Breakmail Posted March 25, 2004 Share Posted March 25, 2004 Guys, I need your help, I am now 17 yrs. old and I really need to at least have fun in our grad ball. It would be tom. During my past 2 years of being set-uped by a friend to go on a date, I rarely talked to them. I just don't know what to say. I'm always lost in what topic I should discuss. (ex. I ask, whatcha doin? they'll just respond nothing really.) How will I ever get to know them better if they themselves are shy. Women are really hard to understand =( This date of mine is a set up and I need to get to know her well before tom so that our grad won't consist of only, sitting, then eat then take a picture then good bye. No chatting. How boring. I'm open with my friends but to girls, I'm kinda shy. I don't know why really. Please not only give me advice, but can you also gimme some pick up lines or topics to discuss with that are not too cheesy, but common everyday words which I can talk to the girl so we can start to get to know each other. I'm begging of you guys, plzzzzz. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breakmail Posted March 25, 2004 Author Share Posted March 25, 2004 NO OFFENCE TO ANY OF THE POSTERS HERE, but I was reading and plz dont post suggestions for me like these http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t34765/ I know em already, it's just that I can't really say I like you or something to a girl that I havn't met. This would make me look like a loser, and everyone else too I'm sure. thx again btw I don't know anything about the girl and vise-versa, if I havn't said anything yet Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breakmail Posted March 25, 2004 Author Share Posted March 25, 2004 In our country, we usually use txting or mms to talk to each other. I just tried and texted her now, and so far, she has the most reply but only because I made a mistake in sending her a message i was supposed to send to my friend (real accident and I didn't fake it) But that's it for now. I still need advice cuz our graduation ball (with her) will take a long time and that short conversation u saw above took around 30mins to finish because we rarely respond meaning that I'm out of ideas on what to say. Plzzzzz help me out. Btw, just got lucky on her reply. I'm trying to prolong my mistake as long as I can to make sure she responds. and the topic widens, but as of now, I don't know what to say. Can anyone relate this mistake to anything so I can prolong and prolong and prolong our conversation. I would try and stop talking to her after maybe 2 hours, I'll tell her I'll be sleeping already because I have really no idea on what to say anymore Link to post Share on other sites
Renny_H Posted March 25, 2004 Share Posted March 25, 2004 Alright, listen up dude. You sound like you've just found girls. Fine. Being shy, you really shouldn’t go on dates until you’ve actually courted a girl during class or whatever. And if these girls are shy, why aren’t you taking control, asking them questions? Memorise some before you see them again. Find a common interest. Talk about school. Simple. It begins there, then grows. If they’re shy, they’ll be too busy thinking of a response, not judging how lame you sound. I was shy once, like you. Mainly I was timid around extroverted girls. Now I brush off the shy girls – they don’t appeal to me – and go for the popular, attractive ones. You know what makes the difference? Privacy. Take the girl away from your friends and the popular jocks, because no doubt you’re afraid they’re judging you with girls. How to prolong a conversation: JUST ASK HER QUESTIONS! Bring up a topic relative to you both. Rehearse some ideas, and stop panicking. Act cool, distracted. If you’re both nervous, it won’t work. You have to be strong and take control. She’ll so fully admire you for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breakmail Posted March 25, 2004 Author Share Posted March 25, 2004 Hehe, you can't solve one problem already, she's too scared to meet me too, so she's bringing a friend along with her too. You're right in one part though, I really want to be alone with her. It's easier to talk that way =( Did what you said about asking questions, doesn't work though because they really dont respond. I feel the same way about you too, I hate shy girls, it's hard to start a conversation that last with em. School is a good topic, but usually it doesn't last too long because our school is near each other, mine's an all boy adn their's is an all girl school. It's obvious to them that I know stuff from their school so school topic is out of the question. =( edited portion oh yeah, I'd also like to clarify the friend part. She is bringing her friend who would be dating my friend in our prom Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breakmail Posted March 26, 2004 Author Share Posted March 26, 2004 Can anyone just post lots of topics (specific if u can) on what I can talk to her about? I'll take it from there Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breakmail Posted March 27, 2004 Author Share Posted March 27, 2004 Well, got through first phase of meeting her. btw made a mistake, was supposed to be tomorrow night. We had a nice chat and I was only able to keep it interesting since it was just like a 5min meeting. She and her friend had to go somewhere else. Can anyone help me before our ball? Link to post Share on other sites
Renny_H Posted March 27, 2004 Share Posted March 27, 2004 Go to http://www.askmen.com. Go to the 'Dating and Love' side-link. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breakmail Posted March 30, 2004 Author Share Posted March 30, 2004 Ahh, another futile date, I talked to her until my throat hurts and she's only interested sometimes to give me and my throat a bit of a break. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breakmail Posted March 30, 2004 Author Share Posted March 30, 2004 might as well talk to her a bit more. maybe she would open up someday Link to post Share on other sites
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