dont know how to say this,but I need all of you right now

[Patty]

My cat is in the hospital and isnt doing good.I just found out he has cancer.Im in such a shock right now.He has to be put to sleep.Im real sad and crying.I just want to have him back.I cant believe this,this cant be happening.I dont want it to happen.

 

Patty

[jenny]

o! patty! that's awful - i'm so sorry.

[Darkangelism]

awww, im sorry, its hard to lose a pet.

[reasontosigh]

I am so sorry. How sad.

[Patty]

I feel like Im going crazy right now.I dont know what to do.Wow,this cant be happening.I dpnt want to believe it.

 

Patty

[zarathustra]

Just think Patty that your cat will no longer suffer. And your cat is grateful that you let the doctors take the pain away. Your cat will always love you for that.

 

 

bark

[Darkangelism]

Cry, it is real helpful

[zarathustra]

Patty, what is your cat's name and what kind of cat was he or she?

[metal_chik]

Try not to see it as a sad thing(yes I know how hard that can be). Think of it this way...you and ur cat had lotsa great times together, now ur gonna be sendin' it to a better place. A place where it eats tuna and salmon all day and gets to frollick w/ all the other kitties. I'm sure ur cat wouldn't want u to be miserable. I really feel for ya(I'm a total cat lover myself), but have u ever noticed...whenever u lose a pet it always seems like u get a better one next time? Hope this is true in ur case...losing any pet is so hard, it's like losing ur best friend. Best wishes Patty.

 

Metal~chik

[Thinkalot]

Sorry Patty...cry and grieve for the loss of this family member....and remember your cat will feel better without the pain...and your cats soul will go on to someplace nice

[Fedup&givingup]

That is SOOOOOOOO sad. I know how painful it is to lose a cat/pet. I'm a big cat lover, myself. That cat was like your child. They are like your little baby. I am SOOOOO sorry! Poor thing, and whoever it was that said your cat will be grateful that you took the pain away is right. Only, it's left you with a big hole in your heart. You have a good soul to care like you do.

[Patty]

Thanks everyone for all the support.This is so hard.I feel really awful and in a shock still.This has been the hardest thing.One thing I have to do is try to be happy for him,cause that is what he will want me to do.I know it will be hard for awhile.Its so hard.I will suffer for a long time.I dont know how I'll get over it but it takes time I guess.The hardest part will be the memories,but I know my cat would want me to celebrate the times we've had together.Im still a mess and dont know how I'll ever get myself together again.But I will have to try for his sake.This is so hard.

 

Thanks everyone for all the support.

 

Patty

[moimeme]

Very, very sorry about your kitty, Patty. It is hard to lose these furry balls of love. Know that she will always love you and she will be grateful that you save her from suffering. It is a great gift you will be giving her.

[carla]

Patty I am so sorry for your lose of your percious kitty. I had to put 1 of my kitties of 10 years down a couple of years ago. I know exactly how you feel. What I did to try to ease the pain was I cried my eyes out the night it happened and then a couple of days later I volunteered at the animal shelter as a cat cuddler. Next thing I knew I had fostered 4 orphan babies for 6 weeks and ended up keeping 2. I still remember Normie and have pictures of him. The pain will soften with time. I don't know if your next cat will be better, I find each cat has it's own personality and know matter it's good or bad points you still love them.

[ladyangel]

Patty, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know that pets are a very important part of the family, and I would be heartbroken if anything happened to any of mine. But I know the time will come when I have to deal with it. Everyone else has given you good advice. Just grieve as best you can and seek the comfort of others who also loved him. Best of luck to you.

[ladyangel]

"God saw you were getting tired and a cure was not to be so he wrapped his arms around you and whispered come with me. He saw the road ahead was long and the hills too hard to climb so he closed your weary eyelids and whispered peace be thine. It broke my heart to lose you but you didn't go alone for part of me went with you the day God called you home."

