singlelife Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Just talked to some female friends. They keep losing out. They play hard to get like a man worth having is gonna stick around. It's funny how they try to bluff these guys then when they move on they feel like they have totally missed out. Maybe you shouldn't play SO hard to get then lmao.
Author singlelife Posted February 20, 2011 Author Posted February 20, 2011 And women don't act like you don't be pissed because YOU missed out
locnlove10 Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Coming from a woman. There are reasons why women play hard to get. dating is a game and it wouldn't be to much fun if it wasn't one. We like to hide our feelings from men but in all reality we like the hell out of you. We are use to guys making the first move and when you do we play hard to get to see how far we can get you. Some of us have been hurt before and we put a guard up to secure our feelings and heart and sometimes that can drive a man away. Some women have trust issues and if you are doing something to confirm you just want to sleep with her then she's definitely going to play hard to get. So...don't laugh just try and understand women a little more especially the one's that have been raped or abused.
Nexus One Posted February 20, 2011 Posted February 20, 2011 Just talked to some female friends. They keep losing out. They play hard to get like a man worth having is gonna stick around. It's funny how they try to bluff these guys then when they move on they feel like they have totally missed out. Maybe you shouldn't play SO hard to get then lmao. I think the reason is simple. If a girl/woman gives a guy the idea that she's not interested in him and in that way tries to play "hard to get", then that will be the idea that she'll give that guy. He will react accordingly. If you paint something blue, then don't expect people to see it as red.
Author singlelife Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 I think the reason is simple. If a girl/woman gives a guy the idea that she's not interested in him and in that way tries to play "hard to get", then that will be the idea that she'll give that guy. He will react accordingly. If you paint something blue, then don't expect people to see it as red. Exactly my point. If you act like you don't like him then why would you think he would risk being a stalker?
waynebrady Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Coming from a woman. There are reasons why women play hard to get. dating is a game and it wouldn't be to much fun if it wasn't one. We like to hide our feelings from men but in all reality we like the hell out of you. We are use to guys making the first move and when you do we play hard to get to see how far we can get you. Some of us have been hurt before and we put a guard up to secure our feelings and heart and sometimes that can drive a man away. Some women have trust issues and if you are doing something to confirm you just want to sleep with her then she's definitely going to play hard to get. So...don't laugh just try and understand women a little more especially the one's that have been raped or abused. Ok... Coming from a man. If a woman would play hard to get I'd move on, it's not my fault if she has been raped or abused, it's unfortunate and sad but I'll rather move on to a woman who won't play games. I don't see how it would be any fun to be with a woman who couldn't even admit or show that she likes you, but thats just me. Women who play hard to get aren't intrested anyway, as far as I'm concerned. You say dating is a game and it wouldn't be much fun if it wasn't, thats easy for a woman to say... Dating is easier for you... and yeah I can see why you enjoy playing games with men, it makes you feel good and it makes the guy feel bad. exactly what you want. I can also see why women enjoy hiding their feelings for their man, the bottom line is... women want the man to like them alot more than they like the man, women don't want their man to feel wanted or loved or appriciated.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Coming from a woman. There are reasons why women play hard to get. dating is a game and it wouldn't be to much fun if it wasn't one. We like to hide our feelings from men but in all reality we like the hell out of you. We are use to guys making the first move and when you do we play hard to get to see how far we can get you. Some of us have been hurt before and we put a guard up to secure our feelings and heart and sometimes that can drive a man away. Some women have trust issues and if you are doing something to confirm you just want to sleep with her then she's definitely going to play hard to get. So...don't laugh just try and understand women a little more especially the one's that have been raped or abused. And this is where I get confused. I'm pretty sure I've walked away from several women who were playing hard to get, not because I wasn't interested but because I just concluded they weren't interested. For someone like me who is quick to assume the worst, playing hard to get is not going to work. But then again, that might prove that I'm not much of a catch in the first place.
Author singlelife Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 Coming from a woman. There are reasons why women play hard to get. dating is a game and it wouldn't be to much fun if it wasn't one. We like to hide our feelings from men but in all reality we like the hell out of you. We are use to guys making the first move and when you do we play hard to get to see how far we can get you. Some of us have been hurt before and we put a guard up to secure our feelings and heart and sometimes that can drive a man away. Some women have trust issues and if you are doing something to confirm you just want to sleep with her then she's definitely going to play hard to get. So...don't laugh just try and understand women a little more especially the one's that have been raped or abused. I completely understand why women play hard to get but you do it so well you make guys move on.
