Neutrino Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 Hi all, This is not an easy post to type... I have 6 year younger brother - who is now in his mid 30s. In early childhood he was what other people called a problem-child : because of his generally poor health he was more spoiled by our parents (I have no idea if this is related to the situation today), his temper was out of control - throwing huge scandals over the smallest things, generally having no self discipline, only thinking of what he wanted short-term rather than considering the consequences - this attitude resulted in him leaving school without any type of diploma or professional qualifications. Over the years he has had problems keeping a steady job, although he is loyal and can work hard, his big mouth and erratic behavior got him into trouble each time. He started studying different courses - but never finished a single one. His attention span and mental endurance are extremely short (both of us were ADHD as kids) Fast forward to today : his basic character has not changed a bit - he seems like an adult-child... I recently found out he has been unable to find a job in months, physically abused his pregnant GF knowingly trying to cause a miscarriage (!), although she was upfront with him about wanting a child (and after being informed he still had unprotected sex with her - which obviously can result in a baby...) he said he did not want this child and refused to do his share of the caring tasks. He now says he loves his son, but I still see those psychotic tendencies in him, mainly being taken out on our parents (since I live on a different continent I hardly ever meet him). It is causing my parents great grief... I can not let this continue. I know he is still an adult ADHD, but I think there is more to it... Maybe a bipolar (I asked him once if he felt long-term depression without being able to pin-point the reason - he said yes)... Has anyone here ever dealt with something similar ? what can I possibly do ? This is really taking a toll on our parents at their old age and I can not let this continue.... Link to post Share on other sites
30Years Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 You only have one option, and that is to try and convince him to seek a professional evaluation. You can't make him. There is more going on than ADHD, but it could be a whole host of issues. Talk to him, heart-to-heart. Let him know that his life could be much more fulfilling if he seeks help to track down his challenges. Make sure the he understands that mental illness is not a character flaw. It is an illness. Good luck in your efforts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Neutrino Posted February 9, 2011 Author Share Posted February 9, 2011 Thanks 30Y. 2 weeks ago I saw him for the first time in 3 years - and he looked terrible - seems like this is getting worse with the years... I told him he had to get help, but he kept bringing up irrelevant things like political event and getting all loud and agitated.... My parents are getting tired of his behavior (luckily he no longer lives with them), but I know they can not ignore him. He insists he has no problem at all... Link to post Share on other sites
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