Is my ex girlfriend in a rebound relationship?

[2011]

I kind of suspected my ex was seeing some other guy or had wanted to try him out and she went flaky on me, she said it was an old friend she knew for years and they always hung out and she kept mentiinging him and what they were doing, going to cinema, runs here and there etc, but he only joined her FB about 3 months earlier and it said on his profile single and looking for girls even though she said he had a GF lol!

 

She started flaking, putting me in FZ and I pulled the plug on it, see all she said might have been true, he might have only just got a FB and maybe did have a GF and just didn't update his status but I didn't want to take the chance you know, especially after her flaking and my gut feeling against her word - go figure.

 

Every time I asked her something (like tell me what's wrong) when we were in the rocky period she would lie and say nothing was wrong, so why would this be any different?

 

She has been angry with me ever since because she knew I figured it out, she wanted a merry go round of guys on the back burner and I wasn't going to be one of them.

 

She said she would never do that if she was going out with me, BUT if you can see the clue in the question, she said IF I was going out with you, but she wasn't it was only dating and by that time it was pretty much over anyway.

 

2011

Edited February 21, 2011 by 2011

[RomoGuy]

yikes, I don't know about being the whole friend thing superkid. Ide say if your not completely over her and still have feelings for her, it will hurt you.

 

My ex left me no choice, blocked me and all my friends on facebook and said we can't be friends immediately after the breakup and gave me a bunch of bogus reasons for breaking up after basically blaming me for everything when I didnt even do anything to begin with. So we have been NC since the breakup a month and a half ago.

 

Yesterday I find out shes dating some dude already and know its clear why she blocked me and all my friends on facebook, to try and cover her dirty footprints. This girl called me "perfect" everyday before the breakup. I'm not making excuses for her, but I do know she was very easily manipulated by her father, which was the only person I questioned in her family, everybody else loved me. And I do know that the guy she is dating knew her father. So I guess we will see how green the grass really is. Trust?.... haha, what trust? she has lost it all from me.. I just can't ever see her recovering from this in the future if she tried coming back.

[superkid]

yikes, I don't know about being the whole friend thing superkid. Ide say if your not completely over her and still have feelings for her, it will hurt you.

 

What I meant in being her "passive friend" is like tell her I want to be her friend

but not really be there. I'll maintain LC cause we work together anyways. If things go rough in her current relationship, at least she has me to turn to. When things don't turn out to well ill be there for her.

 

I really don't care if shes out with this guy. I don't wanna assume anything, but you know what I don't wanna play the blame game, we were both at fault for the relationship falling apart. I won't let any of this affect what I'm doing because I'm worried about me more than her. I'm only worried about her because of this guys' relationship history, but I guess shes gotta learn her lesson too right.

 

Only time will tell. Shes a great girl I would love to have her back and keep it that way.

 

"Sometimes it is true that the grass seems greener on the other side because we are too far to see the flaws whereas the grass under our feet are so near to us that we can see all the flaws on it. It will help us appreciate what is right in front of us, if we focus on the good points instead of the flaws"

[superkid]

you know what scrap that last post, cause you know why. F*CK HER!