aMguilts Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 Just to show you what a class act my ex is -- I texted her "Happy Mother's Day!" yesterday, y'know, out of a twinge of obligation, and she didn't have the courtesy to text back a simple "Thanks". ~shrug~ Just had to laugh. A bitter lil' lady to the core. your`ll know better next year not to even bother;) to be honest, i don`t why you bothered THIS year aM Link to post Share on other sites
Author worldgonewrong Posted May 13, 2013 Author Share Posted May 13, 2013 Oh you're right - I won't bother next year. I only bothered because, y'know, she IS the mother of our kids. I felt at least the most basic of civility was in order, that's all. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 I wouldn't let it bug you too much WGW, I think after my exH left he did send a Mother's Day text and thanked me for being a good mom. More out of guilt for the situation he helped to cause (he was already living with his AP). I think I acknowledged it with a simple thanks. Don't even recall if I acknowledged Father's Day for him or not. Habits die hard unfortunately. No harm, no foul...lesson learned. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 Oh you're right - I won't bother next year. I only bothered because, y'know, she IS the mother of our kids. I felt at least the most basic of civility was in order, that's all. yeah i know your hearts in the right place and it`s still beating aM 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Shocked Suzie Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 yeah i know your hearts in the right place and it`s still beating aM Yes I agree..... My 1st mother days as a single mum and nothing Yep I wouldn't bother next year 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 Wow, I didn't get anything/text/card etc. etc. and I'm not even separated/divorced. Grumpy today. Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 Wow, I didn't get anything/text/card etc. etc. and I'm not even separated/divorced. Grumpy today. did you expect something? aM Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 am i missing something?? when you split up you split up? or how long after do you keep on sending `mothers day ` cards??? kids or not??? really? am i missing something? aM Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 Yes I agree..... My 1st mother days as a single mum and nothing Yep I wouldn't bother next year really? your life`s gone to pot but you still expect a card on mothers day?? this is an american thing i guess? aM Link to post Share on other sites
Steen719 Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 -Sigh - Roses and a card from my XH; unexpected, not asked for and unnecessary (of course nothing last year in the throes of whatever he was in), but I did say they were lovely and thank you. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Shocked Suzie Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 really? your life`s gone to pot but you still expect a card on mothers day?? this is an american thing i guess? aM lol actually no Im from the UK...now in AU as my kids are youngish id have personally provided them with a lil cash for a box of choc's or something...a little acknowledgement on mothers days??, i'd fund the kids for their dad's bday n fathers days, until they can afford to buy their own gifts....it's purely for the kids 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 did you expect something? aM Yes, considering he reminded a friend's husband about it. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 One of my favorite Mother's Day stories is about the only ring I wear now. It's a simple little $50 ring that Kay's was advertising for Mother's Day about 8 years ago. Got the mailer and handed it to my son and said I would love to have that for Mother's Day. He said..okay...I'll go ask Dad to take me to the Mall and I'll get it for you Mom. He was so proud. :love: The fact that I paid for the ring really doesn't matter..the fact that my exH took the time to take his son to the Mall and buy the ring does, for both of them. It gave them a mission to do something for someone else, it took the priority off of themselves and made someone else a priority. Two men on a common mission, a bonding experience. My son was so proud to give me that ring and even more, I was happy to hear his father talk about taking his son to the Mall without ranting. A good experience for both of them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Steen719 Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 Yes, considering he reminded a friend's husband about it. Sorry, DOT, you deserved some acknowledgment - all that you have been through. So, here it is - Happy Mother's Day to a mother who fought for her daughter and is a caring and intelligent woman. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Steen719 Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 One of my favorite Mother's Day stories is about the only ring I wear now. It's a simple little $50 ring that Kay's was advertising for Mother's Day about 8 years ago. Got the mailer and handed it to my son and said I would love to have that for Mother's Day. He said..okay...I'll go ask Dad to take me to the Mall and I'll get it for you Mom. He was so proud. :love: The fact that I paid for the ring really doesn't matter..the fact that my exH took the time to take his son to the Mall and buy the ring does, for both of them. It gave them a mission to do something for someone else, it took the priority off of themselves and made someone else a priority. Two men on a common mission, a bonding experience. My son was so proud to give me that ring and even more, I was happy to hear his father talk about taking his son to the Mall without ranting. A good experience for both of them. Awww...sons are so great - just love their mom. Mine went and got the groceries and cooked dinner for me and cleaned up after. He gave me books, too, but the dinner was just so thoughtful. I feel lucky! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 Yes, considering he reminded a friend's husband about it. sorry you didnt get anything dot hugs aM 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WreckedDan Posted May 16, 2013 Share Posted May 16, 2013 That sucks! For mother's day this year I contacted the wife a week before and asked her if she wanted to spend the day with our daughter. She started saying something about having to drive on her day off so calmly reminded her it was Mother's day... Oh! Yes of course! So I offered to meet her somewhere half way between us so she could save in gas. That morning I contacted her and asked her where she wanted to go and what time. She asked me to meet her at our daughter's favorite park at 1. We showed up 10 minutes early and she showed up 20 minutes late. She spent a little ove half an hour going for a walk with our daughter and when they came back I offered to take them to a movie or dinner. She just said "You don't owe me any more than this" hugged our daughter good bye and left... You can bet your ass I'm spending Father's day javin fun all damn day with my daughter! Pissed off, Dan 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted May 16, 2013 Share Posted May 16, 2013 That sucks! For mother's day this year I contacted the wife a week before and asked her if she wanted to spend the day with our daughter. She started saying something about having to drive on her day off so calmly reminded her it was Mother's day... Oh! Yes of course! So I offered to meet her somewhere half way between us so she could save in gas. That morning I contacted her and asked her where she wanted to go and what time. She asked me to meet her at our daughter's favorite park at 1. We showed up 10 minutes early and she showed up 20 minutes late. She spent a little ove half an hour going for a walk with our daughter and when they came back I offered to take them to a movie or dinner. She just said "You don't owe me any more than this" hugged our daughter good bye and left... You can bet your ass I'm spending Father's day javin fun all damn day with my daughter! Pissed off, Dan In your particular case your missing the point. Its about teaching your children to love, respect, and honor the woman that gave birth to them ~ their Mother. We don't HAVE to like, agree with, even get along with our parents? But we should to the fullest extent possible of our very being love and honor them. That can sometimes be a tall order to fill, in Rev's case and his DD15. Me, myself and I? I HATE my XHEX, ~ and I've mellowed on that position over the years after coming to the realization that she's got NPD ~ Narcisstic Personality Disorder ~ short answer is? She is who she is and she is what she is. But most of all? She's the MOTHER of my two greatest accomplishments in Life, ~ bar none! My Son And My Daughter! I'm partially enstranged from my daughter and completely enstranged from my son, because the XHEX's NPD and Parential Alienation. (The old double standard, "If a man cheats on his wife? Its his fault! If a woman cheats on her husband? Its still his fault! Yada ~ yada ~ yada.) It use to bother me a lot! But I've come to live with it. Because in my heart of hearts, in my bones, to the very marrow, to my very soul? I know I did and gave all that I could for my children. You should approach this from the perspective of twenty, thirty, forty years from now? Your children can sit around and say, "You can say what you want but Daddy never _____________________ (said, did, etc) against Mama!" As much as I hate my XHEX? I've never said a single word against her. At work? I have the appreciation and admiration of co-workers and those above me. I earned their respect and such, because of what I learned from and in the Marines, (Being part of a team, putting others before myself to accomplish the job, helping others accomplish their job, assisting others, showing others, teaching others, looking out for others, showing appreciation, sympathy, admiration). Little things? Need some Tylenol? Ask Gunny! Need a marker? Ask Gunny! Need a pen? Ask Gunny! Dragging azz? Ask Gunny for a "Five Hour Energy Shot!" Need a plastic spoon? Ask Gunny! Need some salt and pepper for your lunch? Ask Gunny! Need some Lousinane Hot Sauce, mayo, catcup, mustard? Have a queston? ..................................... People in my day to day life? That know me? Mrs. Gunny ~ my step-children? They amazed by me! My bosses admire me, respect me. Some at work fear me? Thinking I want their silly azz jobs! Mrs Gunny's loves me, and see's me as a very special, wise, educated, intelligent, man. Only three people in this world think I'm a POS! My daughter My son My ex-wife! And she's the one that cheated, quit me, divorced me! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 16, 2013 Share Posted May 16, 2013 We are going to have to start playing Trivia with WGW's avatar's! LOL!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author worldgonewrong Posted May 16, 2013 Author Share Posted May 16, 2013 We are going to have to start playing Trivia with WGW's avatar's! LOL!! I'm pretty darn certain that Gunny knows who that is. (I only chose it because that facial expression SLAYS me every time I see it.) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted May 16, 2013 Share Posted May 16, 2013 I'm pretty darn certain that Gunny knows who that is. (I only chose it because that facial expression SLAYS me every time I see it.) Oh Yea! I know that face! And I've had that same expression on my face many, many times!!!! As in shocking disbelief and WTF!!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 16, 2013 Share Posted May 16, 2013 Oh Yea! I know that face! And I've had that same expression on my face many, many times!!!! As in shocking disbelief and WTF!!!! The irony relevant to this thread was that the actor (Frank Sutton) behind that avatar died suddenly at age 50 from a heart attack. Hence, make the most of life and get through the challenges as quickly as possible and move on. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 17, 2013 Share Posted May 17, 2013 The irony relevant to this thread was that the actor (Frank Sutton) behind that avatar died suddenly at age 50 from a heart attack. Hence, make the most of life and get through the challenges as quickly as possible and move on. Life is short.....my maternal grandfather died at age 50 from a massive heart attack. He had just retired from his job...early. Fell out dancing with potential wife #14 and was DOA. I didn't know him very well...my mom didn't take me around him much. Ya know, I'm thinking Alan Alda was sort of cool too WGW...at least he beat polio and still has his sense of humor. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted May 17, 2013 Share Posted May 17, 2013 Life is short and when one finds one's self at a certain age, say around age forty it grows shorter with each passing year? At some particular "break-even" relative and particular to each given individual? The years turn into months ~ the months into days, the days into hours, and the hours into minute, and the next thing your know? People or referring to you as "Mr Gunny or Ms Trippi? I look at all of my romantic interest over the course of the years, all the way back to Sabrina R. when I was 15. Man was I ever "in love" with her skinny, flat chested, mostly definitely not interested in me self? My one and only marriage divorce tore me up for a long, long, long time. There was no Internet, nor Loveshack. Just me and many a bottle of Canadian Whiskey, (Black Velvet), some George Jones, etc. I look back on it all now? And, I'm like WTF was that all about? I've grown a lot, learned a lot. When I was in my late teens and twenties? I just knew I had this thing called Life all figured out? Only to get into my thirties to find out that I didn't have clue. Had to pull back and re-group, and re-think things? Quit being a fool and got back into school, did a lot of reading and learning. Everything I could get my hands on? Was like "Got IT! Don't FORGET IT!" Hit my forties? Guess what? You still haven't got any and all of the answers to the questions nor solutions to all of the problems? WTF? Now I'm in my mid fifties, and I've come to the realization that I've never had a clue, am never going to have any and all of the answers to any and all of the questions, nor solutions to any and all of the problems? About the best you can do is get in, sit down, shut up, grab a hold, and "white knuckle this bitch to the bitter end! In the process you're going to hit some highs, and your going to hit some lows along the ride. Your going to find yourself swinging back and forth between a laugh and a tear. Sometimes life is just going to just get to ridiculous to live, but in the end all you can do is get out there and do the best that you can do and give it your all. A lot of life is just about "showing up" I can't explain that to you? Your each are going to have to find out what that means for yourself? Don't judge others, because "But by the Grace of God? There go you!" But most of all? Don't judge yourself to harshly nor be too hard on yourself. There's plenty of folks just waiting outside your front door with a Louisville Slugger more than happy to do the job for you ~ just to see the look on your face. Forgive yourself, be kind to yourself, don't beat yourself. Try and learn from your mistakes? Try not to repeat them ~ but if you do? That's OK to, because Life is all about renewal and second chances. Quit taking yourself, your life, and your circumstances so seriously. Re-learn how to laugh, how to smile, how to say Hi to strangers on the street. As your out driving, wave to others as they pass you going the opposite direction? It'll make them wonder you are if nothing else? But most of all? Try to get out there each day and rub a little sunshine on your face. Gunny 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author worldgonewrong Posted May 17, 2013 Author Share Posted May 17, 2013 AWESOME post, Gunny. It put tears in my eyes from the sheer joy, exuberance. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
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