[FreeMe]

I'm so sorry. One morning a little over two years ago my cat was fine and playing. He suddenly just kind of hunkered down and when he tried to walk he was dragging his back legs. I took him to the vet and had to make the decision in minutes and all alone to put him down. I was devastated. I still haven't been able to get another cat. I still have pictures of him up at work and I think about him all the time. If I hadn't done it though, he would have been in agony. I couldn't bear that. It's the worst thing to have to do, but you have to try to think of all the happy years he or she has had with you.

[Patty]

Im still kind of down.He brought so much joy to my life.Now my life will never be the same.Im really suffering the loss and its hard.But Im trying to think of what he would want.I still cant believe this is happening.I wish it was just a dream.I feel so lost and empty.I wish this didnt have to happen.I still didnt get over the shock yet.

 

Thanks for your support,everyone.I know it helps to have people to talk to.

 

Patty

[Arabess]

Originally posted by ladyangel

"God saw you were getting tired and a cure was not to be so he wrapped his arms around you and whispered come with me. He saw the road ahead was long and the hills too hard to climb so he closed your weary eyelids and whispered peace be thine. It broke my heart to lose you but you didn't go alone for part of me went with you the day God called you home."

 

That was just beautiful....it made me cry!

 

Patty,

I'm sorry about your cat. Mine is getting old too and I know how I will feel when the day comes we lose her. Hang in there Sweetie. There are sooooo many new kitties needing homes. It won't be the same, but may give you some comfort.

[HokeyReligions]

Patty, I am so sorry. I've been through this before - many times. I'm glad you came here and I wish I could just reach out and hug you. Below are some links to websites that will help you, and also a poem. There is no copyright on this poem. There are more links to other sites from within the below websites.

 

Let yourself grieve. That is part of loving and being loved too.

 

 

http://www.petloss.com/

 

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

 

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.

There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.

There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

 

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.

The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

 

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

 

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

 

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

 

Author unknown...

 

 

http://www.petloss.com/muns.htm

 

It has been long recognized that the grief suffered by pet parents after their pet dies is the same as that experienced after the death of a person. The death of a pet means the loss of a non-judgmental love source. There is no longer anything for the pet parent to nurture and care for. Furthermore, the pet parent looses his or her contact with "the natural world."

 

HEALING

1. Give yourself permission to grieve. - only YOU know what your pet meant to you.

2. Memorialize your pet. - makes the loss real and helps with closure.

3. Get lots of rest, good nutrition and exercise.

4. Surround yourself with people who understand your loss. - let others care for you. - take advantage of support groups for bereaved pet parents.

5. Learn all you can about the grief process. - helps pet parents realize that what they are experiencing is normal.

6. Accept the feelings that come with grief. - talk, write, sing, or draw.

7. Indulge yourself in small pleasures.

8. Be patient with yourself. -DON'T let society dictate how long mourning should last.

9. Give yourself permission to backslide. - it WILL end and your life WILL be normal again.

- grief is like waves in the ocean: at first the waves come in fast and hard, but as time goes on, the waves become less intense and further apart. - don't be surprised if holidays, smells, sounds, or words trigger a relapse.

10. Don't be afraid to get help. - pet loss support groups - grief counselors.

11. Be sure to consult your own "Higher Power."

 

Grief is probably the most confusing, frustrating and emotional thing that a person can experience -- more so for pet parents. Society in general does not give bereaved pet parents "permission" to grieve openly. Consequently, pet parents often feel isolated and alone. Luckily, more and more resources are becoming available to help the bereaved pet parent realize that they are NOT alone and that what they are feeling is entirely normal.

 

Florida Pet Grief Support Hotline

(352) 392-4700

Ext. 4080

 

http://neuro.vetmed.ufl.edu/alt_med/petgrief/petloss.htm

[Patty]

Thanks so much for comforting me,everyone!This is one of the hardest things,I had to face.I just have this empty feeling inside of me,now,its just a lost feeling.I think of the times when he would rub near me.I feel so lost.I used to lean on him,when I was sad.I just feel like I got nothing to look forward to now.I used to come home and look forward to seeing him,now I cant,and it just makes it painful.I do try to think of the nice memories and it makes me feel worse,cause I know now,it wont be like that.Its such a difficult loss.

