StoneCold Posted February 6, 2011 Share Posted February 6, 2011 He displayes the exact mindset I would expect. That of ME ME MEEEEEE!!!! And you're Jesus Christ? If you want to do this, for God's sake, don't get married. Be a single player and screw other players, but be honest about it and don't hoodwink a poor spouse who is the one doing all the mundane things for him, so he can go have exciting affairs. Unfortunately the vast majority of people realize the failings of the concept of marriage after the fact. What a sad little man. He thinks of sex as a hobby. Perhaps sex is a hobby.. to him... since when were you the "hobby" police? This poor man thinks he is living the high life and he is going to be such a broken lonely man one day. He loves his wife and is happily married. Poof. She'll be gone. Sigh~~ Walk across the street and get hit by a car... Poof your gone Kids grow up and eventually leave...poof they're gone Get Cancer...1 in 3 chance of contracting it..poof your done People live mediocre lives...they play it safe...they think they are being "noble" and then when they are older they look back on their lives and see few victories in a sea of regrets....and then POOF; its all gone. I guess we all live pretty "sad" lives Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted February 6, 2011 Share Posted February 6, 2011 Yup. This seems to be the M.O. for several people, including some posters here. It always strikes me as ironic when someone whines about not losing their spouse while they play smack the wood or hide the root with someone else. In this case several someone else(s). You know what I find Ironic? Sex and sexual needs always seems to have to take a back seat within a marriage. It goes way down on the list because its "not important". "Not everything is sex" they will say.. Then you get caught cheating (duh) and then sex becomes the elephant in the room. Give me a break Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted February 6, 2011 Share Posted February 6, 2011 You know what I find Ironic? Sex and sexual needs always seems to have to take a back seat within a marriage. It goes way down on the list because its "not important". "Not everything is sex" they will say.. Then you get caught cheating (duh) and then sex becomes the elephant in the room. Give me a break Okay you have a break. Enjoy it. Link to post Share on other sites
Distant78 Posted February 6, 2011 Share Posted February 6, 2011 Okay you have a break. Enjoy it. Hahaha. Nice one! (High five me and don't fake it!) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Wandaland Posted February 6, 2011 Author Share Posted February 6, 2011 And you're Jesus Christ? Unfortunately the vast majority of people realize the failings of the concept of marriage after the fact. Perhaps sex is a hobby.. to him... since when were you the "hobby" police? Sigh~~ Walk across the street and get hit by a car... Poof your gone Kids grow up and eventually leave...poof they're gone Get Cancer...1 in 3 chance of contracting it..poof your done People live mediocre lives...they play it safe...they think they are being "noble" and then when they are older they look back on their lives and see few victories in a sea of regrets....and then POOF; its all gone. I guess we all live pretty "sad" lives Um...are you actually defending that cheating douchebag? Do you condone infidelity? Link to post Share on other sites
Fight4Me Posted February 6, 2011 Share Posted February 6, 2011 Perhaps sex is a hobby.. to him... since when were you the "hobby" police? Back during the November elections, we all got together and created a referendum to appoint several new positions, one of which was a Hobby Enforcer. We then had a closed-door meeting officiated by BBNB using proper Parliamentary Procedure, and we all agreed KristiSmiles was the best person for the job. She started January 1... mission accomplished. As an aside, we also agreed to make "playing smack the wood" and "hiding the root" official phrases of the Infidelity Forum. All in all, 2010 was a very productive year. HTH Link to post Share on other sites
Hazyhead Posted February 6, 2011 Share Posted February 6, 2011 He's a donkey's butt. Made me laugh out loud. So true. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted February 6, 2011 Share Posted February 6, 2011 (edited) I think an even better question to him is: Why didn't you join a swingers club or seek an open marriage? If he likes sleeping around then he should have sought a woman with the same interest as him. Open relationships were created for that purpose. But yeah poor wife...... Edited February 6, 2011 by samsungxoxo Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 (edited) Um...are you actually defending that cheating douchebag? Do you condone infidelity? I condone doing what works for you within reason. Because ultimately when push comes to shove nobody will do this for you...not even your spouse. He doesn't put it in her face and hes careful not to let it get out and possibly hurt her. I dont see him as arrogant....just a guy who accepts who he is. He may not be honest with her but at least he is honest with himself which is more than what can be said for most; last prson you want to deceive is yourself as it can have the nastiest repercussions. No its not the most noble thing in the world but really...none of you (including myself) really know whats going on behind closed doors in his marriage. Is he the perfect husband? no but then again his wife may be far from perfect too. Maybe shes letting him down in another area(s)? I dont know...you dont know...nobody but those involved knows the whole truth. you say hes a douce....but you dont know him you say poor wife...but you dont know her huh? Edited February 7, 2011 by StoneCold Link to post Share on other sites
