Woggle Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 I am not answering my mother's calls anymore but she left a message on my machine saying that my wife is not truly happy and that deep down no married woman is happy and they all envy her. I have heard other women making various comments like this. It really makes me wonder what my wife truly thinks of me. Can any married women on here say they are truly happy and would do it again if given the chance? Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 You know that this is my second time around and yes, I'm truly happy. H. is a wonderful man and we already have plans to get remarried on our tenth anniversary. Link to post Share on other sites
Alma Mobley Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 Why do you even listen to what your mother has to say? She is trying to disrupt your marriage. Don't let her do that. You know your wife -- do you think she is happy with you? I am married and I am happy. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 It really makes me wonder what my wife truly thinks of me. why don't you ask her? Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 Consider investing in call block so she can't leave any messages. No woman in her right might would envy your narcissistic, crazy mother. Link to post Share on other sites
Quiet Storm Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 I am happy. We have our ups and downs, like most marriages. After 20 years, I am still very attracted to him, I respect him and I feel loved by him. I love my life. Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 (edited) I think its just a matter of time before both people become unhappy to some degree... Marriage IMHO isnt natural. but your nmother does sound like she has her mptives Edited February 24, 2011 by StoneCold Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 I am not answering my mother's calls anymore but she left a message on my machine saying that my wife is not truly happy and that deep down no married woman is happy and they all envy her. I have heard other women making various comments like this. It really makes me wonder what my wife truly thinks of me. Can any married women on here say they are truly happy and would do it again if given the chance? 1)Your mom has 'upped' her game to get any type of reaction out of you. GOOD that you're still not answering her calls. 2)Even though you didn't pick up the phone, what she said has bugged you. Next time, DELETE message before listening to it. What's the point of listening to what the message is when you know it's going to piss you off and upset you, Woggle? I am happy. Most of the time. We rarely fight. We argue sometimes, but nothing out of the ordinary. Communication is good and he listens to me, supports me, as I do him..and is truly a kind man inside and out. He will bug me, piss me off and get under my skin, but those are fleeting moments that come and go. Nothing serious and infact, most of the time it's funny. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 It really makes me wonder what my wife truly thinks of me. Wogs, don't go there. Log off of LS for a week. Stop listening to your mom's phone messages, just delete so you don't have to hear her venom. Look at what she's said and how it's made you feel and react? You right now, are doubting your wife's love for you. Don't give your mom that power!!! Less than a week ago you were saying (again) how lucky you were to have a wife who is by your side, has your back and loves you. Have some faith and trust in the woman who said her vows to YOU. okay? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted February 24, 2011 Author Share Posted February 24, 2011 You are right. I really do sometimes feel that all married women secretly resent their husbands but I know that is just the paranoia talking. Honestly sometimes it just feels good to hear women gushing over the guys in their life because it lets me know we are not the only ones. I love those happy relationship threads because it reminds me that women actually are capable of loving men. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 It's really good you see this. And recognize that it's your own demons and ghosts that are making you feel doubtful. All you have to do is look at the sleeping face next to you in bed and know that she's there..For you, always. I bet there are some women who resent their husbands.. I bet there are men who resent their wives..But, I bet there are a hell of alot more happier couples than unhappy couples. It's better to see this half full rather than half empty. You really have come a long way. Even though you've been posting alot recently, the difference is, before it would get you down to the point of feeling so rotten for weeks on end. Now it seems you're venting and seeing alot of good stuff with the bad stuff instead of just bad. you handle it all better and are able to let go abit easier now too. Be proud of that hard work you've done on "you." PS your fart comment on that other thread the other day made me laugh! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted February 24, 2011 Author Share Posted February 24, 2011 At least the freakouts last a day at the most now. I also realize that bitter and miserable just tend to much louder and more vocal so it seems more common than it actually is. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 At least the freakouts last a day at the most now. Your coping skills are better now and you think things through more, as well as overall have a healthier way of dealing with stuff. All good stuff! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 At least the freakouts last a day at the most now. I also realize that bitter and miserable just tend to much louder and more vocal so it seems more common than it actually is. i think you need professional counseling woggle, some of your issues are beyond our reach Link to post Share on other sites
