I now know why so many wives don't want to have sex with their husbands

[IfiKnewThen]

no really i appreciate it. sometimes its hard to keep up with all the posts on LS. sometimes i have to start re-reading the beginning stories again for my recollection. hehe. it must be sometimers.

 

any we will wait to see how things are going with the hubby again, i guess. God willing things are still going better.

[Jennifer26]

So an update:

 

It's been two weeks since my husband started his new job, and a little longer since he began taking antidepressants. He still continues to be a much happier person.

 

Our sex life is still lacking, we've had sex once in three weeks.

 

He's come home from work on cloud nine all week. He absolutely loves his new job and shares stories about his day when he gets in the door. He's been spending more time playing with our boys, more time helping me with daily chores when he gets home, and has repeatedly told me how much he loves me and how important I am to him. I am starting to feel more affectionate towards him, but it's not 100% what it used to be. I think if this continues that my resentment I was feeling for so long will begin to melt away, and I will feel more in love with him.

 

It's hard to go from wanting a divorce, to being head over heels in love in a matter of weeks. I am hopeful that as time goes on and the change in him continues my feelings will return to what they once were.

[IfiKnewThen]

this is a wonderful update jen and i know what you mean about doing a 360 turn around with YOU feelings for him. this wont come overnight and WILL take time. but yes. you can melt if they are treating you right. that IS key and like i said for us female the mind is the biggest sex organ. if they aren't appealing to us mentally and turning us on through our heart and emotions, the physicality can easily go right out the window. stress and disrespect is a turn off.

 

so it takes time . you have to learn to trust him all over again. he has to show you he wont go back to his old ways and then you can find him more appealing. at least that's what i hope. this is what john gray keeps saying in all his books and we can only hope it works : ). but he did get the part right that a man needs to be respectful to us and not stressful and insensitive in order for us to be REALLY attracted to him and connect. good luck and thanks for the update:)

[giotto]

So an update:

 

It's hard to go from wanting a divorce, to being head over heels in love in a matter of weeks. I am hopeful that as time goes on and the change in him continues my feelings will return to what they once were.

 

Good luck, Jennifer, I've been in your position and I must say that I'm losing the battle. Love is not coming back.... but keep trying, though. It's important you give it a good shot...

[ShatteredReality]

It's hard to go from wanting a divorce, to being head over heels in love in a matter of weeks. I am hopeful that as time goes on and the change in him continues my feelings will return to what they once were.

 

Isn't that routine marriage madness? You love him / he drives you nuts / you can't live without him / why the heck did you marry this dolt / you're the luckiest girl in the world / if he doesn't pull that stick out of his @$$ he's going to be sitting on the street corner by weeks end....etc....or is that just how MY marriage works??

 

Glad to hear of the upturn! Hope it keeps up and hope you get to feel that giddy "in love" feeling for him again soon!