I feel like a creep, talking to wife about 3some

[Toodamnpragmatic]

if I remember right from post one. You never indicated what you wished was to be a cuckold, which is what you are from what you have posted.

 

As I also said..... "To each his own".

[Urgie]

I know all the facts point to cuck territory, but its just not the case.

 

Yes he is larger, lasts longer, and i watch and wait my turn .. and that is all very cuck'ish

 

But none of it is intentional really. And there is zero humiliation involved.

 

The actual term for what we are into, i have come to learn is "Hotwifing" and she refers to herself as a "Hotwife"

 

There are sites dedicated to just this, and thats where i have been spending most of my internet time.

 

The difference between a Cuckold and a Hotwife Hubby ... is the lack of humiliation, and different motives.

 

A cuckold wants his wife to be with another man for the purposes of making him feel a certain way.

 

A Hotwife Hubby wants his wife to be with another man strictly for HER pleasure. It does turn me on, i do encourage it, but primarily because SHE enjoys it. Her sexual enjoyment, beyond that which i give her, is what drives me in this.

[Severely Unamused]

He is her ex from 18yrs ago that's partly why she was comfortable moving forward, since he was not a stranger. He is also married.

So tell me, does his wife know about this arrangement?

[xxoo]

A Hotwife Hubby wants his wife to be with another man strictly for HER pleasure. It does turn me on, i do encourage it, but primarily because SHE enjoys it. Her sexual enjoyment, beyond that which i give her, is what drives me in this.

 

Then why post so many details on the internet, including pics?

 

It seems you really get off on putting your wife out there. This goes beyond her pleasure. (I'm not criticizing, but it seems dishonest to say this is primarily about her--esp when, initially, your interests were making her very uncomfortable!)

[pyroguy]

I know all the facts point to cuck territory, but its just not the case.

 

Yes he is larger, lasts longer, and i watch and wait my turn .. and that is all very cuck'ish

 

But none of it is intentional really. And there is zero humiliation involved.

 

The actual term for what we are into, i have come to learn is "Hotwifing" and she refers to herself as a "Hotwife"

 

There are sites dedicated to just this, and thats where i have been spending most of my internet time.

 

The difference between a Cuckold and a Hotwife Hubby ... is the lack of humiliation, and different motives.

 

A cuckold wants his wife to be with another man for the purposes of making him feel a certain way.

 

A Hotwife Hubby wants his wife to be with another man strictly for HER pleasure. It does turn me on, i do encourage it, but primarily because SHE enjoys it. Her sexual enjoyment, beyond that which i give her, is what drives me in this.

 

 

And, how does it feel to know that sex with you is now an afterthought? that it's better wth someone else? what's even the point? if she's just experienced him, and found nirvana, what does she get out of intercourse with you? all valid questions that most guys like you never answer...or are afraid to.

 

Let's be honest, most people don't go back to what is less than. If you have superior Italian food at one restaurant, you don't want to go back where the food isn't as good. Are you ok with this?

 

Why are you not allowed to participate? not ready, my ass. So, it's him over you? that's telling...not a surprise, but telling. I think the women who do this are passive aggressive, want it all along, and finally get what they wanted and desired, and this is the result...you as a cheerleader.

 

I still believe it's some profound guilt thing for men. They want to satisfy women so badly that feel guilty because there are better looking and more endowed men in the world. Newsflash: there are better looking and more disireabe women than your wife too. yet, I don't see women feeling guilty and making it a project to get you a playboy centerfold.

 

It's your life. Seems empty to me to know your wife doesn't want you the same amymore, but if you gives you some strangs sense of happiness,oh well.

[Try]

Not saying anything is impossible. He is her ex from 18yrs ago that's partly why she was comfortable moving forward, since he was not a stranger.

That sounds safe, "her ex" and her are hooking up again and he is much better in bed than you. What could go wrong? She could never fall in love with a guy like him. Wait she already did once before. But of course she would never fall in love with him again not when she has someone like you.

[OnyxSnowfall]

I haven't read the other responses, so forgive me if I'm repeating anything.

 

I can only relate to this through being a woman that would be "offended" at my partner wanting me to be with another man.

 

a) I want sex to be something "special" and shared with one person I find special, ONLY... and for that to be mutual.

 

b) I want my partner to be a little possessive over our relationship. Wanting me to spread my legs for someone else just does NOT equate holding that part of our relationship as sacred. I would feel disrespected and disconnected from my partner.

 

c) IF my partner was pushing for me to sleep with someone else, despite my distaste for the idea, I would likely lose interest in him. OR, I would go through with it, but I think I would probably end up all over the place. I would HAVE to create some connection with the other man and may end up investing into that instead, ESPECIALLY if the other man reciprocated there and didn't WANT to share me. OR I would just feel sick and grow a part from my partner for not understanding that it would just mess up connection and bonding with them in my head. Either outcome I don't think would be good for me.

 

I don't know of a way to MAKE the outcomes good.

 

Just getting "Hot" and getting "OFF" isn't enough. I learned a long time ago that some things are JUST NOT WORTH the aftermath. Orgasms are one of them.

 

Honestly, I would probably tell you to go find someone else to fulfill your fantasies if they're more important and keep my self-respect there =/... doesn't make sense to lose that "integrity" for someone that obviously doesn't deserve it in the first place. NOW if I was already down for this, there'd be no personal integrity at stake --- I don't know how your lady feels,

 

but that's the ick factor I feel when I imagine my partner asking me to be with another man.

Edited August 12, 2011 by OnyxSnowfall