 

By the way,his name was Spooky.I named him that cause he was a black cat.Now when I come home,I cant say hi to him and I just wish a miracle would happen.I wish it were just a dream.I went out to the kitchen last night and told my mom to tell me,hes going to be alright but she couldnt tell me that.Its just so dissapointing.Its so hard for me to let go of something that was so precious to me.Its just not the same.The holidays wont be the same either.

 

Thanks for the links.

 

I hope,I will get better,but right now,it doesnt feel that way.Its hard.I dont listen to music now cause it makes me feel worse.The hardest part is the memories and feeling empty.

 

Patty

[reasontosigh]

I must remember tonight to raise my glass in a toast to "Saint Spooky".

 

Hokey, I toally forgot about that site! I had recommended it to a friend when her dog passed a while ago. Thanks for the reminder.

[Patty]

Im still not over the shock stage.I keep on thinking about last night,when I asked my mom where Spooky was and she said,"He's in the hospital".I said "Why,what happened?" She says "Hes not doing good."I said "what happened" At that point,I was just in a shock.Then she says,"Spooky has cancer." Then I said "no,no,no,,no and was in a shock.I just didnt want to believe it.So she said he was being put to sleep.I said "no you cant let him leave like that" "just keep him alive" Then I was saying no,no,no,no.It was just a shock and I still think about that moment and everytime I do,I start crying.Im not over the shock yet.

 

I wish I could feel better again.I just wish I could go back to the way things were,when Spooky was around.Thats the hard part.I dont know when I'll feel better again.This is a huge loss to me.

 

Patty

[befuddled11]

Unless I'm mistaken, wasn't your black cat Spooky a relatively "newer" cat? Didn't you get him within the past year? I seem to recall you posted a picture of him......he looked pretty young, maybe even still a kitten (close to being adult).

 

Had he "seemed" sick to your knowledge?

 

Seems strange to me that you had no idea he was sick, and that one day you come home and your Mom tells you he's sick in the hospital, has cancer and is going to be put down.

 

Wasn't it you whose Dad wasn't crazy about you having a cat in the first place, and you had to beg him to get Spooky? Or am I thinking of someone else?

 

Cats don't usually get horribly sick "overnight"......so had he been eating and drinking and playing and being his usual self? Did you ever let him outside?

[Patty]

Unless I'm mistaken, wasn't your black cat Spooky a relatively "newer" cat? Didn't you get him within the past year? I seem to recall you posted a picture of him......he looked pretty young, maybe even still a kitten (close to being adult).

 

Had he "seemed" sick to your knowledge?

 

Seems strange to me that you had no idea he was sick, and that one day you come home and your Mom tells you he's sick in the hospital, has cancer and is going to be put down.

 

Wasn't it you whose Dad wasn't crazy about you having a cat in the first place, and you had to beg him to get Spooky? Or am I thinking of someone else?

 

Cats don't usually get horribly sick "overnight"......so had he been eating and drinking and playing and being his usual self? Did you ever let him outside?

 

No,we had Spooky for 14 years.Yes,your right,I did have an avatar of him.He was already adult.He probably had more fur on him in that pic.I tried to take it the pic of him and me on my webcam real fast,so I could fit the two of us in the avatar.I think he may of had his eyes closed,but he was an adult in that picture.

 

Yes,he looked tired all the time and I was beginning to think something was wrong.I kept asking my mother if he would be ok and she would keep saying he would be ok.

 

I just had come in the kitchen last night and asked her where he was and she says hes in the hospital.I'm like what?" What happened? And she says he has cancer and wasnt doing good,but they had to put him to sleep.Im still in a shock about the whole thing,like I feel like Im completely numb.Im still not over the shock yet.

 

Yes,he was eating normally and drinking.Yes,we let him out when the weather got warm.

 

My father had said after we had Spooky,no more pets.Spooky was a stray that my father had found at a campground in Connecticut.We decided to let the cat be a part of our family.We got him some food and stuff when we first found him cause he was so skinny.

 

 

Patty