"My boyfriend or his best friend????!!!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!! PLEASE!!!!!"

[kaylabart182]

Hey everyone.. I am having the most complicated time right now in my relationship. I am in love with my bestfriend's brother.. and that's alright and everything.. i mean it was really weird at first.. but now she excepts it and that means a lot to me. But now i'm having a lot of trouble with him. We have had sex and I know that I love him. But I really like one of his bestfriends. I mean this guy that's I'm going out with (let's call him JP) is really nice. I am thinking that maybe he is too nice. He is against drinking and smoking and drugs and he's been the best influence on me. But now when we have sex it feels like there is something missing.. even when we are hanging out.. i know that there is something wrong. I would still love to be one of his best friends.. but i know that he will want me all or nothing. So i'm scared to end it. I like this guy (let's call him Bergy) He has ALWAYS been there for me and keeps hinting to me to break up with JP when I have problems with him. But I know that it's not that he wants to go out with me.. if anything Bergy would want to use me. He DOESN"T want to be in a realtionship. On Valentine's Day I gave Bergy a rose and he ever told me that he would never go out with me. So I have no idea what to do.. I'm scared that I'm going to screw up everything.

[zoezeroseven]

I can understand thinking someone is too nice. I've dated several guys who didn't cuss or smoke or anything, they even had sex with me conservatively...boring, even if the first part is being a "good" influence. Anyway, if you aren't feeling totally into JP, then break it off. It seems like you're choice is between Berg or JP. How about none of the above? If you aren't happy with JP, and Berg shot you down, try being single. Maybe the right guy will just fall into your lap...maybe.

Good Luck.