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when choosing a person to date, would you rather be around or perfer a really happy person with an incredible personality. Or would you driven by good looks ?

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tattoomytoe

i think initially looks play the main factor.... but like with my friends.. i have friends that others may not think of as cute, but i know them as more than their faces, so to me i really do not think of them as The friend with great hair, or the friend with an awesome butt.

 

i honestly didn't think my bf was that cute when we first started dating...but he is just the most adorable thing now that i know him, and love him.

 

then i know really great looking people that are mean, or stupid, and i really do not think of them when i think of attractive...to me it is The Whole Package.

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viciouscancer

good looks come with good personalities. i first look at her looks. then if she is great physically, then comes her morals. not too much personality. i would look at the way she acts in relationships. loyalty is my main priority.

 

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RedneckRomeo

I'd rather have both - but if I had to pick one, it would be the really great personality. It wouldn't matter how cute she was if she had a bad personality. Now from a distance - looks tend to be what draws attention most the time, but the girl that I'm after has an awesome personality and it wouldn't have mattered how she looked because she's very friendly and came over to talk right away (we were old friends long time ago). Now she does look great too - Shoulder-length blonde curly hair, brown eyes, beautiful smile, slightly shorter than me, small (but not tiny) breasts and butt, but they're just perfect for her body. So if I ever get the courage to ask her out - I'll have the whole package instead of just half of it. :)

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Hmm, I'd prefer both, but much rather have the bitter, spiteful, unintelligent, boring, ignorant girl with a nice rack. :rolleyes:

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I've found that a great guy with a sexy personality.....just BECOMES good looking as you get to know him.

 

After awhile, you wonder why you didn't notice it right away.

 

Eventually, you think he's the hottest thing in the world.

 

Then he dumps you and you realize he's an A$$.

 

But you still think he's hot.

 

SO ...here you are.....with the hots for an ugly JACKA$$.

 

It's happened to me more than once!!!!! :D

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sportsloving
Originally posted by Arabess

I've found that a great guy with a sexy personality.....just BECOMES good looking as you get to know him.

 

After awhile, you wonder why you didn't notice it right away.

 

Eventually, you think he's the hottest thing in the world.

 

Then he dumps you and you realize he's an A$$.

 

But you still think he's hot.

 

SO ...here you are.....with the hots for an ugly JACKA$$.

 

It's happened to me more than once!!!!! :D

 

And the sad thing? It is so freaking true!

 

My S/O shouldn't have been my type at all. Although he has the tall, dark and handsome down, and has incredible eyes: he is also about six foot eight (to my five ft five), ex body builder (I never was into the muscle-ly types), and with the muscles weighs in about 300 (and I won't mention my weight but how about dress size of six?). So I would say the personality and sweet disposition, his charm, wittiness, and just being him that did it for me. (Also doesn't hurt that his size alone intimidates so it is safe to walk down a dark alley with him as a guide ;) )

 

Looks fade, it is the person inside that counts.

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There's gotta be a good combo of both. I agree that once you get to know someone better they do become better looking. A lot of time the really hot people are shallow anyways.

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ah, sportsloving, that's so sweet, I love women like you. I'm a big boy too, and women always overlook me. It gets a little lonely sometimes, but I deal. I just don't know why I'm not taken seriously, I feel I'm a great catch. How did your man get you?

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sportsloving
Originally posted by sweetbilly

ah, sportsloving, that's so sweet, I love women like you. I'm a big boy too, and women always overlook me. It gets a little lonely sometimes, but I deal. I just don't know why I'm not taken seriously, I feel I'm a great catch. How did your man get you?

 

Thank you, you made me smile big! Actually we met playing solitaire online and I was making fun of his typing (great thing about his sense of humor) and about a week later he and I swapped pictures. I admitted at the time I was a little freaked out, I mean the dude's arms were HUGE. But we kept talking, and things just kept getting better and better. Now I don't see the outside ... I see the guy. And he is just a great big teddy bear to me.

 

I am betting you will find the one person who will see the real you too. It is funny though, most of my friends seem to like the big guys and I never really did. How odd life is at times~ Best wishes and may you find the one who knows you are the great catch!

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Originally posted by Arabess

I've found that a great guy with a sexy personality.....just BECOMES good looking as you get to know him.

 

After awhile, you wonder why you didn't notice it right away.

 

Eventually, you think he's the hottest thing in the world.

 

Then he dumps you and you realize he's an A$$.

 

But you still think he's hot.

 

SO ...here you are.....with the hots for an ugly JACKA$$.

:D

 

ROTFL !! Oh my, that was funny!! Looks like you're back in top form Arabess!

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HAHA Free.

 

You are right....even a near death experience did not curb my bitter sarcasm!!! When my doctor told me something corny like 'stopping to smell the roses' (while prescribing anti-anxiety pills)....I replied I found comfort in 'wallowing in the weeds'.

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LOL, Arabess!

 

It's a great quality to be able to amuse yourself, especially when things aren't going as well as they can be.

 

One time I had just put some food and water down for my cat, who was hesitating about eating it for some reason. I was standing over him and I said,

 

"eat..."

"drink..."

"be furry..." and burst out laughing. The cat didn't blink, but I cracked myself up!

 

To answer your question sweetbilly, it's not so much looks with me as attraction. I've gone out with guys who weren't necessarily handsome, but who I was very attracted to. The problem with that is that I've rarely gotten to know them well before we got involved so it took awhile to realize they didn't have much personality!

 

I prefer in general to be around people who make me laugh and comfortable so I guess I would have to go with the great personality option.

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I play it safe Sweetbilly.....I chose a man who has adequate beer money. :laugh:

 

Free,

I'm going to paint a sign today over my cat's bowl saying your statement. That's just too cute!!! Mine is a great big white female fur ball that has to have dry and wet food bowls....and fresh water with an ice cube.

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Originally posted by Arabess

 

Free,

I'm going to paint a sign today over my cat's bowl saying your statement. That's just too cute!!! Mine is a great big white female fur ball that has to have dry and wet food bowls....and fresh water with an ice cube.

 

LOL - My cats used to make me laugh all the time. Especially one of them. He was a riot. Unfortunately they both died and I haven't been able to bring myself to get another. The one was just the love of my life. He was so sweet and fun. Talk about personality!

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Arabess, I have alot of beer money, and if you were here I'd take you out for a night on the town xoxo.

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Be careful with your offers Sweetie Billy. The last time someone made such an offer, I flew to AZ and we fell in love. :p

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God Arabess, u crack me up. Glad to see ur back btw. I don't have beer money, already spent it on beer. :D But I do have lots of that...u should come to Va and hang out. Rednecks have the best parties ya know. We have the best moonshine, always lots of bud and wild turkey, some "smokage" that would blow most ppl away, and lots and lots of guns...sounds good already don't it! Actually rednecks with a buzz AND a gun could be slightly scary. :laugh:

 

As for the question at hand...personality most def. Looks don't mean a damn thing if there's nothing else there(unless they're JUST a piece of a$$ of course). I admit looks are always the first thing u notice...but the best treasures are the ones u come to realize u've found, the dusty rusty ones that u wipe off and find out just what u have.

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HokeyReligions

Neither. Attractiveness is directly related to the number of digits to the left of the decimal point in the bank account and assets of an individual. The richer the man, the more attractive he is. I don't look at a guy's bottom, I look at his bottom line. ;)

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I look gorgeous girls who are dumb as a box of rocks with the personality of a splinter.

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HokeyReligions

oooh---be careful with those splinter personalities--they can get under your skin before you know it and irritate the he11 out of you! ;)

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