RazedUp505 Posted March 26, 2004 Share Posted March 26, 2004 Theres this girl at my college who I kind of like. Ive know her since high school and I asked her out to lunch one day and she seemed really excited. I went back to where I worked in the campus and she never showed up. About a week went by and I saw her where I worked. I ignored her for standing me up but she came up to me and told me she owed me a lunch. She said her boss made her stay later than expected, but what bugs me is that she didn't call my work to let me know. She gave me a hug and when I asked her if she still wanted to go she said yes, and that she would catch me where I work(tutoring center). Do you think she is really interested or just feeling guilty for standing me up, or me ignoring her? She is really cool and I couldnt stay mad at her. Some advice from the ladies would really help because I have a REALLY hard time understanding yall sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted March 26, 2004 Share Posted March 26, 2004 I doubt she is pulling your chain, if she was she wouldnt have come back and tell you that she owed you a lunch. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RazedUp505 Posted March 26, 2004 Author Share Posted March 26, 2004 Thats the thing man she wasnt there to see me, it just happened I was there. I think she might be interested because its a big center and I was staying away from her; I was hurt, but SHE CAME UP TO ME. How cool is that. I hope she's serious man because I really could see myself dating this terrific girl! I wish I would have gotten her phone number, oh well I can wait until Monday. I don't want to sound too desperate. Link to post Share on other sites
priscilla Posted March 26, 2004 Share Posted March 26, 2004 I think she is interested by her coming back. If she wasn't, she would have avoided you. I think you should get her phone number and set something up, but if she stands you up again, I would forget about her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RazedUp505 Posted March 30, 2004 Author Share Posted March 30, 2004 So today I managed to get her number off of her. I asked her if she was busy tonight and she said she had dinner plans with her mom. I think she thinks I am interested in going to just lunch or dinner with her. The truth is, I don't care where we go, just as long as I get to spend time with her. Should I call her tonight and ask her if she wants to go somewhere, anywhere,or would I sound too desperate? Link to post Share on other sites
Regulus Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 I know you asked for advice from the ladies on this one, but I couldn't resist... You've asked her once, she didn't show. Not calling is a little rude, but maybe she was swamped. It happens. You asked her another time, and she didn't counter with another possible date. Wait at least a week and then ask her out to lunch and keep it simple. At this point, dinner is not worth the expense. Lunch is even a stretch for me since I'm not getting good vibes here. Better to start with a cup of coffee and see how that goes. Coffee shops are the best. Cheap, relaxing, and you can focus on the person versus eating. Don't ever ask a women where she wants to go in the beginning. Take control. Set the date, time, and place. If she backs out for any reason this time (besides a death in the family or an alien invasion), flush the number and don't look back. People who are interested don't break dates. If they do, there is always a counter offer. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 ooo..i'm sorry to say i think this is chain-pulling. (having pulled a few chains once upon a time, this sounds a little familiar to me ). i think she probably was interested, but not interested enough to inconvenience herself. she is not a good bet right now; move on. pulling your chain is not a rejection, it just means she may not be sure what she wants. Link to post Share on other sites
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