kaygato Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 My ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago, but really the last 3 months have been really on-off since he was hurt by me and wanted to break up and I kept convincing him to stay. After our argument 2 weeks ago though I've finally accepted that there is no easy way to fix this and that if we ever do reconcile it'll have to be because he truly wants to. I think over the last 3 months I may have tried NC a couple times, but haven't had the heart to really do it. I think I have the strength for it now but I need some more convincing. My main motivation is that it's just too painful at this point to stay in contact. With it being a sorta ldr (1 hour by car) it's just too easy to delude myself into thinking he could have a change of heart. I'm in college and struggling so much trying to keep up with school and the stress is just killing me... Anyway, should I announce that I can't talk with him for the rest of the semester or should I just start NC w/o telling him? Enough damage has been done at this point that I don't think he's ever coming back so it really doesn't matter what I do...at least that's what I think. And I know that in the end the point of no contact is to help me heal anyway. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
notsure15 Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 nc is the way for u Link to post Share on other sites
Faded_x Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 (edited) I really think it depends on the situation. I think the right thing to do would be to explain to him that you want NC first, before just going ahead and doing so. That is, if you're still talking at the moment, don't just ignore him when he tries to contact you. However, if you're not really actively talking at the moment, I wouldn't come out and tell him this now. If he contacts you, then let him know that you think this will be best. I just know, personally, I'd feel very hurt if I was just ignored when trying to contact someone after something like this. Particularly since, from what it sounds like, you've done something in the past that he can't come to terms with; and that seems to be why the break up ultimately occurred (again, obviously I don't know for sure, as I only know what you've said in this post). Having the other person go NC without saying anything would just hurt me all over again. Personally, I only understand NC without a word first, when the other person has been the one to wrong you (abuse, cheating, etc). Edited February 10, 2011 by Faded_x Link to post Share on other sites
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