lostdad Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 Hello, My wife and I just completed a separation agreement using an online service (we wanted to keep lawyers out of it). What do we do with the agreement now (we live in NY)? There are places at the bottom for witnesses, and 2 places for a notary public. We decided we would get it notarized. Are the witnesses required? Do we mail this somewhere now that it's done? Any info would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance. Link to post Share on other sites
Doing it Since '78 Posted February 15, 2011 Share Posted February 15, 2011 (edited) Hello, My wife and I just completed a separation agreement using an online service (we wanted to keep lawyers out of it). Good Move- What do we do with the agreement now (we live in NY)? Get that $hit Notarized ASAP! I got lucky that my stbxw mother was our witness- No way for her to claim coercion There are places at the bottom for witnesses, and 2 places for a notary public. We decided we would get it notarized. Get it Notarized yesterday, before she either gets lawyered up, or starts talking with toxic friends or starts getting greedy Are the witnesses required? Yes, and preferably someone either extremely neutral or one of her family members if possible (IMO) - It kills any attempts at her accusing you of coercing her into doing something she didn't want to- the easiest person (s) to get to sign with you more than likely are your family members, but be careful she can always state that she was forced, etc- at the very least it will impede the divorce process if she goes that route, at worst the judge/master can throw the agreement out-which means you now have to attempt to create a new sep. agreement after she is lawyered up, greedy as $hit, and is thinking about her future (maybe) Do we mail this somewhere now that it's done? No take it into the courthouse and enter it into your divorce petition, this will be the bible as to what will happen at the end of your separation period (if required in NY)- This agreement will be what happens when you get divorced, choose the way you state things wisely- once it is signed, it will take hell to get it reversed, make sure whatever you want is expictly stated, however be wise to not argue over small $hit, apart from your wife, write up a list of what you can live with and what you can't- Also just a word of advice divorce is a $hitty process, DO NOT TRUST THAT SHE WILL DO WHAT SHE SAYS, THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS IS WHAT IS WRITTEN DOWN ON PAPER- Matter of fact if you are sharing anything I am telling you with your wife STOP NOW!- The only thing should matter to you at this point is WINNING the best settlement for you that you can muster Any info would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance. Responses in bold Edited February 15, 2011 by Doing it Since '78 Link to post Share on other sites
Author lostdad Posted February 15, 2011 Author Share Posted February 15, 2011 Thanks. I've got the agreement heavily in my favor at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
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