locnlove10 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Wow...about the rape and abuse comment probably why you are single now but if you dig deeper and find that a woman was raped and abused then you would understand the trust issue. I personally don't play games if I'm interested you will know if I'm not you will know as well. It's not just a woman's game men do it to all the time so lets not make this a gender issue. You all play mind games, you cheat, you lie, and so much more just as women do the same. All I was trying to say was a woman has many reasons as to why they do it why don't you just ask instead of coming to a forum just ask the one who's playing hard to get. DUH
locnlove10 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Ok... Coming from a man. If a woman would play hard to get I'd move on, it's not my fault if she has been raped or abused, it's unfortunate and sad but I'll rather move on to a woman who won't play games. I don't see how it would be any fun to be with a woman who couldn't even admit or show that she likes you, but thats just me. Women who play hard to get aren't intrested anyway, as far as I'm concerned. You say dating is a game and it wouldn't be much fun if it wasn't, thats easy for a woman to say... Dating is easier for you... and yeah I can see why you enjoy playing games with men, it makes you feel good and it makes the guy feel bad. exactly what you want. I can also see why women enjoy hiding their feelings for their man, the bottom line is... women want the man to like them alot more than they like the man, women don't want their man to feel wanted or loved or appriciated. Don't direct your comment at me when you say you because you don't personally know me. I am happily single and like I said before I don't play games and I reveal my true feelings and personality i don't put on a front for nobody I am who I am if you don't like it oh well....Kick Rocks
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Don't direct your comment at me when you say you because you don't personally know me. I am happily single and like I said before I don't play games and I reveal my true feelings and personality i don't put on a front for nobody I am who I am if you don't like it oh well....Kick Rocks Kick rocks lol...South Florida?
hART Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I'm one of those that seems hard to get at times, but it isn't a conscious strategy to get men to like me. It is usually because I'm single and heartbroken. I don't worry about "missing out", because I've had a series of failed relationships. Some of us are really just busy and use a detached demeanor to prevent further heartbreak. To each her own.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 To the OP. Their's nothing wrong with playing hard to get. The woman just needs to give the man some positive feedback.
locnlove10 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Kick rocks lol...South Florida? LOL...You know it southern lady
Author singlelife Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 To the OP. Their's nothing wrong with playing hard to get. The woman just needs to give the man some positive feedback. Well that's the problem. obviously they aren't giving enough positive feedback. No dude would just roll out if he thinks a girl he likes wants him.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 LOL...You know it southern lady Figured. What part?
blind_otter Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I object! Sometimes I've been labeled as playing hard to get when I was merely trying to reject a glommer.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 I object! Sometimes I've been labeled as playing hard to get when I was merely trying to reject a glommer. Glommer?
blind_otter Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Glommer? A cling on. You know, calls you eight times the same day and gets upset if you don't respond to text messages within 20 minutes or less. I am not a pizza place. I'm not playing hard to get, I'm avoiding the 13 phone calls in 12 hours.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 A cling on. You know, calls you eight times the same day and gets upset if you don't respond to text messages within 20 minutes or less. I am not a pizza place. I'm not playing hard to get, I'm avoiding the 13 phone calls in 12 hours. Haha, oh yes! Those guys/girls! What's wrong with a pizza place? I like pizza.
Author singlelife Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 I'm one of those that seems hard to get at times, but it isn't a conscious strategy to get men to like me. It is usually because I'm single and heartbroken. I don't worry about "missing out", because I've had a series of failed relationships. Some of us are really just busy and use a detached demeanor to prevent further heartbreak. To each her own. You women sure do worry about missing out after he leaves you alone.
blind_otter Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Haha, oh yes! Those guys/girls! What's wrong with a pizza place? I like pizza. They are, unfortunately, one of the few places that guarantees a response to your query in 20 minutes or less. Where I live, at least. I am loathe to generalize to the rest of the developed world. In scotland you can't get an effing pizza delivered to save your life.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 They are, unfortunately, one of the few places that guarantees a response to your query in 20 minutes or less. Where I live, at least. I am loathe to generalize to the rest of the developed world. In scotland you can't get an effing pizza delivered to save your life. Lmao! Wow, I'll never go to Scotland now. What do the Scottish know about pizza anyways?! So is that the general rule of thumb now? A response within 20 minutes and you're a pepperoni faced cheese aroma ridden desperate wreck? Yikes lol.
blind_otter Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Lmao! Wow, I'll never go to Scotland now. What do the Scottish know about pizza anyways?! So is that the general rule of thumb now? A response within 20 minutes and you're a pepperoni faced cheese aroma ridden desperate wreck? Yikes lol. It's a sick, sad world, my friend. The scottish are only good at deep frying everything, even pizza. I was briefly engaged to a scottish man I guess about 6 years ago now. Also, what exactly is "hard to get"? I don't even know. You young whipper snappers.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 It's a sick, sad world, my friend. The scottish are only good at deep frying everything, even pizza. I was briefly engaged to a scottish man I guess about 6 years ago now. Also, what exactly is "hard to get"? I don't even know. You young whipper snappers. I guess when you're living in "the swamp" you wouldn't know eh? Lol. Hard to get is basically a woman who isn't easy to land. She could either be classy, or playing stupid games. Depends on the woman.
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