K.K. Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 Hi Confused! I don't really know if it's spite or not but I was just thinking that maybe you're feeling differently now. Like when you first heard the news, it probably shocked you so much and you started reminiscing about him but then when it sunk in that hey he's (your baby! Your world!) really getting married, that you might have come to terms with it and started even to see yourself as the 'past' with no right to intervene at all. That he's unfortunately.... someone else's now. ugh. You know... what if these people get married so suddenly afterwards because to them we were alllmosst everything but then when they meet this new person, that they're missing the relationship and us so much that they see this new person as 'the one' who doesn't have whatever flaw it is that we had that made them go away. Or it's out of SPITE!! THOSE BASTARDS!!!!!!!!! heehoo Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyLady13 Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 If he's not an angry type of person, it's not spite. My ex was angry 24/7 about anything and everything so he'd actually do something like that! The only people I know who jumped into a marriage found out that when you jump in fast, you jump out fast. The relationships shredded apart so fast. On the flipside, I met a guy about 10 years ago who (sneaky little...) didn't tell me he had a girlfriend, nevermind was engaged and his family already paid for the wedding! He called off the wedding. We were only friends but he thought there would be something more between us and when he found out I wasn't interested in him, he dropped the bomb on me, flipping out that his family hated him for calling off the wedding at the last minute. What a mess and what a surprise to me! He was so mad at me we weren't even friends after that. What I'm trying to say and it may be a bit devious but what if you got in touch with him and he turned around and called off the wedding just from hearing from you? The guy I knew must have not really wanted to get married and felt pressured by his family so it was a good thing we met. At least he didn't marry someone he didn't really want to marry. Your ex may be hoping someone stops him from making a big mistake. It's just a thought... Link to post Share on other sites
Duckduckgoose Posted February 27, 2011 Share Posted February 27, 2011 I mean, gonna be married after 4 months. WTF. Do they think that they can just erase us it by ruining their lives actually MARRYING somebody they have only known a short bit.? Certainly, this cannot be love. It's spite. It's thinking they can move on with a new pair of boobs. I just don't understand men. Hence, why I am now single. ok or wang in your situation. What takes off like a rocket crashes and burns. Link to post Share on other sites
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