PeachyPink Posted February 12, 2011 Share Posted February 12, 2011 Hi all, I've read on this on other forums about people dating others that have been serial cheaters or have been serial OP. This would raise a huge red flag for me. Can anyone provide some answers why a person would choose to have a relationship with someone who has a history of being unfaithful? Link to post Share on other sites
Quiet Storm Posted February 13, 2011 Share Posted February 13, 2011 A serial cheater is usually charming and convincing. They have a way of making you feel special, like you are the one that can make them stay faithful. I think everyone wants to believe they're "the one". In a woman's case, she is confident in her ability to make the "former" cheater never want another woman again (or so she hopes). Their love is special enough to kill his interest in others. In a man's case, he usually thinks he can save her, keep her from making bad desicions. A knight in shining armor. "She's only a bad girl 'cuz she don't have me". I think that serial cheaters are likely to repeat the behavior unless they really try to address the issues that cause them to serial cheat. Serial cheaters are often confict avoiders. Usually they have bad coping skills. Sometimes they just shouldn't be married. If they want a variety of partners, they should be honest with their spouse about it. Sometimes serial cheaters grow out of it when they get older, especially men as their testosterone levels drop. Link to post Share on other sites
Duckduckgoose Posted February 13, 2011 Share Posted February 13, 2011 QS nail on head. My dad's dad was a serial cheater. I didn't know this until after I had graduated college. He left my dad's mom several times, and always returned after he'd had his fun. The last time he did it, he returned, and promptly had several strokes. He was never the same, and died about 6 years later. I don't know if my grandma loved him at that point. She is still alive but doesn't talk about it. I have a set of half-relatives in Alaska that I know of for sure, as they sent us an Xmas card one year. There are probably more that I don't know about too. Don't mess with a serial cheater. They will probably only change when something really drastic happens... like with my grandfather. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PeachyPink Posted February 16, 2011 Author Share Posted February 16, 2011 Thanks for your replies. I think your thoughts are right on. Link to post Share on other sites
neveragain1 Posted February 16, 2011 Share Posted February 16, 2011 Hi all, I've read on this on other forums about people dating others that have been serial cheaters or have been serial OP. This would raise a huge red flag for me. Can anyone provide some answers why a person would choose to have a relationship with someone who has a history of being unfaithful? its the whole "bad boy" "bad girl" attraction. People are attracted to this type of person, then complain about them later when they get crapped on. Link to post Share on other sites
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