunch and laughed and flirted, the usual fun stuff. Anyway, we both had to return to work, so the date was ending and I pulled out a little gift for him. Guess what? He had NOTHING for me!!! We exchanged Bday gifts, Christmas gifts, etc.. but today nothing!!! I said it was ok, that I didn't care about the gift, and I was feeling silly for getting something and I really didn't care that he didn't get me anyting, but I DO CARE. He has been sending notes all afternoon about how he is going to make it up to me big time and how bad he feels, but he didn't think we were going to exchange gifts. I said, don't worry about it.. forget it. But inside, it hurts. I was thinking to myself, "wow, he must not value the relationship" and at that moment, I get an email - "I feel so bad for letting you down, you must think I don't value the relationship, but I do.."

 

I think about previous relationships, and I don't think anyone has ever NOT given me something for Valentines..

 

I don't know what to make of it.

 

He is married? Bet he remember to get his wife something!

You deserve better then this.

[half_ofa_heart]

I am a very happy woman... today! All I wanted (All I have ever wanted on any special day) was a card and I got that. First thing this morning! We also met at lunch and had a wonderful afternoon together.

 

There are MANY MANY bad days for us but I'm happy that today isn't one of them. Today, I have a WHOLE HEART

[BeachBetty]

He is married? Bet he remember to get his wife something!

You deserve better then this.

 

Really?!

 

I bet she's lucky if she even gets a card...

 

I know I got more than that...Better go, he's out of the shower now...

[OWoman]

Well, the evening went very pleasantly indeed! We went to a special screening of a classic film - my favourite in its genre - and then on to a special valentine's dinner in a tres elegante setting, both dressed to the nines. We could hardly keep our hands off each other until we got home... :love:

[TinaniT]

The surprise was an overly indulgent dinner at this top tier local restaurant. It was romantic. And an assortment of nice gifts.

 

Hope everyone had a beautiful day!

[whichwayisup]

HAHAHAHA! Thank you WWIU!! I'm picturing the box with a little brown empty wrapper right smack in the middle.

 

I am making chocolate cupcakes as I type and took myself to a movie by myself today. I may just buy myself some flowers tomorrow as well. My kids always make me feel special on this day so I always have that to look forward to.

 

I try not to expect more than what I ask for - a card isn't too much to ask... unless he's afraid of it fallling into the wrong hands. Still not a good enough excuse for me. I want a card!!! $3 tops! Not asking for a lot!

 

I am a chocolate/candy stealer, if it's there I'll eat it, no matter who's it is! I'm on such a chocolate buzz right now..My young nieces both gave me chocolates as well as my H. And then 2 sets of neighbours and their kids dropped by with MORE chocolate.

 

Glad your kids put a smile on your face!

[whichwayisup]

I am a very happy woman... today! All I wanted (All I have ever wanted on any special day) was a card and I got that. First thing this morning! We also met at lunch and had a wonderful afternoon together.

 

There are MANY MANY bad days for us but I'm happy that today isn't one of them. Today, I have a WHOLE HEART

 

So he listened to you!

 

Hmm, don't like that "many many bad days for us, but happy today.." that scares me for you.

[NoIDidn't]

I don't celebrate any "holiday" that retailers insist I must.

 

Had no plans.

 

Loved it that way.

[half_ofa_heart]

So he listened to you!

 

Hmm, don't like that "many many bad days for us, but happy today.." that scares me for you.

 

WWIU... First let me say that I too am a chocoholic!!! I can't have it around cuz I'll eat it. It sounds like you might be on overload though

 

Mostly the bad days are of my own doing in that I think too much. I am always wondering about what is happening at home between him and his W. Not feeling secure in my relationship with him and honestly, who wouldn't???? This is what I mean by "bad days". Bad may be a bit extreme so let's just say they weren't good.

 

However, I'm not exactly sure what has happened in the last few weeks but I don't want to jynx it as we (perhaps just me) are on such a high that I'm afraid the fall will be awful!!!

 

I'm feeling VERY secure in our relationship and perhaps its because he is being so attentive and meeting my needs. I know its far from being normal or from meeting ALL of my needs but it's far better than what it has been. I hate to overanalyze it and like I said, I'm very afraid of coming down off this high because this is the BEST it's ever been between us.

 

I guess I will know very soon. Thanks for making me laugh when I was feeling like the fall was going to be on my favorite day of the year.

 

HUGS

WHOLE Heart

[Summer Breeze]

My BF showed up Saturday morning and told me to pack a bag with 2 days worth of clothes. We got in the car and went south. 5 hours later we were at my childs door. We hadn't seen each other since Christmas and the birthday is this week. BF got me there and then cooked me dinner on V Day night.

 

xMM sent a dozen roses and a card.

 

The only downside. I didn't get to use the uniform or the gag. Guess there's always next year!

[seren]

I had planned a lovely meal, then H said he would cook!! H never cooks, it just isn't a very good idea when he tries to cook as he hasn't mastered getting everything ready at the same time so something is always cold.

 

We dressed up in our finery, table was set to look lovely and I was served his speciality - pate and toast followed by bacon egg and chips and chocolate pudding a la microwave. It was a reminder of when we were first starting out and the only things we could afford were cheap and quick. It was lovely, I had forgotten how good bacon egg and chips could be!! had a lovely night reminiscing about old times and planning new one's.

 

All this followed by cheesy music, I love thirties music he is a rock man. dancing in the kitchen and much other activity. My present came on the 15th as H said he loves me everyday not just Valentine's day. I think he has had a lobotomy as he is not an overly romantic man, more subtle. My present was a lovely book of memories and a bolt of antique fabric I have been lusting after for ages. Lovely man that he is.