sadlad Posted March 25, 2004 Share Posted March 25, 2004 My girlfriend has been going through a period where she doesn't desire sex. However she told me to feel free to find other people to have sex with to curb my very large appitite for sex. She just doesn't want me to sneak around while doing it. Should i do this? Also looking for tips from the OW out there on how to go about this. Link to post Share on other sites
Stone Posted March 25, 2004 Share Posted March 25, 2004 that's crazy, I bet if you did it your relationship would be in great danger. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted March 25, 2004 Share Posted March 25, 2004 Why don't you just break up with her and find a normal girl with a healthy sexual appetite?????? Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted March 26, 2004 Share Posted March 26, 2004 Dude, do NOT do this. Link to post Share on other sites
befuddled11 Posted March 26, 2004 Share Posted March 26, 2004 It's definitely not a normal suggestion for a girlfriend to make.......one of giving her boyfriend permission and encouragement to go out and boink other chicks. What's going on here? Why do you think your girlfriend is going through a period of not wanting sex? Is she depressed? Health problems? Just have a baby? Afraid of getting pregnant? There's GOT to be a reason. Have you taken the time to try and talk with her about the possible reason? Does she not EVER want sex with you? Or just not as often as you do? How long has it been since you 2 had sex? Do you love her? Because if you do, you wouldn't even consider going out and screwing other chicks, that's just rude and disrespectful, and a good way to catch a disease. Sometimes people just go through times in their life where they're stressed or overworked and tired or feeling down about things, and they don't feel sexy or into sex. That's just part of being in a relationship....but you don't solve things by going out and sleeping around, even if you DO have her permission. Maybe she feels pressured by you......because you're always begging her for sex and making her feel bad because her sex drive isn't what yours is...so in a moment of sheer exhaustion and not wanting to lose you, she felt pressured to tell you to go out and do this. Why would you remain in a relationship with someone, if you feel the need to get sex outside of the relationship? It's all pretty bizarre. What are your ages? How long have you been together??? Link to post Share on other sites
sportsloving Posted March 26, 2004 Share Posted March 26, 2004 I can not even begin to imagine telling someone that I care for "Gee, Dear, I love you but not wanting to have any sexual relation with you.... so go forth and find ye a young chickie to have a fling with???" Holy Buckets... what the hell happened just now? Is having a sexual relationship that important to you that you would actually consider this? If so, break it off with her and get ya a new, brighter, shinier, and more sexually driven one. Link to post Share on other sites
dkopp Posted March 26, 2004 Share Posted March 26, 2004 Maybe she is the one who is messing around. Think about it - she does not want sex from you and doesn't mind if you go elsewhere. That is very unusual. What a perfect way to redirect the spotlight on what she might be doing behind closed doors than to give you permission to do the same. Sorry if this sounds abrasive, there just seems to be more to this than what appears on the surface. Link to post Share on other sites
starshine Posted March 29, 2004 Share Posted March 29, 2004 The fact that she would verbalize the words "go out and find someone who can satisfy your needs" would be more than a red flag. Actually the red flag would come at the third time she say "no" to your advances. This is not normal, nor should you let these words escape her lips without action on your part. 1) Sit her down 2) Look her straight in the eye 3) Ask her what is going on 4) Demand the truth as she sees it. Then you will know why she said this. This is something someone would say when they are at the very end of their emotional ties with someone. It has now reached a platonic state, if it wasn't all along. Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted March 29, 2004 Share Posted March 29, 2004 Would you really feel comfortable having sex with other women with your gf's approval? You don't sound all that certain about it. If you guys are going to have an open relationship, you have to realize she might decide to have sex or have emotional relationships with other men. If you don't want to do this, and you want to stay with your girlfriend, tell her you're not interested, and go get some porn. Link to post Share on other sites
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