inlimbofosho Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 (edited) hi guys, im 20 right now and about a year and a half ago my girlfriend cheated on me with my brother. she told me about it after we were together for 6 months and when she did they both decided to get into a relationship which lasted for about a month. i dont talk to her ever and i dont think i will until i die but unfortunately she is always around. we were friends with the same people when we were together and all my friends continue to hang out with her. even so far as if i want to go to a party that she is at my friends will tell me she is there so i shouldnt come. my brother and i will never be the same again(we were best friends for our whole lives until this happened) i didnt ever think about looking online for help but i feel dead every day and searched on google for advice and it led me here obviously. i cant ever talk to my brother about girls or anything now because there is a constant tension in the air between us and i dont see that ever going away. i want to find a new girlfriend but i feel like i dont have feelings anymore and like i dont even care about anything. i have gotten into hobbies like working out and MMA but there is no replacing a brother or a girl. i dont expect any of you to be able to help me but i thought id try at least. i dont know why i this was put on me because i never did a thing wrong to anyone that would make me deserve this. i know its the kind of thing that will affect me forever. i know i cant do anything about what happened but i cant waste my life on this and i dont know how to get around it. i went to a therapist and nothing really came of it. Edited February 14, 2011 by inlimbofosho Link to post Share on other sites
ShatteredReality Posted February 15, 2011 Share Posted February 15, 2011 I think time will eventually help things with you and your brother. Has he ever apologized? And as for her...no contact would be the best way - but then it sounds like you've already put that into play the best you're able. When it comes to hanging out with friends...well if you're going to continue to have mutual friends eventually you'll need to be able to be civil with her in order to be in the same place at the same time with the same people. Mostly you seem to be venting - so I am not sure I can offer "advice". Just know that time does help...don't rush into any new relationships...but look on here - lot's of ppl have been through a lot of the same things you're talking about. Maybe see some of the other threads and the advice on those? Link to post Share on other sites
whammy Posted February 16, 2011 Share Posted February 16, 2011 brother or not...bad people are bad people. It takes a certain kind of man to F his brother's girlfriend. I would forgive him but I wouldn't be in his life anymore. I would just treat him the same way you treat your second cousin that you only see on Christmas and Thanksgiving...be nice, say hi and keep it moving. same thing with her...expect I would definitely start treating her as a booty call if i see her at parties all the time. treat her as a sex object with no respect for at all. there is a quote in some Italian-american gangster movie ( forgot which one). well a guy owes another guy $50 or so and the guy that owes keeps ducking the guy he owes money to. The guy that is owed the money is getting pissed finally one of his friends says something like..."it was worth it, it only cost you $50 to get that scumbag out of your life." it was something like that...you get my point. well you paid a higher price...but atleast two scumbags are out of your life. Link to post Share on other sites
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