lastresort Posted February 13, 2011 Share Posted February 13, 2011 Today my wife, who moved out 3 weeks ago, told me that i was being too nice to her. She said she wishes i would just yell at her and tell her what a mistake she was making. Of course i asked if that would make her come home, and she said no. What are your thoughts on "being too nice." i am just at the point she's gone and no point in fighting her anymore so I am just being civil for the kids sake and if we can get along maybe the lawyers wont get rich off of us and we can settle our differences. Link to post Share on other sites
loveforever Posted February 13, 2011 Share Posted February 13, 2011 Today my wife, who moved out 3 weeks ago, told me that i was being too nice to her. She said she wishes i would just yell at her and tell her what a mistake she was making. Of course i asked if that would make her come home, and she said no. What are your thoughts on "being too nice." i am just at the point she's gone and no point in fighting her anymore so I am just being civil for the kids sake and if we can get along maybe the lawyers wont get rich off of us and we can settle our differences. I think she's saying that to make herself feel better....it's better to think of you as an a@@hole instead of this sweet guy she's done wrong..... I'm sorry you're going through this .... I don't know what to tell you other than do a 180..... ***hugs*** Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 13, 2011 Share Posted February 13, 2011 File for divorce and get a vicious lawyer. If she wants mean then give it to her. Link to post Share on other sites
lattp Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 no ofense, but that just means shes a b**ch. becasue you love her and she moved out because your to nice? thats not right. if you she leaves you, her lost, youll find someone dont worry buddy Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 . Of course i asked if that would make her come home, and she said no. What are your thoughts on "being too nice." i am just at the point she's gone and no point in fighting her anymore so I am just being civil for the kids sake and if we can get along maybe the lawyers wont get rich off of us and we can settle our differences. Quite honestly being too nice is what gets most of us guys here in the first place. Women like a challenge, you need to stand up to her without being a jerk. ie calmly and firmly Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 Today my wife, who moved out 3 weeks ago, told me that i was being too nice to her. She said she wishes i would just yell at her and tell her what a mistake she was making. Of course i asked if that would make her come home, and she said no. What are your thoughts on "being too nice." i am just at the point she's gone and no point in fighting her anymore so I am just being civil for the kids sake and if we can get along maybe the lawyers wont get rich off of us and we can settle our differences. Yelling = words. Actions speak much, much louder than words. She wants to cake eat, ie use you as a babysitter, to kill mosquitoes lol. When she calls you and says "lastresort , can I leave the kids with you? Your response " I'd love to, but I'm just on my way out bye" phone down. You need to be polite but firm with her, giving off the impression that you have a really busy life. Go out in mixed groups, meet new people (I don't mean cheat). Do not answer her calls or texts. Let her wonder about you for a change. Her plan is for lastresort to be at home moping after her sorry a$$, when she sees that you are doing great without her, she will come sniffing around. Take this advice from someone who has turned their situation around... Link to post Share on other sites
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