Why is there no empathy for bitter men?

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Personally UF, I'll prolly ignore it. Why would I care what someone who turns a blind eye to trashy hatemongers finds in threads where women are not being encouraged to model the OP's behavior or told how all men deserve to be mistreated? All it says to me is you want women hen pecked while also finding threads advocating the mistreatment of them entertaining and valuable. That's where my empathy dries up. I have empathy for people who respect humanity, not just their own gender. People who only respect their own gender is PART OF THE PROBLEM. Without them we'd have better relations entirely.

 

This is true but the problem exists with both genders. Women have done their part to draw the line in the sand as well.

 

I would actually respect blatant misandry much more than subtle contempt for men. If somebody hates me than lay all the cards on the table. I have respect for people who come right and say exactly what is on their mind. Valerie Solanas is my favorite misandrist because there is no guess how she really felt about men.

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Just had another thought about the empathy topic. UF, you're right. I did give OG a lot of my attention. But there's a reason. She opened up about her issues. She would discuss them (to some extent). She talked about her life and what was happening in it.

 

When you look at how the "bitter men" post on here, you will notice one constant: few actually talk about themselves.

 

It's much harder to go into the kind of detailed analysis I could indulge in with OG when all I've got to go on is: "Women are such drama queens! Men, don't put up with their bull****", or "Women like jerks. This women posted this on an LS thread back in april 2007 which proves all women love jerks". Or "it's been 7 years since I've gotten a date. Women suck". Often I've asked those guys if they wanted to talk about their experiences trying to get dates, only to be ignored or laughed at.

 

Final analysis: perhaps the sense of lack of empathy stems from the fact these posters do not actually allow themselves to be vulnerable on these boards. It's easier to help someone when they open up. Otherwise, all one can do is remain at the surface of issues.

 

 

This is true. I can say that most women on here have been very supportive and have been my biggest cheerleaders when I do seem to be getting my crap together. It actually helps me not to see things in a men vs women context. It's why I do love reading those happy relationship threads.

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Actually... I'm in that thread a bit. I feel that I'm being very nice and helpful. However I'm not ignoring her culpability in this as the others are. For the primary reason that she has to find a way to deal with the guilt. She clearly isn't like the other OW posters who see all people except their precious MM as pawns to be sacrificed.

Yes, I noticed you there, but I still don't see anyone treating her like a victim. If so, then she's merely a victim of her own behavior. But it was made to sound as if all the women were saying stuff like, "Oh, you poor thing. No WONDER you had to cheat on him!"

 

No one had said anything even remotely CLOSE to that.