Looks truley dont matter..

[motherlover]

i am the perfect example of this phrase.

 

i don't want to come off cocky or arrogent, but i think im a good looking guy, and a lot of my female friends think so too.

And i'm a firm believer that beauty gets attention, but personality captures the heart.

I am always asked why i never have a girlfriend.

I can never get passed 2 or 3 dates, most of the time i cant even get the date, i get numbers easy, but cant carry a conversations, i have absolutley nothing more to say than "hi, what's your name?" how are you" or even conversations through text.

Im a late bloomer if you will, i was very skinny in high school, and had acne from 14 to 22. i use to have very bad social anxiety, and worried what people thought of me, and had no confidence,

 

ive grown out of being a social outcast, and the confidence has grown, but there are still some side effect that still lurk about.

 

 

so mentally i'm still kinda that kid that was real skinny with acne, but have grown into a decent looking man. i still have self asteem issuses, that are easily disturbed, and everytime i get blown off, it's making me closer to giving up all together.

 

i feel like if every guy in the world looked the exact same, therfore making the girls go strickly for personality, i would be the last guy with a date.

 

And the truth is, it is simple. i am boring and quiet. i'm not shy, i just don't know what to say..

 

 

and as far as boring, i have never been a leader, always a follower, when hanging with friends, i always just go along with what's going on. so i have a hard time making plans, and keepind dates entertained.

 

So is there any hope for guys like me? you always here girl say, talk about boring dates, they obviously never go on another date. which i don't blame them. i wouldnt want a boring girl in return, but is this a charicteristic that can change with time? or am i doomed to be a boring guy? i have a friend who is rather ugly, and short haha, but he is the life of the party, and can talk for hours. he get's more girls in a month than i will have in a life time.. just wish i had game..

[NoMagicBullet]

I'm not sure how you come across to a date, but being able to converse about a range of topics is important. But it's not just about talking about things -- it's really about getting to know someone. Ask questions about the other person, find out what you have in common with them and try discuss things that interest both of you. Hopefully you are meeting people that you do have some common interests with -- this is one of the reasons why common dating advice includes getting out to meet people doing things you like to do. There's no shortcut when it comes to conversation -- you just get better the more practice you get. Try talking to both men and women in non-dating situations to get more practice.

 

Just going with the flow and not making plans -- that's killing your chances with women! It's not just boring to be with someone who never makes plans; in a one-to-one situation like a date, it's irritating, especially for the girl to be the one doing all the planning. A guy who doesn't make an effort to plan a date appears to have lack of interest. It sounds like you don't need game so much as you need to be able to ask a girl out, plan a date and follow through on it.