ChizUck Posted March 24, 2004 Share Posted March 24, 2004 Any advice anyone can give me would be helpful... Im a sophmore in college. Earleir this school year I met a girl, "jess" fromt eh moment we met there was as eriosu conncetion, unlike anyhting i have ever experienced. I think i fell in love with her at first sight. we talked all night while a party went on around us. We hung out everyday after that for a week. At the time she had a boyfriend, but within 5 days of meeting she had broken up with him for me.. i put no pressure on her and it was rather unexpected. we were goign out a week later. i guess tha tusms up us meeting... WE fell in love with each other so fast, maybe it was unhealthy, but we had both been in relationships before and we both knew this was so different. we cared abotu each other so much. we spent every day together for the next 4 and a half months, she basically moved in with me. we saw each other 18 of the 24 hours in a day. She was everything i culd ever want in a girl. we had both professed out love for each other and we trusted each toehr completely. we planned out future together we were so in love. of course we had our arguements. early on there were problems with her ex, nothing big.. she still had feelings for him, but quickly thoses feelings subsided and she moved on. that was a trying time, but we grew stronger through experiencing it. she was my best friend. we knew everything about each other. we could even read each others thoughts... kinda creepy.. i know. early on she had considered transfering to a school accrossed the country because her mom had gotten a job near there. her mom and her are very clsoe. however after talkign with her she had decided not to transfer. a couple months later we had gotten into an arguement and she rethought things.. she decided that she was going to transfer with her mom. Even though we were fine after the arguement she wasnt changing her mind.. she really wanted to go to this school, it was one of the best in the nation for her major. It was also a much nicer school that our current school. This created many problems and many arguements over a 3 week period, soon though we came to accept this was how it would be. for the next month thigns were great, we were absolutely in love like we always had been, even when we were argueing. i could look deep into her eyes and see everything in her that i aspired to be... she was amazing.. she is my soulmate. then it happened.... we got into a tiny arguement one day over nothing... it grew out of control... we are both very stubborn. in the haste of things we broke up with each other. All emotions and no logice. that was a month ago. I have regretted doig it ever since... I have tried to make amends but she is so against teh idea of us goign out again.. she says she loves me and she misses everyhtign about me, yet she distracts herself from waht sh eis missing.. there is a huge void in me from where she once was... and i can only assume the same with her. she has a new boyfriend.. it was so soon after we broke up.. 3 weeks. he is only a rebound, it is obvious. but she is so against being with me, even though she says she loves me she distracts herself from what she is missing.. she cries soem nights because im not there. I know a lot of this is because of her stubborness but i do not know how to get through to her. I have tried nearly everything. I have pushed her further away in my attempts to make her see the obvious. she says she was happiest when she was with me.. but she doesnt want to come back. She says we fough to much. So i have outlined why we fought in this text. dont let it overwhelm you because i have left out the goo dtyimes, i could spend 3 months writing abotu the good times. I have so much i need advice on.. i dont even know if im lookign for assistance on how to get her back... i know she will be back some day, she is my soul mate.. she will realize what she is missing.. we love each other too much to let it go. but i cant seem to let go. it has been a month now, most guys wouldn't even concerned with her now because she has a boyfriend so soon after being in a relationship with the love of her life.. but i cant give up on her, i have tried. my ehart stilla ches so much.. i ahve tried partying with my firends every night, having a good time, hanging out, talkign to other girls, kissing other girls.. none of it is working. I dont know what to do, with her or with me... i guess i jsut needed to writ this all down, nobody needs to respond if you do i will defintiely read it though.... it just feels good to put this out there for others to see... thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted March 24, 2004 Share Posted March 24, 2004 Until she TOO feels you guys are 'soulmates'....you are stuck with the fact that she clearly stated the relationship was over. People DO change their minds and this may happen down the road. For now though, you need to think about yourself and what you can change to make your next relationship less argumentative. I don't know of any way to get another person back until they are ready to come back to you. It's just the way love seems to go......as unfair as it seems. Hang in there Sweetie.....you'll get passed this. Link to post Share on other sites
Nameless Posted March 24, 2004 Share Posted March 24, 2004 move on. soulmates or not, it probably wont end up too well if u continue to wait for her. Itz hard to get over a girl u love, but u don't really have a choice. She MIGHT come back to u, but it looks like the chances of that is getting higher. So just be cautious or sumthing. Link to post Share on other sites
Nameless Posted March 24, 2004 Share Posted March 24, 2004 oops lower... i meant lower : | Link to post Share on other sites
Author ChizUck Posted March 24, 2004 Author Share Posted March 24, 2004 thanks guys... its hard as hell... but i hope i get over this... i was avoiding her all together for the last few weeks, in the hopes that she would feel the emptiness i feel... but i cant be without her in my life... i called her up and told her i want to get together with her, watch a movie, hangout... just be friends... hopefully seeing me changes things... ive realized that not seeing each other every day liek we used to just makes it easiser to forget and move on... that is the last thing i want Link to post Share on other sites
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