Stung Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 Well, what does your insane harpy mother mean by 'truly happy'? Nobody is 100% ecstatic 100% of the time. I'm married, and I'm in love with my husband, and I'm far happier with him than I would be without him. It's a great step to stop answering your toxic parent's calls. Next step: block her communication entirely. Don't even let her get as far as your answering machine. Link to post Share on other sites
Duckduckgoose Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 You are right. I really do sometimes feel that all married women secretly resent their husbands but I know that is just the paranoia talking. Honestly sometimes it just feels good to hear women gushing over the guys in their life because it lets me know we are not the only ones. I love those happy relationship threads because it reminds me that women actually are capable of loving men. All married women do not secretly resent their husbands. I didn't even resent mine up to the bitter end when he left. I just tried my best to make things work even though I was really up **** creek. And your mom... is ****ing crazy. No sane person says the kind of **** that comes out of her mouth. I am not going to gush about any guy in my life because I have yet to find one worth gushing about. I am not going to insult all the bad ones out there either. And yes, women are capable of loving men... just ask your wife Woggle. I just hope I can be one of the women who finds a wonderful man and can gush about him. With my personality probably not haha. I am a bit fiery. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 Well, what does your insane harpy mother mean by 'truly happy'? Nobody is 100% ecstatic 100% of the time. I'm married, and I'm in love with my husband, and I'm far happier with him than I would be without him. Same here. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 Can any married women on here say they are truly happy and would do it again if given the chance? I am truly happy. As you know, my H and I got M out of necessity - we wanted to be together, and so we had to get M in order to get residence in each other's country. That said, I'd do it again in a heartbeat. Link to post Share on other sites
woinlove Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 Can any married women on here say they are truly happy and would do it again if given the chance? Yes, I've been married 25 years, am truly happy, and would definitely do it again. It was one of the best decisions I ever made. Having children with my H was another one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted February 24, 2011 Author Share Posted February 24, 2011 This is very good to hear. A year ago I would have let this get to me for weeks but I am able to see sick she truly is. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 Can any married women on here say they are truly happy and would do it again if given the chance? I am truly happy and very in love with my husband Of course I would do it all over again. EDIT- Woogle cut off contact with your mom, change your number, do whatever it takes, she ruined you and she wants to ruin your marriage! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted February 24, 2011 Author Share Posted February 24, 2011 She didn't ruin me. She might have gave me a ton of baggage that is sometimes a struggle getting rid of but I will get rid of it eventually. Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 I'm glad you've gotten to a point where you can recognize that what people say when they are frustrated is usually voiced louder or more harshly than when they're happy. Even good marriages have unhappy moments. Its like a parents photo album of their kid growing up. Lots of happy pics from bdays or trips to the zoo, little league. But there is always a couple with the kid bawling over something. Marriages are like that. I love my husband to pieces, but he is also someone who can bring me down the most. The moment we become attached to someone so strongly, we begin to hold a little bit of fear inside over the idea of loosing them. They are also the person who knows you best, so anything they say in anger is going to hurt us more than if some stranger on the street said something crappy. Sadness and anger resonate with us more; make a larger impression on us than other emotions. Its why most of the films that get Best Picture of the Year are movies about conflict and sadness. Its also why we notice angry or unhappy relationships more - because we fear being in one. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 i truly am happy in my marriage! has it been hard at times? yes, but so is life. it's much easier to deal with all lifes difficulties when i have a partner in my corner, and i in his. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted February 24, 2011 Author Share Posted February 24, 2011 I don't even hate her or my ex anymore. The messages sound like the rantings of a mad woman. My ex is just a sad and pitiful person who ruined her life for god knows what reason. Link to post Share on other sites
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