Author scott123 Posted March 4, 2011 Author Share Posted March 4, 2011 Man I agree with you with the pictures too. It is VERY annoying that everywhere I went my ex would take pictures of us, what we ate, every step we took, etc. I always found it annoying too. One time we bumped into her ex of 3 years too and she dragged me over while she talked to him and I asked her afterwards why she did that and she said she wanted to show her ex how good she had it now and make him jealous. Unnecessary games some people play man. I didn't want any part of that. Yes man well I'm big into sports and exercise so I am starting to take my frustrations out that way and going to try to get at the gym more now too since I haven't gone in a while. and thats good man that you might get that job and get to move back home. I was with a different girl one time and moved out of state with her too and when we broke up I was lucky enough to be able to move back home and I was over her like nothing. Hopeefully the same will be true for you it is way easier getting over someone when you're in a different town/state. Good luck with your interview man. Link to post Share on other sites
z00m25 Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 yeah bro thanks i hope i get it, but yeah make sure you never show her your hurting at all and be happy all the time even when you really arn't. and at least shes been trying to contact you i didn't even get that lol. I would avoid drinking in large amounts for a while because youll feel awful the next day trust me. But i've been allowing myself to go nuts on fridays only lately and its not as bad now since alot of time has gone by. i know how it feels and half the time i dont even feel alive half the time but im doing my best to rebuild my confidence once again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author scott123 Posted March 4, 2011 Author Share Posted March 4, 2011 Yeah I don't know how she operates man I don't think she is like other girls. I would much rather if she didn't contact me. For example her friends are having a party for her tonight for her birthday and then going to the bar and she text me saying she hopes I can make it. I told her I'm not a friend and I wouldn't even know how to act and nothing good would come from it and she replies saying "You won't even come to my party this confirms my beliefs about you that you don't care." It is just headache after headache she'll text me saying she doesn't see me as a friend yet she won't say she sees me as anything more either and it's just ridiculous man I wish she would just leave me alone or do something to try and win me back atleast instead of just playing around. Yeah I don't want to drink too much I did it once too and I felt like crap the whole time and the whole next day, thought about her way more than normal. I am goign to try to rebuild mine too. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 I wonder if she expects you to be at her party tonight? Oh well.... You'll know soon enough. Have fun with the guys getting a few beers and wings! Link to post Share on other sites
Author scott123 Posted March 4, 2011 Author Share Posted March 4, 2011 Yup she does. She texted me this morning reminding me about it and I told her I couldn't and that it was pointless and that nothing good would come from it and she just said she was right all along and I never did love her and this confirms her thoughts. So I'm expecting this to be a night where I get a lo of texts sent to me from her accusing me of stuff and telling me how bad of a person I am etc. Hopefully it will go OK though, thanks Chi Town! Maybe leave my cell at home tonight. Link to post Share on other sites
z00m25 Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 just dont even bother responding if you dont want to talk to her, just do what i do and delete her number, if you get a text just delete it before you get a chance to read it. yeah its hard but worth it in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
Author scott123 Posted March 4, 2011 Author Share Posted March 4, 2011 (edited) Yeah I know, it's hard. The thing is if you read through my thread I did want things to work with her and she forced me to agree to break up basically she wants everything on her terms and every now and again she'll send me a message saying something that SOUNDS like she wants to be with me but she won't actually say it. Part of me does want to talk to her but it gets me no where. She wants me to do everything while she sits back. Or she tries to get me to get back with her on her terms and "forget" about the past and all the mistakes she's made and not change anything. So yea guess I can't force her to realize that she's missing out. I was stupid and replied when she told me off about not going to her party. Pissed me off when she said "Yeah this just proves that you don't love me and never did". I just said if she wanted to be with me she would #1) say it and #2) do somehing about it which she won't. I said that I don't owe her anything and I'm not giving her anything until she says she wants me, that I'm good for her, that there's nobody else she would rather have, and is willing to actually do something for me for once which she won't and are things that she won't say. She didn't reply to this and I regret having answered in the first place. To back up a bit....... when she said this morning that she hoped to see me tonight at her party I told her I wouldn't know how to act anyway so there's no point and I only know how to act like a boyfriend around her and I'm not looking for a friendship. She told me to go ahead and act like a boyfriend around her then. I don't know who says that?!??!! We don't even GO OUT. And she hasn't done anything to make me think she WANTS to go out with me. This combined with a previous booty call makes me pissed off. Oh she also said "if you do decide to come tonight don't ruin my night". Like seriously now??? God dam.. well I regret having answered, should have stuck to NC I just always feel a need to defend myself which is a weakness that I must have. Not going to let this ruin my night though. Edited March 4, 2011 by scott123 Link to post Share on other sites
z00m25 Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 yup i say strict NC from here on out. if she wants to get back together make it be on her and make her do the work, it sounds like you still want to get back with her but for now accept that its over and do your best to get on with your life, maybe try seeing other people, not to spite her but to boost your own confidence. get everything away from you that reminds you of her and when you think of her try thinking of something else, do math problems in your head or something i dont know haha. But if she really wants you back there should be nothing keeping her from you and hopefully she realizes that. I am no expert trust me but from all the posts ive read this sounds like the way to go. Im headin back home for the night and ill try to remember to recheck your post once i get back. good luck bro. Link to post Share on other sites
Author scott123 Posted March 4, 2011 Author Share Posted March 4, 2011 Yeah, she has A LOT of baggage though. And she has degraded me a billion times. So I don't really know. I liked how she was before, but maybe it's never going to go back to that point. She doesn't deserve me right now, but I'm still falling victim to her games. You have a good time home man I'd say it will help your situation too. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted March 9, 2011 Share Posted March 9, 2011 Wondering if you got those billion texts that night? Link to post Share on other sites
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