alexandria35 Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 Back during the November elections, we all got together and created a referendum to appoint several new positions, one of which was a Hobby Enforcer. We then had a closed-door meeting officiated by BBNB using proper Parliamentary Procedure, and we all agreed KristiSmiles was the best person for the job. She started January 1... mission accomplished. As an aside, we also agreed to make "playing smack the wood" and "hiding the root" official phrases of the Infidelity Forum. All in all, 2010 was a very productive year. HTH Love this:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Summer Breeze Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 You know what I find Ironic? Sex and sexual needs always seems to have to take a back seat within a marriage. It goes way down on the list because its "not important". "Not everything is sex" they will say.. Then you get caught cheating (duh) and then sex becomes the elephant in the room. Give me a break I have to say this is a huge statement to me. Sex isn't important until something drastic happens. How many people won't discuss sex with a partner? How many people won't entertain the idea of trying something new? Rhetorical question but we all know there are a lot. Most people can't have conversations as simple as 'I like this' or 'I want to try that' but when things fall apart the importance of it is huge. Sex is a big deal. Intimacy is a big deal. I've fought the battle on this in here before and been napalmed for it but it is. Sex and money rip marriages apart every day. Sex isn't important until it is and more often than not couples don't discuss what they like. I tried to talk about experimenting with my last partner and he would turn red and was really uncomfortable. I did it once or twice and then just didn't bother. When I got bored I left. We weren't married and if we were I still don't think I could have cheated but it was big enough to end the relationship and it would have kept me from marrying him even though he was a great man and I loved him to bits. Sex is important. FYI I was mid 40s and he was mid 30s. Don't bother with the 'what if there's a physical condition'. I've fought that one out on here and I really don't want to do it again. Sex takes the form of whatever 2 people want it to be. Whatever their capabilities are. Whatever form it takes it is vital in a long term R whether it be M or having a long term unmarried SO. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 Back during the November elections, we all got together and created a referendum to appoint several new positions, one of which was a Hobby Enforcer. We then had a closed-door meeting officiated by BBNB using proper Parliamentary Procedure, and we all agreed KristiSmiles was the best person for the job. She started January 1... mission accomplished. As an aside, we also agreed to make "playing smack the wood" and "hiding the root" official phrases of the Infidelity Forum. All in all, 2010 was a very productive year. HTH :lmao: Wonderfully productive. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 And you're Jesus Christ?Why do you ask that? Are you like him? Unfortunately the vast majority of people realize the failings of the concept of marriage after the fact. Perhaps sex is a hobby.. to him... since when were you the "hobby" police? Sigh~~ Walk across the street and get hit by a car... Poof your gone Kids grow up and eventually leave...poof they're gone Get Cancer...1 in 3 chance of contracting it..poof your done People live mediocre lives...they play it safe...they think they are being "noble" and then when they are older they look back on their lives and see few victories in a sea of regrets....and then POOF; its all gone. I guess we all live pretty "sad" livesHmmm.... Methinks thee doth protest WAAYYYYY too much! Does anyone else perceive this like I do? Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 Um...are you actually defending that cheating douchebag? Do you condone infidelity?Perhaps a participant? One can't help but wonder after reading the ferocious posts which are obviously leaning in a certain direction. Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 Sex is a big deal. Intimacy is a big deal. I've fought the battle on this in here before and been napalmed for it but it is. Sex and money rip marriages apart every day. 50% divorce rate in the US...30 odd % here in Canada. Number 1 reason...Finances...Number 2 Sex; and if they mention Finances as the main reason I bet you they aint having sex either will will just exacerbate things. It wasnt important before but when the **** hits the fan its important enough to end a marriage? This is why I opted out of piling up on people like this a looong time ago... I woke up and realized the whole concept is f*cked...you dont know their situation, nobody can get it straight..its full of contradictions and Hippocracy on both sides. Its a dog's breakfast Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 Perhaps a participant? One can't help but wonder after reading the ferocious posts which are obviously leaning in a certain direction. LOL.. and your posts arent leaning in a direction? I see you guys dont really have much to say aside from "donkey butt" lol...which is telling about the strength of your arguments Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 Are you a happy person? You don't sound very happy. Good luck. Maybe you can fix things and be happier. LOL... actually yes I am.... I'm not happy with 100% of everything in my life but who is? its a Work in progress. But generally speaking yes I am happy...because: A) I see clearer than I ever have before. B) I make sure I learn from my trials rather than let it beat me up. C) I'm proud of who I am for my strengths and my weaknesses. Just because I say something that you dont like doesnt mean I'm unhappy Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 Strength of your argument? What argument? Are you arguing for a pro infidelity stance? Why get married then. Play the field all you like. Just do the right thing and be upfront about it. Go back and read what I wrote. If you cant figure out what I'm saying (which is very obvious).... then......best of luck to you Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 LOL.. and your posts arent leaning in a direction? I see you guys dont really have much to say aside from "donkey butt" lol...which is telling about the strength of your argumentsUm, yeah, the direction of honesty. Odd, I guess, for some people. It's not a morality thing. F around with whatever you want. BUT - why lie to people? Oh, wait. "Cause I want want want and screw everyone else!!!!" Gotcha. Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 You sound so angry though. I was talking about a topic that angers me. I get angry, you get angry. But just because you have the ability to get angry doesnt mean you are "unhappy" I'm glad you are happy. Did your own happiness leave a trail of destruction behind it? I dont know.... did yours? (and if you give me a definitive answer, prove it to me) Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 Did your own happiness leave a trail of destruction behind it? Does it seem to matter if it did? Link to post Share on other sites
Summer Breeze Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 LOL.. and your posts arent leaning in a direction? I see you guys dont really have much to say aside from "donkey butt" lol...which is telling about the strength of your arguments Well at least hers are never ferocious. Honestly you haven't said anyrhing ferocious. You just haven't toed the party line. It's why I post obly sporadically. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 you say hes a douce....but you dont know him you say poor wife...but you dont know her We only know what he's chosen to share. According to what he's shared, he's a douche Come on....he isn't only lying to his wife (insert justifications here because marriage is such a terrible prison). He's lying to the 2 OW as well! He's a douche! We don't know his wife....but he does. He says he loves her (has sex with her, too, btw), and wants to remain married to her. He risks all that for extramarital sex. He's a douche. Poor her. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 Why do you ask that? Are you like him? Hmmm.... Methinks thee doth protest WAAYYYYY too much! Does anyone else perceive this like I do? Indeed. Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 Oh no. no I don't think he is being honest with himself. He is a man who can not be satisfied with just one woman. He even needs more than one lover. If he was honest with himself he would admit to himself that monogamy was not for him and that he should not be married. He never said monogamy WAS for him did he? He can not be honest with himself while lying to his wife. Why not? just so long as he knows and is comfortable with WHY he is lying Being honest with himself would be living honestly. How is living a lie, as mr. happily married, being honest with himself? Again... that convenient argument of sex...its a big deal when someone acts on it but its not when its ignored. And DONT bull**** me. dont tell me you tell the truth about EVERYTHING. Nobody does this and I'm sure his wife may have lied to him just as much as he did. Oh but they say its ok to lie about some things but not others...they say "sex is different"...really? back to that "convenient" argument again huh. A lie is a lie.... EVERYBODY does it... when you can acknowledge that THEN you are being honest Link to post Share on other sites
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