lonely79 Posted February 3, 2011 Share Posted February 3, 2011 Why is it always so hard the days/week after a visit? I posted right after our visit when i was still feeling all wonderful from it...and now im all down in the dumps, feeling insecure...sure he's gonna meet someone better, sure he doesn't think this is worth it, etc. I know I'm being dumb but its like clockwork! doubts set in every time!! And I cant just bring it up with him all the time, cuz we are so new and I dont want to seem super clingy and like I need reassurance all the time. We DID talk about it before he left and he did reassure me and then of course he left and doubts came creeping back in. How do you deal with this? does it get easier the more times you go through it? this is our 3rd visit and it almost seems like its getting worse.... Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted February 3, 2011 Share Posted February 3, 2011 I don't want to speak for anyone, but I think it's safe to say what you're going through is totally normal. You come down from the high of your visit and are utterly depressed...and then you just carry on. Saying goodbye never gets any easier...I think it gets harder in some aspects each time. The only thing that gets better is how you learn to deal with it. For me, it's always about planning that next visit and working towards taking those next steps to ultimately resolve the distance that get me through. Definitely stay away from bringing it up all the time, especially at the beginning. I've learned you both need to work together through this difficult time, not drive each other crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted February 3, 2011 Share Posted February 3, 2011 I agree with folieadeux, saying goodbye only gets harder with each visit. Hell, I started crying last night on the phone with my boyfriend because I thought about how I'd have to be saying goodbye to him on Monday and I know that when he leaves the sadness and depression are going to hit full force. And I'll be moving to be with him for good 4 weeks later! So this is absolutely normal. But try to focus on that you'll be seeing each other again in the future. Plan what you want to do next trip, look at the pictures you two took while he was here, reminisce on the good times and think of how in the future there will be even more great moments. Do anything to keep your mind off thinking about him no longer being with you. Link to post Share on other sites
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